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So I got an invite for a shower for baby #3...

schwenjlschwenjl
in Cincinnati Babies
I am not able to attend but included in the invite is "We hope to see your smiling face and feel your warm embrace. Yet if by chance you can't attend your gift by mail you can send", and then includes her address.  Baby #2 is a boy also and just turned two--what can she really be registered for? Can I decline without sending a gift?---It's a former co worker that I honestly haven't seen in about 6 months-should I just send some diapers? 
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Re: So I got an invite for a shower for baby #3...

  • cat81305cat81305 member
    OMG, I think you can decline without sending a gift.  I personally think that is rude.  I know the mother did not write it and it is supposed to be cute but sorry, it is just rude.  We did not even have a baby shower for baby #2 and it is the opposite sex.  UGH!  Good luck in what you decide.
    Our kids are 19mths apart and we LOVE it!!

    Married to my BFF on 8.13.05 (after dating 5 years)!

    DS born 2.14.08. DD born 9.30.09.

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  • alisonadaalisonada member
    Heck no - I can think of some circumstances in which I might give a gift or attend a shower for a 3rd baby, but this isn't one of them. If this is just a former co-worker and not someone you're really friends with, I would just ignore the invite because it sounds like a definite gift grab. If it's someone you still continue to see as a friend, I'd probably send a card and a $10 gift card or something very small.
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  • LoriZLoriZ
    Wow.  This woman would definitely not get a gift from me, especially if she had anything to do with the planning of this shower or the wording of the invite.  In fact, she might not ever hear from me again.  That's pretty bold of anyone, let alone former coworker you haven't seen in months.
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  • kel716kel716 member
    absolutely not.  I understood it for a coworker who had baby #3 10 years after baaby #2 and it was a complete surprise... but other than that, I'm not sure I understand why a shower is necessary.  I wouldn't get a gift, and I'd say 'sorry I can't make it."  The clincher for me is that you haven't even seen her in 6+ mos. 
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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007

    I have no words for this one...none.  Okay, I have a few words; but none of them are very nice.  Suffice it to say, I don't think that you should feel obligated to send a gift...IN ANY WAY!

    The nerve of some people...

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  • mrs.george2be04mrs.george2be04
    haha I think I know who you are talking about. A gift is absolutley not necessary.
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  • Meg41208Meg41208

    I think there are very few circumstances in which a baby shower is warranted for a second or later child, such as your house burns to the ground/ is leveled by a tornado/natural disaster.  If you have a second shower because you have a large gap between your children, fine, so long as the invitation is limited to close friends and family. Under no circumstances is it proper for you to throw your own shower. 

    This is a blatant gift grab on the part of the pregnant woman.  I would not attend or send a gift.

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  • adamsbabbleadamsbabble member

    I agree with everyone else.  It isn't necessary to send anything.

    Ava Caroline 8.27.07 I Charlotte Grace 5.18.09 I Lila Katherine 1.20.11

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  • KristenBtobeKristenBtobe member
    That may be one of the tackiest things I've ever heard.
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  • shawnsweetieshawnsweetie
    Um.... seriously... speechless!
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  • cops_wifecops_wife member

    I think you should send a card and write in it:

    I'm really surprised you had the gall
    To ask me for a gift at all.
    In any case, I can't attend.
    And this card is all I'll send.

     

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  • adamsbabbleadamsbabble member
    imagecops_wife:

    I think you should send a card and write in it:

    I'm really surprised you had the gall
    To ask me for a gift at all.
    In any case, I can't attend.
    And this card is all I'll send.

     

    LMAO!  That is hilarious!

    Ava Caroline 8.27.07 I Charlotte Grace 5.18.09 I Lila Katherine 1.20.11

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  • schwenjlschwenjl

    Cops wife! The poem is hilarious! I might just have to do it! I am definitely going to have to share that with everyone else at work tomorrow-maybe we can send it as a group.

    Jennifer, I am sure that you do know who it is, and I am surprised you didn't get an invite too, since you probably have seen her as often as I have. 


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  • escape1stescape1st
    I'd make a card out of construction paper w/ cops_wife's poem and include the pic of Hudson that is in your siggy...his expression is priceless for this situation!
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  • mrs.george2be04mrs.george2be04
    She friggin registered and everything!  People kill me!
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  • Lyons_in_2007Lyons_in_2007
    imagecops_wife:

    I think you should send a card and write in it:

    I'm really surprised you had the gall
    To ask me for a gift at all.
    In any case, I can't attend.
    And this card is all I'll send.

     

    I seriously just fell out of my chair, I am laughing so hard!!

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  • hav2runhav2run
    imagecops_wife:

    I think you should send a card and write in it:

    I'm really surprised you had the gall
    To ask me for a gift at all.
    In any case, I can't attend.
    And this card is all I'll send.

     

    Gigglesnort.  Wine out nose...TYVM.  I must save that for later use.  I would totally send that response in a card in this case.  TACKY.

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  • spradssprads
    LMAO
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  • AngRxAngRx
    wow! I have a close friend who registered for EVERYTHING for their second child. Their first isnt even 3 yet! They even posted a message on facebook telling everyone about it so they are expecting gifts. I think it is super RUDE!
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  • addsloveaddslove
    imagecops_wife:

    I think you should send a card and write in it:

    I'm really surprised you had the gall
    To ask me for a gift at all.
    In any case, I can't attend.
    And this card is all I'll send.

     

    awe.some.

    I was in BRU a couple days ago and saw a pregnant couple walking around with a registry gun...and their toddler.  I thought to myself "when did it become acceptable to register for your second child?"  And who knows, it could have been their third, fourth, fifth...I just don't get it.

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  • doodlebug914doodlebug914 member
    Seriously LMAO, Christy!!!
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  • punkrawkmom44punkrawkmom44

    I must say I did have a shower with Nolan (my 4th) but we seriously thought we were done with the baby biz and had given EVERYTHING 24month and under to my SIL and sister including all the gear, So we had NOTHING. Also I never had a shower for any of my other boys so my MIL told me I HAD TO have ONE and threw it for me. But no one was invited except family anyhow. LOL

     The little note is pretty odd though, I couldn't imagine having that on an invite?!

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