We told both sets of parents last night at DH's birthday dinner and they were soooo excited! Today my mom called and was like, so I know last night you said I couldn't tell anyone yet, when can I? And I told her we were waiting to tell other people until after the first tri and she was really kind of angry!
She was like, what?! I thought it would be a few days, not months! And I explained why we were waiting and she basically acted like we were being ridiculous. She even said, well maybe you shouldn't have told me yet then. She is not normally like this so I was very taken aback. Anyone else have this reaction from family?
Re: Anyone else's mom mad b/c you're waiting to tell?
We are still ttc but DH and I have agreed to wait until the end of the first tri (or as long as possible) to tell anyone. I've told my Mom that and she got a little irritated with me b/c she wants to know ASAP and doesn't understand why she should have to wait like everyone else. Who knows what we will really do but I think I would just be a little timid to tell too many people so early. I can see where this is going to be a really hard decision.
Congratulations to you ... H&H 9 months!
Ha! I just had an arguement tonight about this with my mom. We have our NT scan on Friday and she wants to be able to tell her friends that day. I want to make sure that I get the chance to tell some other people before she gets to them. I am asking her to just wait a few days and she is annoyed!
Your baby, your body, your news.
Tell her to respect that you are an adult, and are making the decisions. She just needs to live with it.
That's why we didn't tell anyone. Once one person knows, then everyone knows (parents are the worst..at least mine are). Cat's out of the bag now.... I couldn't make them keep a secret like that.
ohh, I'm sorry - lame. I didn't have that problem (haven't told my fam about this pg yet) but with my 1st pg my mom flipped out because DH and I wanted to attend our big u/s and find out the sex just the two of us. She was so mad she couldn't be there like it was her right (my mom and I are not even close) - she holds it over my head and tries to whine about it every chance she gets.
I hope your mom is just having trouble holding her excitement and apologizes for getting angry with you!
We told our parents pretty early on with our second PG. and we waited until we saw a HB at 7 weeks to let her tell people but she was begging me everyday to let her tell people. I told her she could but if anything happened, she would have to untell people.
Well, since we lost that pregnancy and she had to untell people, I think she gets why we want to wait to tell people.
We still haven't told our parents this time around yet.
I think this would call for a "Mom, I know you're excited but please don't make me feel guilty for asking you to wait. Lets have this be a happy time for everyone."
But I also don't have a problem telling people I have a problem with them. The direct approach seems to work for me.
I suggest an honest approach in whatever way you feel most comfortable addressing it.
BFP #2 7/13/2011 ~ EDD 3/16/2012 ~Aubree Olivia (9lbs 1oz, 21 inches) 3/15/2012 VBAC (39w6d)
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I bet she won't be able to hold on to the secret as long as you want her too. This is why we are not telling our parents until we want everyone to know. Our mothers are horrible secret keepers. Plus, we didn't really feel like it was fair to make them wait to tell.
Good luck. It's a tough one.
Yes! My mom calls me every couple of days to ask when she can tell other people. I told her we just want to be sure that everything is okay....She says that she had two children and she told everyone right away and that everything was fine...
Arggg....we haven't got into s fight about it yet. But I'm a little concerned about our first ultrasound appointment tomorrow. I know it's going to start again...