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2nd Trimester
aaronica
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natural child birth?
aaronica
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anyone considering an all natural child birth?
i'm definitely going the natural route but most people seem to look at me like i'm crazy...
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Re: natural child birth?
I'm going to give it a go...
I had a natural child birth with my daughter, and plan to do it again.
My daughter's birth was the most amazing, empowering experience of my life, and I'm really excited to go through it again.
People do look at me like I'm crazy. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I simply avoided talking about it as much as possible. I didn't need those negative vibes. Now that I've been through it and I'm more confident in myself, I don't care what other people have to say about it. I know I want to do it, and I CAN do it.
Mommy to DD1 (June 2007), DS (January 2010), DD2 (July 2012), and The Next One (EDD 3/31/2015)
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I do admire women who can go naturally. Really, I do. It's just not for me.?
I will be going naturally and if my DH relents, we'll be delivering at a birthing center.
I have intentionally avoided conversations with others about their birth experiences. Most of them have not had the active birth experience that I want and will try to create for myself. I tune out horror stories or try to politely cut them off. No need for that in my head.
I'm going all natural. I'm not just trying, I'm doing it. I cannot have an epidural this time around so no matter what I cannot give in at the last minute and beg for one...well I can, but I still can't get it. And, unless I get to 42 weeks, I am not being induced either.
People look at me like I am from another planet when I tell them this. Then I get all sorts of questions like "Why on Earth would you want to do that??" I hate getting into the nitty gritty of why I cannot have an epidural or why inducing labor for me is not a good idea so I try and leave it at "just because", but people are just not satisfied with "just because". So I've just started avoiding the topic all together. Plus, I just don't really want to think about it all that much. I know how much it's going to hurt. I know how miserable I am going to be. But I also know that in the end I will forget all about that and just be grateful that I can hold my baby and know that it was all worth it. (Unfortunately I do remember how much it hurt...last time I was in labor for 23 hours and pushed for 4.)
I'm strongly considering natural, a la Bradley method.
I ended up needing an epidural with DS1 because I stopped dilating after 24 hrs. With DS2, I opted for an intrathecal if needed but they started giving it as he was coming out. (The nurse lied about checking me.) With DS3 I made it through without drugs but was only in labor 8hrs total so I didn't have a large window even if I'd wanted it.
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I'm planning to go natural, but if I have to be induced, I will get an epi. I would like to labor for as long as possible on my own, so I can move and eat and drink.
I'm not going to be dogmatic about going natural, but I'm going to do it as best as I can. If I decide that I need an epi, I will get one, if not, I won't.
This will be my second Bradley birth and I am excited about it. It is indeed empowering and amazing all at once. I was in awe for months over how my body worked to do that all by itself. I still am when I reflect on it. There's virtually no recovery time either. You just feel really sore like you worked out alot.
I'm also hiring a doula.
I did for my first pregnancy and wouldn't have had it any other way. You can totally do it! Just do your research (Ina May's book is wonderful), take a class if you can, and think positively. I think not second-guessing myself and *knowing* that I could do it was a huge part of my "success" (Maybe not the best word, but I hope you get it). Also... other people's negative reactions and comments ("Oh, just you wait," etc) really pushed me even harder.
I was planning on going naturally again with this pregnancy, but we just found out we're having twins. That changes my perspective on things a little, and so I'm not so sure what I will do this time around.
To each their own...if you'd like a natural birth, go for it. The only word of advice I have is go in with an open mind. With DD #1, I had my mind set on what I wanted and how, and things went awry, and it was tough for me to mentally prepare for situations that I thought would never happen. So, go in with a plan, but know that things can happen that are beyond your control and you could very well change your mind.
More power to you though
I personally think it's all in how you take pain. I had my first baby natural and yes i'm doing it again. I also had people think I was crazy or some type of superwoman, but no again it's how you take pain. Guess those of us that have done it or want to do the natural thing can take pain. LOL!
It really is a wonderful experience. Only if you don't have big head babies.....ouch. The stitches hurt more than the birth.