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I know I am a bad person... (long)
but I am dreading my baby showers. I was really excited about them till DH's family decided to have one too. Now MIL is invited to both of them. I hate her... she wants us to put the baby up for adoption and says she doesn't want him. I know many of you will say if that is her attitude maybe she won't come but I couldn't get that lucky! She will come & spend at least 200 dollars at each shower just to show off. ( I know because we got married last year and privatly she told DH that I had a mental ilness not to marry me but did this at the bridal showers)
She also ruined all of my bridal showers she was invited too. One shower she made really rude and mean comments to the hostess about breast feeding her disabled infant. At another she told all of the guests that I had turned into bridzilla and picked out the ugliest bridesmaids dresses and was making her daughter wear one (yeah her daughter picked the dress out, I really didn't even like their dresses but I didn't care).
I wish I weren't even having baby showers now. I have been so depressed for the last few days because of this. I know this is stupid but this woman is the biggest b*tch I have ever met and being around her does this to me.
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Re: I know I am a bad person... (long)
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
Name change alert: Formerly Lisswastaken
Is there any way you could NOT invite her? I would cut ties and just keep her out of it...what a horrible woman!
Sorry you're having to go through this!
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Take a deep breath! Your DH needs to take a stand where she is concerned. If anyone sounds like they have a mental illness it is your MIL. I would diagnose her as Borderline Personality D/O.
Tell your MIL that you do not want a baby shower from her family. One is enough. Especially at this stage in the game. You are tired and don't need to be entertaining so many people..
Just remember, that her BIGGEST punishment in life is being herself. It must suck, huh? She is a miserable person that gets joy from hurting others..
I would just smile and nod anytime she speaks..
My MIL decided, without talking to me first, that she was going to throw a shower for me. I don't want one. I have 3 kids already. I do not have the energy between FT work, kids sports and being a wife in general to deal with this. I am pooped... She informed me that my shower would be on Sept. 20th. I explained to her that I work that night and the last thing I wanted to do was drive 40 miles to her house, do back home and then drive 30 miles to my work at 6pm. She was offeneded. Honestly, I don't care. She should have asked me first before planning it for her family.
Use your pregnancy as an excuse for being rude. It is hormonal you have no control over it lol...
My DH called his mom the bext day when he found out. He was nice about it. He just explained that since I went to 12 hour nights, I was to exhausted to do this on a Sunday. Saturday would work. She refused to change the date. So my DH told her to cancel it..
Wow. Why in the world do you have anything to do with this woman? Call her right now and tell her that you do not want her to attend and ruin your baby showers, and further, that you want nothing to do with her EVER. I will never understand why women bow down to their MILs, but this takes the cake. Stand up to her now before your baby is born. You don't need to deal with her crap.