Lurker Here: Am I having a early midlife crisis.

juju · August 2009

We have been married 6 1/2 yrs. Recently I can't stand Dh. Our physical relationship is pretty non existant. Not that he doesn't try. I can't staand it when he touches me. We have had some bad arguments in the past year mostly to do with his family, money and my job (prebaby had a crappy low paying job now have a great job) He may be a bit jealous. Dh & Dd have been away all week and i don't miss him at all. Missing DD lots though.

Maybe I am over analyzing things lately, I married too young (24) he was 32. He has no ambition.

I have been thinking a lot about the marriage breaking up. When we were arguing alot, I suggested marriage counseling - he would not got.

thanks for letting me vent.

Rebekah1021 · August 2009

So sorry. If he won't go to counseling then go for yourself and work things out. You might just need an impartial person to help you sort your feelings. ((Hugs))

oparcm · August 2009

Maybe you could go to for counseling yourself to help you figure out what you need to do, even if dh doesn't go. It is a really bad economy and ppl are under high stress, IMHO. Congrats on the great job though. It is hard to decide when you have kids.

jorie · August 2009

((HUGS)) I second the idea of going to counseling by yourself.

SumnerBride · August 2009

I agree. Go to counseling alone, if he won't go. I think any man who won't go when his wife asks him to is a total coward. That alone would be enough for me to want to leave him.

littlemermaid · August 2009

Totally agree with pp's suggestion of going to therapy alone. Most likely when the therapist calls your husband to join you, he will come if he's remotely interested in saving the marriage.

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