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Have you had a "Me" day since becoming a mom?
I work part-time and still BF DD, so I am with DD most of the time. DH doesn't get home usually until after DD is in bed, so while he appreciates everything I do, he has no idea how much work it is. DD is 10.5 months old and the only time I have had to myself is on my birthday, I got to go to the gym for 2 hours (it's what I wanted to do). I have never spent the night away from her or anything. DH and I have gone on a few date nights where someone else has put her to bed, but that's it. I was thinking that since a long weekend was coming, I might see if DH would take DD for an entire day and I could do whatever I wanted to. Has anyone done this? What did you do? I would have to pump during the day, I know, but it might be nice not to have to think about diapers, naps, and feedings. What are your thoughts?
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Re: Have you had a "Me" day since becoming a mom?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
The only time I have been away was to my sister's graduation...not what I would consider fun...plane travel, four hours in the car, small gross hotel room, lots of running around, 6 hour drive home two days later, then plane flight the next morning.
As for a real "me" day...nope
I haven't had a chance to have one yet - BFing has made it difficult to get away for more than a few hours.
I hope you get a chance to have time to yourself soon!
I haven't gone away over night without dd but I don't have any desire to do that right now anyway. Part of the reason is because I'm bfing I know I'll have to pump and I HATE pumping. Plus I know that dd refuses to take a bottle so I feel like I can't be away from her for more than 5 hours.
My mom takes her one day a week for several house so I can get stuff done. I wouldn't call it a "me" day since I spend it paying bills, grocery shopping, and doing laundry. DH is gone all week for work but when he is home he's great about taking her so I can get a pedi or get my hair done. We've gone on a lot of date nights since dd was born but we are very lucky to have my parent and ILs both within 15 minutes of our house and very excited to watch dd for us.
If you're ok with pumping throughout the day I'd say go for it. Enjoy some time doing stuff for yourself. I think focusing on yourself and your own needs is a healthy thing to do.
Clomid M/C 8 weeks 2/08 *IVF #1-DD born 3/09
*Surprise BFP-T18 baby lost at 13w 1/10 *FET #1-DS born 2/11
A whole day?
Nope.... but it sounds HEAVENLY.
We do "nights" for ourselves instead of full days.
I do those about once or twice a month.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I couldn't agree more! I think that my time to myself (even if it's only a few hours a week) makes me a better mother and wife.
I EBF and stay at home with her and my husband is rarely home more than an hour before her bedtime. So I understand what you are talking about. My gym membership gives me 2 hours of childcare a day. Sometimes I use it to just eat lunch there... or hang out by the pool. When my husband is home he'll watch her so I can get a pedi or go shopping.
I also went to a concert and stayed at a hotel after w/ my two BFFs. I had to pump, but it was so much fun. I missed her and couldn't wait to get back, but it was totally worth it.
Def. do it. Re-establish your identity as who you are now + who you are as a mommy
I think that frozen milk + you pumping is just fine.
I did a photography class for a few hours when G was about 8mo old. I also had to leave the country for 3 days and attend my g-pa's funeral, when he was 10m old. I wouldn't call that last one a "me" day, but it was my extended time away from him, while DH had to take care of him.
You'll make it work!
Photo by Zemya Photography
***Twin fraternal girls born at 35w6d in 12/2008***
Wow.....I'm shocked at how many girls have not had "me" days. I would go absolutely insane!
DH and I went out on a date when DS was only 2 weeks old.
I went to Chicago for an entire weekend when DS was only 8 weeks old.
In all fairness, I did not BF, so maybe that had something to do with it.
I have a lot of "me" days......not necessarily overnights, just days to myself to get a mani/pedi, go shopping, etc. And, yes, I did this when DS was younger.
I personally think its very important for you to have time to yourself AND have date nights, time with your DH!
I hope you can get out soon!