My sister is pregnant w/ #2.

hbwj · August 2009

I'm happy for her but I soooo frustrated with my situation. To make matters worse my mom asked me why I haven't gotten pregnant yet. She knows about our IF issues but it doesn't seem to register. I've explained PCOS to her three times and she asked me again what is it you have? What does that stand for? Finally I said I can't talk to you about this anymore. Even though she says she cares she just doesn't understand and IF is frustrating enough without having to try and explain my issues over and over again.

This weekend I?m going out with my sister and another friend who already has two kids. I don?t know how I?m going to stay sane.

Thanks for letting me vent!

nikinikinine · August 2009

my mom doesn't get it either. She thinks we need to go on vacation and have lots of sex and then everything will be fine.

I'm sorry that this is your situation. Good luck this weekend.

gringa78 · August 2009

I'm so sorry. IF sucks.

sliz · August 2009

Hey hbwj,

I'm sorry. I don't think my parents get it either. They are from India and pretty traditional. I didn't tell my parents about IF when we first got pg because it happened relatively quickly - 1 clomid cycle then boom....

Now that it is 8 months past the m/c and things are not happening, I realized they would start asking questions soon. I have been bringing the topic up with them in tidbits...first explaining to my mom that I had a cyst and they were putting me on meds to make the cyst go away then giving me something to ensure I ovulate. I tried bringing up IVF a few weeks ago when I was visiting them but they weren't very supportive. My dad basically said that in their day, if you couldn't have kids the normal way you just didn't have them....my mom started ragging on me for taking met...

My mom is an ob nurse and trained midwife so this stings even more...and the whole family is very fertile - my parents come from big families, all my aunts and uncles have kids....

I see you are in Dallas? which doc do you use...i feel the IVF train barreling towards me and am trying to collect as much info as I can...

hope things get better...

hbwj · August 2009

I go to Dr. Barnett

samk213 · August 2009

I'm sorry, IF sucks. My mother doesn't get it either and so I just don't discuss it with her.

I'm in Dallas too. I go to Dr. Karen Lee at Presby Dallas.

Dragonfly1226 · August 2009

Oh gosh. I'm so sorry. I think it's hard for anyone to get if they haven't been through it. I don't blame you for not wanting to explain it to your mother over and over again. (((hugs)))

hopecounts · August 2009

That's really rough and your Mom isn't helping matters. Take care of yourself.

sliz · August 2009

I saw Dr. Barnett for awhile after the m/c. DH and I both liked him a lot when we first consulted back in Sept 2008 but we got pg on the clomid cycle I had already started - he has great hands - I didn't feel a thing during my saline sono and I was so nervous....

But his staff just couldn't or wouldn't deal with my insurance. They were so awful and messed up my paperwork (they put down that we were doing ART when we were doing clomid/TI)....plus they kept telling me we DID NOT have any coverage for drugs....

I switched back to UTSW (Dr. Wilson)....the nurses there are awesome and persistent enough to get my meds on TI cycles paid for....but I think Dr. Barnett was more inventive with his treatments and more matter-of-fact in figuring out what could be wrong...if a few more cycles of drugs/TI don't work at UTSW I am thinking of switching back (or to SIRM)....

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