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edwins_girl · August 2009

Do you have a brother you are close to who could walk you down the aisle or maybe even walk it alone? I'm sorry you're in such a bind- and I agree with whoever said it is YOUR wedding, not your dad's (or anyone else's for that matter)!

SouthernBellelovesaYankee · August 2009

I was originally thinking coming down the aisle alone however, I know it would break my step-dad's heart. It's such a sticky situation. I've got to work up the courage to call my dad and set him in his place.

lauralee1 · August 2009

I maybe jumping in here, I don't know what the original situation is and I am sorry if this has been brought up. I am only guessing this is who should walk you down the aisle (dad or step dad, assuming you are much closer to you step dad) could they both walk you down the aisle?

Again, I have no idea the background of the situation.

SouthernBellelovesaYankee · August 2009

My dad refuses to have him and my step-dad both walk me down the aisle.

(Having both was my original game plan)

innes1015 · August 2009

FWIW I was in a similar situation at my wedding and didn't talk to my dad much leading up to the wedding (he did some shaddy stuff while with my mom and after). My original plan was to have my brother walk me down, but I didn't want to insult my dad that much, so I did it myself. My dad got the message, and it also showed my independence!

edwins_girl · August 2009

SouthernBellelovesaYankee:
I was originally thinking coming down the aisle alone however, I know it would break my step-dad's heart. It's such a sticky situation. I've got to work up the courage to call my dad and set him in his place.

Understandable. It sucks you have to do it but if you are closer with your stepdad and he has been the one to be there for you, your dad needs to back off. But telling him sounds about as fun as a root canal...

krbkmp110307 · August 2009

Typically I just lurk for advice but I went thru the exact situation with my wedding. My father wasn't a big part of my life. It took til the month before to get up the courage to tell my father he wasn't walking me down the aisle that my step dad was. I shook the entire time and I finally just let it out. He ultimately respected my honesty and said deep down he knew this would be the case. It still hurt him but I will always be his daughter. I did have him do a reading though. Believe me, it's not easy but you will feel much better when you tell him how you feel. Deep down I'm sure he just wants you to be happy. GL.

jen_and_scott · August 2009

I have a friend who was in the same position. and her SD pretty much raised her. She had one start her down the aisle (Dad, I think) and did a hand off to SD halfway down.

So the initial pics were with her and Dad, but SD was the one to give her away.

Think something like that might work?

edwins_girl · August 2009

jen_and_scott:

I have a friend who was in the same position. and her SD pretty much raised her. She had one start her down the aisle (Dad, I think) and did a hand off to SD halfway down.

So the initial pics were with her and Dad, but SD was the one to give her away.

Think something like that might work?

I forgot about that idea! I read that in one of my bridal magazines.

lauralee1 · August 2009

SouthernBellelovesaYankee:
My dad refuses to have him and my step-dad both walk me down the aisle.

(Having both was my original game plan)

Oh, I see, that is difficult. BUT when it comes down to it, this is you and your FIs day, end of story. Make the day what you want it to be, don't worry about anyone else. You will regret it if you don't make you and your FI happy.

localbs05 · August 2009

I was in the same situation for my wedding. I did not feel my dad should walk me down the isle considering my step-dad was more of a father figure to me. I ended up having my mom walk me down the isle. It was such a special moment for the two of us. Looking back I would not have wanted it any other way.

My dad is still pretty salty over it, but honestly it does not bother me.

Valerie1283 · August 2009

Can you have 1 walk you down the aisle & have the father-daughter dance with the other?

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