Am I just being impatient?

krissyh21 · August 2009

My mom asked if she could register with me when I told her I was pregnant. She is really looking forward to it, but every time I want to do it she tells me "this isn't a good week". I am only 22 weeks and my shower isn't for another 2 months. But I want to get it done so I can obsess over it for awhile.

Should I just wait a few more weeks or just go alone and say "sorry"?

In a way I feel like I am rushing things, no one will even look at the registry until the shower invites go out anyway and I know there is plenty of time so should I just relax and if she can't do a day in September do it myself? I ama just in obsession mode and I know that. But it would be nice to have everything done and out of the way.

LovingLife_06 · August 2009

I think we registered around 25 weeks. I don't think it's too early. It will give you time to change/update things before the shower. Also, it's really fun! It makes things feel reall too, that is why I wanted to register so early. I say register whenever you want to!

pamela-matt · August 2009

If you are a planner like I am, I would go and get it done. You never know what will happen later in pregnancy. It should be about what works for you. We did not have a shower, but I registered anyway for the purposes of family. I was put on bed rest at 21 weeks and never got my rocker ordered. Baby finally arrived after 4 months of bed rest and I did not have a chair at all to sit and rock him

choco_lab · August 2009

Can't you just start to register online and then go with her, too? I started the registry with BRU online and was still overwhelmed when I went with my mother. You really can't do the WHOLE registry at one time. There's a lot of research to do before hand to see what you like and what you need. I'd say start now and you'll still have plenty of things to look at when you go with your mom.

(I bought my furniture at 20 weeks because they told me it could take up to 16 weeks to arrive so I don't think you are doing things too early! And it took 17 weeks for it to come in so I'm glad I ordered it when I did!!)

lilmel6 · August 2009

I don't think you're being impatient. I registed over a month ago. I'm a big planner and like to get things done when I have the time. I think you should just go and tell your mom that you really just wanted to get it done and out of the way. If you're anything like me, you're going to spend lots of time online adding / deleting items anyway.

krissyh21 · August 2009

I already have my crib and furniture ordered so that is out of the way Working on painting and cleaning out the nursery this/next week. All there is left to do is register. So I will ask her to come with me one last time in the next couple of weeks and if she says no, I will say sorry too bad.

Thanks, I needed validation that I was not rushing everything!

duke'sgirl · August 2009

I don't think you are rushing. We registered pretty early b/c we were so excited! (I'm a planner as well, but there was no holding back DH once we knew it was a boy.) I will say that it was a very overwhelming and time consuming process! Maybe take some time to go in and look around and get the little packet they hand out (at least BRU does this, not sure where you'll be registering...). We made 3 trips to finally get it done, so I don't think that going without your mom would be bad. I'd be willing to bet that you'll go back!

AvaLikeLava · August 2009

choco_lab:
Can't you just start to register online and then go with her, too? I started the registry with BRU online and was still overwhelmed when I went with my mother. You really can't do the WHOLE registry at one time. There's a lot of research to do before hand to see what you like and what you need. I'd say start now and you'll still have plenty of things to look at when you go with your mom.
(I bought my furniture at 20 weeks because they told me it could take up to 16 weeks to arrive so I don't think you are doing things too early! And it took 17 weeks for it to come in so I'm glad I ordered it when I did!!)

Exactly this! There's a lot of stuff you can register for online (the big stuff like swings/bouncers) and a lot of stuff that is best to scan at the store (hygene supplies/bottles/nipples/etc). I actually found registering at the beginning on line awesome, because I could read user reviews. That made the world of a difference to me. I'd start at home, and then take your mom for the rest. That way you'll save yourself some exhaustion too

MereD19 · August 2009

I registered right around 22 weeks. Chances are you will be in and out of that store changing up your registry, or adding more, or taking something off ... that your mom could always go w/ you then!

lckytabby3 · August 2009

I would just let her know when you are going and if she really wants to come she will make time to go with you. Otherwise, go for it. I wouldn't make it a day you know she has something planned but if you know she is free and just putting it off then I wouldn't wait on her.

Believer09 · August 2009

I would do what makes the both of you happy. Go register now without her for just a FEW items which allows you to obsess over those things for a little while. Then, go with your mom when she's ready to register for other things you haven't registered for.

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