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Do you feel underappreciated?

Stacyc625Stacyc625 member
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Sure our little one's can't tell us how much of a great job we are doing- however do you often feel underappreciated in general ?

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Re: Do you feel underappreciated?

  • citygirl_citygirl_
    Every once in a blue moon but I just tell DH, "Hey, I'm not a maid!" and he helps out :)
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  • EnglishMajor03EnglishMajor03 member

    Not sure if it's underappreciated, but I do get upset when DH "checks out" when he's home.  I know, I know, men cannot possibly multitask, so why I expect him to be able to watch/interact with PJ and *gasp* watch the baseball game I don't  know.  But, it really irks me. 

    I've been 100% attentive to her all day and he can't take two hours to give her attention?  This is true for when we go out to visit friends and family too.  I get upset about it because I am with her all the time and I'd like some adult interaction too!

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  • RaphSandra2005RaphSandra2005 member
    I feel like DH appreciates all I do with and for DS, but not necessarily what I do around the house.  I've had the experience of folding HIS laundry while we watch tv after dinner and he doesn't think to pick up a t-shirt to fold - that kind of thing.  Now that I'm pregnant again, he has said he wants to pick up some of the chores, so I'm working on a housekeeping schedule so we both always know what needs to be done.  I'm sure that will help.
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  • charlatticharlatti member
    I'm not sure underappreciated is the right word for me -- I never get that feeling from DH, so it's more a lack of confidence that I'm doing well with DD. As the OP said, she can't really tell me!
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  • KL777KL777 member
    I selected never.  DH always appreciates everything I do with our son and around the house.  It feels good to feel appreciated for all of my hardwork! :-)

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  • mandymackmandymack member

    imageKL777:
    I selected never.  DH always appreciates everything I do with our son and around the house.  It feels good to feel appreciated for all of my hardwork! :-)

    I very much feel the same way and I think *some* of the reasons why are because I have chosen to SAH and I have chosen to take on certain tasks of running our home & delegated the rest to DH and I don't feel pressure to "do it all".  I've noticed over the last year on this board that A LOT of ladies here are SAHMs because they were laid off or daycare is too expensive or because their DH's/friends/family/society have made them feel this is what they should do, etc., etc.... they aren't SAH by choice and I think that would make anyone feel unappreciated at times.  Does that make sense?  I guess my point is that there's a lot that goes with SAH full-time and it has got to be hard to do a job (for example: doing housework!) that you really just don't WANT to do.  I have also found that there are a lot of ladies here who are new SAHMs, still adjusting to their new roles, as are their DH's, and appreciation is not always an immediate feeling in the beginning because so much is unknown about what SAH really means to one's family.

    I found it very interesting that the answers were almost even across all answer choices, it's actually really great to have so much diversity on this board!

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