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smilee
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Confession about having kids...
smilee
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in Infertility
It is funny. For so long, I have been consumed with getting pregnant and now getting and staying pregnant, that I really have never thought beyond that point.
I rarely let myself think of baby clothes and nurseries and the like.
But what I really don't ever let myself think of is actual childbirth. The thought of actually going into labor and then taking a baby home from the hospital really scares the pants off of me. Seriously, it terrifies me!
Anyone else ever feel this way?
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Re: Confession about having kids...
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
LOL!
You are going to be awesome!
Anyone who still keeps a pitcher of margaritas in her sigggie while PG is going to be an awesome mom, IMO!
I have thought about giving birth and that does not scare me at all. Compared to the (emotional) pain I have been through, I feel I can handle anything.?
Now as for bringing the baby home and actually raising the baby, hellll yeah I am scared! ?
LOL! I always wonder what people on other boards think when they see a bottle of booze and a ticker. But I have had the margs in my sig for 3.5 years and would feel "naked" without it.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
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LISTEN TO THE SHOULDN'TS, THE IMPOSSIBLES, THE WONT'S.
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Don't ever take it out!!!!!
I love it... it would not be "you" without it!!!!!
i'm actually scared of pregnancy itself. i have health issues and am scared of what will happen during pregnancy.
well if i really admit it the whole thing i'm scared of.
but i still want it.
i love kids, i love school age kids, teenagers well i'm sure i will love my own.
one of my nieces is 16 and wow she is so her mom right now. moody as all heck. i love her to death though.
i however have hated my whole life when people tell "oh you'll be so great with kids" 'oh look how great you are with your pediatric patients' or "look how great you are with your nieces and nephews" "you'll be such a great mom"
thanks but can you please tell God that so he can kick my body into gear.
KWIM
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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My mouth waters when I see your siggy...
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
<a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v705/arriinthere/PJ/?action=view
You took the words right out of my mouth!
I can't wait to be a mom but as I am sitting here with the tv on, bumping on the computer, and DH is having a couple of beers while playing football on his playstation it just makes me wonder that we better enjoy this now, because not sure we will have this much relaxing time when a baby comes.
I think about this daily.
Minus the pain of infertility... Which is a huge thing
DH and I really have a good thing going on.
I know I will love being a mom.... but I do worry about the changes.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
I hear you sister... me too
I was excited when I got pregnant and instantly went into research mode. Then following the m/c and recent BFN, I hope I can just muster up some happiness and keep the fear at bay.
I too worry about health issues, specifically pre-e since I have high blood pressure already.
BTW, I want a margarita everytime I see kimariono's siggy!!
yes, this exactly.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
yes! our life/marriage is really great except for the whole IF thing. If we were ok with being child-free we could just relax and travel and have fun. but instead our lives are overshadowed by IF, and it makes me sad that then we might not appreciate our lives as they are right now.
I'm glad you posted this. I tried to explain this to a friend and she saw it as me giving up hope. I don't see it as giving up hope, we've just learned to take things one step/day at a time.
I'll let myself think about getting pg and giving birth because I like to imagine what Dh would be like. lol. I know he'll be a mess because he's so clueless as to what goes on. I've been lucky enough to be in the room for 3 births (one of them right behind the Dr.) so I've seen what happens and it scares the crap out of me! I'm even more terrified of C-sections.
I'm okay with taking a baby home. I've worked with infants and toddlers for almost 6 years so I'm fairly comfortable caring for them. Kids older than 8 freak me out though. And teenagers, omg.
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It is funny... I am okay with the teens... that is what I do for a living!
Babies... whoa... I don't even know what to do! LOL
I never really thought about the labor part until my BFF had her baby. I was her coach so I got to see it all with my own eyes. Until that moment I had NO clue what it was like, but now...well let's just say I know I REALLY want drugs when it's my turn. lol But I also know from talking to her that she really doesn't remember much towards the end. I've heard people say you sort of go into a trance and I guess it's really true.
As far as taking the baby home...OMG I think I just pee'd a little. DH always says it freaks him out to think about how we will one day be responsible for how someone turns out. And to be honest, it does me too a bit.
Oh and I love kimarino's siggy pic too!! It's one of the first one's I remember seeing when I came to the board.
Kimarino... I don't know if I'd recognize you without the margaritas in your siggy!
But yes, I worry a lot about what will happen after we have a baby. Not so much about giving birth. I worry about the pregnancy because I get kidney stones and I am so afraid I will get them. And then I worry about how it will change our marriage. We have a great marriage now. And I just got done reading "Nineteen Minutes" by Jodi Picoult and I am so afraid that something like that will happen... that I will lose touch with my kids. I really want to be an open parent. My mom wasn't open with me and I wished she was more open, so I really want to be a parent that my kid feels like s/he can come to.
I'm scared of hemorrhoids, I have them now and I'm terrified that they are going to get bad during pregnancy. I've been trying to lose weight but I find that I'm living my life in 2 week increments and am having a hard time focusing.
Once the baby is home I'm worried about the sleep deprivation, I like to sleep a lot!
Yea - I'm terrified, too. I know I'll need to educate myself on the whole delivery process, but frankly, I want to say drug me and wake me when it's over!
Like Inle mentioned, I also wonder and worry about what impact having a child will have on our marriage. We are used to having a lot of freedom and a really active social life. On one hand, I feel like we are ready for a change and a new phase, but there are things we'll miss.
I am so grateful to be pregnant, but now that I'm not worried about getting pg, I seem to have more time to worry about these other things - and all the crazy and uncomfortable stuff that is going to come as I get more pregnant and my body changes.
i worry that I wouldn't know what to do with it once it got home and the grandmoms left (or if they weren't here)....my mom might be an OB nurse but I don't even know how to change a diaper...
I guess I'll learn fast
I've been "prepping" for a baby for a few years now even though we were not married yet so we were not trying. When we built our house I specified that our bedroom HAD to have the attached room with a door leading to it so it could be the nursery. I painted it in nursery colors. I was all geared up. While TTC I started preparing more educationally and read the entire "What To Expect When You're Expecting" book. I have started sewing cloth diapers and installed a diaper sprayer to one of my toilets.
I am ready for the morning sickness, the stretch marks, and the hemorrhoids. I've watched about 50 videos of women giving birth. I have my birth plan done including a midwife set up for when I do get pregnant (no drugs here, bring on the pain). I constantly daydream about side car cribs and breastfeeding, diaper changes and kisses. While driving I pass a car with a woman and her teen and think about how I would handle it if XYZ were to happen. I am the uber-jinx.
I just want to be a mom. I am a mom in my heart. My heart is so overflowing with love for the children God will grant us. I just haven't met them yet.