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waiting room at RE..

What's yours like?  Totally random and not really important, but I'm just curious.

The couples in the waiting room at my RE sit with their heads down and pretty much stay that way until they're called into the back.  I do notice that when someone comes out into the lobby from the back rooms everyone lifts their head to see them and then quickly puts it down again.  It makes me giggle a little...it's all so uniform, like it's a code or something.

I was so embarrassed to be there at first but then I started to realize we're all in the same boat.  Sometimes I just want say "so this sucks" with the person next to me and start a conversation.  I know how lucky I was to find a community like this to ask ?s and share stories and can't help but think how nice it would be to have a piece of that IRL, too.

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Re: waiting room at RE..

  • I always feel bad for the guys that are in there for SA...they always look so embarassed that everyone knows what they are going to go do when they get called :) 

     I can't remember which place you go?  Magee?  (That's where I go)

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  • DH and I joke about this.

    It is like NO ONE talks.

    It is even worse down at NYU's waiting room for retrievals and transfers.  At least my RE has a TV on.  At NYU, it is DEAD silence. 

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  • That sounds like my RE's waiting room!  I've said hi to a few women who came in after me and sat across from me.  I normally don't have to wait very long in the waiting room which is nice.

    Do you have a RESOLVE group in your area?  Maybe you could also see if your RE has a support group.  My RE has signs throughout the office about support group(s).   

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  • I always go as early as possible in the morning, so it's usually just a few ladies, if that and the wait has only ever been just a few minutes...not really enough time to start a conversation with someone. 

    I think it's just natural to check out where the "noise" is coming from, when people walk in/out of the office and it happens in any type of waiting area.

     

  • Mine is very nice, sort of split into two sections, with the open doorway to the backrooms between.   I haven't been in there when a lot of people are waiting, so I haven't noticed much about other patients.  I do notice that when the nurses/doctors go past the doorway, they do a visual sweep of the room....almost as though checking to see what mental/emotional state their patients are in before they see them. 

    I do find it irritating that most of the magazines are parenting related.  While this whole ordeal is obviously to become one, I don't need that reminder that I'm not one yet or even really on my way to becoming one.  I'd rather read the latest gossip magazine or something.


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    I always feel bad for the guys that are in there for SA...they always look so embarassed that everyone knows what they are going to go do when they get called :) 

     I can't remember which place you go?  Magee?  (That's where I go)

    I ran into a SA guy today who was so flushed.  They called his name and he practically ran in. Poor guy!

    I go to RHS.

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  • Usually I get in pretty quick and there really isn't too many people in the waiting room, but this past Sunday there were 7 couples waiting to go in and no one said a word. It was totally uncomfortable, especially since my DH did not go with me. I completely wanted to start a conversation and even made a comment like "wow, I have never seen so many people here before" and no one really responded. Talking over. It was strange but I am glad it is not only my RE's office.

  • I've been there and seen couples crying. That's the worst. Besides that, people keep to themselves and it's pretty quiet. Once there was this whole family there -- three kids and the grandmother who was watching them all while the mother went back for the appointment. I wondered why she didn't just babysit at home. I usually wonder if the ladies there are on this board at all.
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    I do find it irritating that most of the magazines are parenting related.  While this whole ordeal is obviously to become one, I don't need that reminder that I'm not one yet or even really on my way to becoming one.  I'd rather read the latest gossip magazine or something.

    OMG, I noticed that too.  Why do they do that? I sat down the other day and my only choice was Parent magazine.

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  • I catch myself trying to sneak a peak at who is coming and going without really looking at them. I just thought I was nosy! But yes everyone just keeps their head down and is very quiet.
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  • its pretty quiet at our RE's waiting room too. I usually will try to make conversation with my DH (if he's there w me) for a little while and then i settle in to a good gossip mag. they usually have some good ones. the last time we were there, we had to wait for an hour, which was?ridiculous, especially since i had to go back to work afterward.?
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    Sometimes I just want say "so this sucks" with the person next to me and start a conversation.  I know how lucky I was to find a community like this to ask ?s and share stories and can't help but think how nice it would be to have a piece of that IRL, too.

    I feel the same exact way.

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    I do find it irritating that most of the magazines are parenting related.  While this whole ordeal is obviously to become one, I don't need that reminder that I'm not one yet or even really on my way to becoming one.  I'd rather read the latest gossip magazine or something.

    Mine has anything EXCEPT parenting magazines....

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  • no one really talks at my RE.... it makes a long wait awfuly boring.  but i've brought IF sucks and A few Good Eggs with me to read and that is usually a conversation starter!
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  • I noticed that too! It was so gloomy :(
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    DEAD silence. 

    It is dead silence at ours too!  Everyone is too busy doing something else or anything else other than looking around at each other.

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  • Same thing in mine.  If they didn't have a radio on the silence would be deafening!!
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    I catch myself trying to sneak a peak at who is coming and going without really looking at them. I just thought I was nosy! But yes everyone just keeps their head down and is very quiet.

    I do that too! and of course I'm always hoping to see you there. :) when is your next appt?

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  • We're almost always the only ones in there, which I think is weird since they're a very popular clinic. We always talk, giggle, smile at everyone we do see. A couple wks ago my gf came to my appt w/ me 'cause we were out together and ran short of time. We were cracking up and having a great time. The receptionists found us quite amusing. :-)
  • My first RE, the place was very 80ish. Pink carpet and flowers on the wall. And he didn't see many people, so it was rare to have overlap. No huge wait. When people were in there no one really spoke.

    I have only been to the new place twice. They have 3 REs and it was packed both times. One day was when I sat there for 3 hours for my insulin test. It's very spacious and very nicely decorated. They have free tea and coffee and water, and a ton of magazines. No one really talks, they just wait for their names to be called.

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    I always feel bad for the guys that are in there for SA...they always look so embarassed that everyone knows what they are going to go do when they get called :) 

     I can't remember which place you go?  Magee?  (That's where I go)

    I ran into a SA guy today who was so flushed.  They called his name and he practically ran in. Poor guy!

    I go to RHS.

    Funny...your description sounds just like upmc :)  

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    imageL&R70707:

    I do find it irritating that most of the magazines are parenting related.  While this whole ordeal is obviously to become one, I don't need that reminder that I'm not one yet or even really on my way to becoming one.  I'd rather read the latest gossip magazine or something.

    OMG, I noticed that too.  Why do they do that? I sat down the other day and my only choice was Parent magazine.

    wow that really sucks. Neither one of my REs had any kind of parents magazines. Just all current ones like People and the Women's mags. My new RE has 2-3 copies of some mags so there is more to go around. I thought that was cool.

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