Success after IF

new here...a question

Hello....I have been on the TTTC board and this is my first post here on SAIF.  I got my first beta yesterday at 342.  I am cautiously excited as I know this is only the beginning.  DH and I have been on cloud 9 since the HPT on Monday.  I want to tell our families but I'm not sure if it is too soon.  They know what we were going through with IF so I think they may be suspicious.  When did you tell your families?  I think I am 5 weeks.
Dx PCOS Three cycle of Clomid- BFN HSG- clear 6/09-Follistim and HCG IUI on 7/7/09 BFN 7/09- Follistim and Ovidrel IUI on 8/11/09 BFP! beta #1-342 beta #2-717 Joey was born on 5/5/10 Trying for #2 since 6/12 6/12- Gonal F and Ovidel IUI on 7/10. BFN 8/12- Gonal F and Ovidrel. IUI on 8/10. BFN 9/12- Gonal F and Ovidrel IUI BFN 10/22 Gonal F, Menopur, Ganirelex 11/4 trigger 11/6 ER 14R 10F 11/11 ET transferred one 4AA embryo beta 11/20! BFP Betas stop multiplying . m/c at 5 weeks moving on to FET if my numbers ever get back to 0!

Re: new here...a question

  • I told my immediate family (mom, dad and brother) the night of our first beta.  Every one else we waited until we heard the heartbeat twice and were released to my OB.  Congrats and Welcome! :)
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  • congrats and welcome.

    The first time we told our parents around 8 wks and we had a m/c around 16wks. 

    The 2nd time I told my mom when I got my beta -so around 4 wks because she was right there when I got the call from the RE.  She had no idea I had even gone in for a beta as we were on a break cycle. 

    Do what feels right....hopefully you can tell them without them telling 'the world' like cousins and such, if you aren't ready for that.  Some families are good with secrets and some are not (mine).

  • We told our parents after the 2nd beta doubled... but made them promise not to spread the word until we saw heartbeat(s).  
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  • We told family the day we got my first beta back because they knew about the IUI. You tell them whenever you feel ready. Congrats!!
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  • Our families (immediate) knew were were doing IVF and would have asked had I not said anything so we told our parents brothers and sisters right away. Everyone else we waited until the 12th week for, I had an NT scan and felt comfortable with the pregnancy at that point.

    Congrats on making it over! 

    A lot of years and a million tears finally led me to you.
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    My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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  • My family knew we were in an IVF cycle so we told them (my mom and aunt) the day of my beta.  We told Glenn's mother around week 8, but, she hasn't been as involved in our cycles.
  • we told our parents after the 2nd beta, which was 15dpo. They knew of our treatments and my parents knew when I'd had the betas done.?
  • We told everyone the first time after my first ultrasound when we saw two sacs.  We lost them 1.5 weeks later.

    This time we told immediate family only (parents and my one best friend that's like a sister to me) after the first ultrasound.  We told grandparents when we saw the heartbeats.  We'll let everyone else know at 13 weeks.

    We're waiting quite a while this time because we still have people we don't see real often ask my husband when I'm due and how I'm feeling from my first pregnancy.  We just wanted to try and avoid that if we could this time. 

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  • Congrats!!

    Our family knew of the IVF and the beta waiting was over Easter weekend.  So we were open about it.

    Wait for beta#2 to feel a little more secure and then tell the family. 

     

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  • With this pregnancy we told our immediate families after our first ultrasound when we saw a heartbeat. With prior pregnancies we told them after the positive beta and then had to "untell," and I just didn't want to have to do that again. 
  • Hi and Congratulations!!!  That is strong beta!

    I told my mom and sister after the first u/s and we haven't told anyone else.  DH will tell his mom if all goes well tomorrow and we hear the heartbeats. 

    Tell when it feels right to you.

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  • Congratulations!!!! 

    We didn't tell anyone not even family til I was fully through my first trimester.  I had a very low beta 32.5 to start and I miscarried a twin at 9 weeks.  Those two things made us very cautious!

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  • Everyone knew immediately. They knew we did IVF and knew when the test date would be. We made them wait a week to find out the sex after we found out though and it almost killed them! :)
  • Congratulations, and welcome!

    I told my sister after the first positive beta, but waited until we saw a heartbeat to tell my parents.  DH told his parents after the second beta and told his brother around 8 weeks or so.  We've told a few close friends, and I told my boss, but for everyone else we are waiting until the second trimester.

                                  

      
                                   
  • Thanks everyone for your advice.  I am going for my second beta tomorrow so we'll see how that goes and then make a decision.  its great to be here!
    Dx PCOS Three cycle of Clomid- BFN HSG- clear 6/09-Follistim and HCG IUI on 7/7/09 BFN 7/09- Follistim and Ovidrel IUI on 8/11/09 BFP! beta #1-342 beta #2-717 Joey was born on 5/5/10 Trying for #2 since 6/12 6/12- Gonal F and Ovidel IUI on 7/10. BFN 8/12- Gonal F and Ovidrel. IUI on 8/10. BFN 9/12- Gonal F and Ovidrel IUI BFN 10/22 Gonal F, Menopur, Ganirelex 11/4 trigger 11/6 ER 14R 10F 11/11 ET transferred one 4AA embryo beta 11/20! BFP Betas stop multiplying . m/c at 5 weeks moving on to FET if my numbers ever get back to 0!
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