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*****Toddler MoMs check in******

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Hi Ladies-

I thought talking about discipline would be a good idea.  When did you start Time outs or when do you plan to? How do you handle bad behavior?

Ashlyn is really on a hitting streak and I just started time outs last week.  Part of me thinks they are too young but I dont know what else to do.  She hits when she doesnt get what she wants like the remote control, my food, etc. 

Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Mommy to twin girls, Ashlyn & Fiona, born at 34 weeks due to vasa previa.
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Re: *****Toddler MoMs check in******

  • mrscalkinsmrscalkins member
    We are going through the same thing.  Ryan is hitting also, he seems to do it as playing though.  Not so fun when you're getting smacked in the face.  He laughs when we say no, thinking it's part of the game.  I think our two are definitely too young to do time-outs though.  Ugh.
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  • lutzcowgirlielutzcowgirlie
    We are just starting to introduce time outs with the twins. I'm not sure that they entirely "get" it, but it seems like it is better than nothing, you know?
     
    We follow 1-2-3 Magic. We used the same with DD1, and her preschool also uses it. I think it works well to have that continuation, so she knows what to expect no matter where she is.
     
    Mine are also hitting - although it usually starts out as fun/affection and quickly turns into an issue. It is hard to curb the enthusiasm they get!
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  • MrsARC1105MrsARC1105

    What is 1-2-3 magic?? Please edumakate me :P

     

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Mommy to twin girls, Ashlyn & Fiona, born at 34 weeks due to vasa previa.
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  • candscands

    We started formal timeouts in a particular timeout spot at around 18 months, but before that, we would say "no biting/hiting/kicking/whatever", and just move the offender about five feet away.  That process, and now timeouts have worked pretty well for stopping behavior, but not perfect.  Now I think they have realized what behavior gets them a timeout, but that doesn't always stop the behavior.  The other day Madeline took a toy that was near Sarah, Sarah said "mine" and walked up to Madeline and smacked her across the face.  Then before I could even do anything, Sarah said "no hitting, timeout" and went and sat down in the timeout spot all on her own.

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  • mrscalkinsmrscalkins member
    imageMrsARC1105:

    What is 1-2-3 magic?? Please edumakate me :P

     

     

    I heard this mentioned the other day too.  I'm curious!

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  • luvmagoldnluvmagoldn
    imagecands:

    We started formal timeouts in a particular timeout spot at around 18 months, but before that, we would say "no biting/hiting/kicking/whatever", and just move the offender about five feet away.  That process, and now timeouts have worked pretty well for stopping behavior, but not perfect. 

    This.  When they do go to timeout I tell them why they are going as we move to the time out chair.  Afterwards I ask them to tell me why they were in time out.  Then they have to apologize to me and/or whoever they hit/pushed/etc.  I always finish out the process with a hug.

    At first the boys were too little to tell me why they were in time out but I would say the words for them.  Eventually they caught on.  I think it is important to hear them say it so we are all clear on what behavior landed them in time out.

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  • jk43008jk43008

    We are really struggling with hitting and biting also.  Mine are 15 months and I am pretty sure they would not understand a timeout in a chair or something like that.  So, I have just been saying no and moving them away from the situation to another part of the room.  I sit them down and then say "no hitting/biting" again.  Then I walk across the room and play with the other one.  The hitter usually comes back and tries to sit on my lap or play and then I always give a hug and move on. 

    I am not sure if this goes with discipline or not...but I would love to know what other people do about whining.  I hate when I know they are fed and have a drink and are changed and they just follow me around and whine. I have been saying no whining and ignoring it, but it is really getting to be too much.

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  • gingergrlgingergrl

    We started time outs/naughty chair this summer, so probably 20 months.  It works sometimes - the threat of the naughty chair seems more effective than the actual chair.  Usually i just have to say "Stop or you're going in the naught chair.  Do you want the naughty chair?" and they stop.  Once they're actually IN the chair they think it's kind of fun....

    I haven't had to do too much disciplining lately.  They rarely fight over toys or anything yet, though i'm sure that will change.  They seem to know not to take something from the other one.  They're not hitters either - the one thing i am constantly trying to break them of is pulling MY hair.  They both think that is hilarious.  I don't.  LOL

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  • njarvisnjarvis
    Arrgh!  We also do the count to 3 thing, and it works pretty well for things like climbing or behaviors they can stop in the middle of doing.  Time outs haven't really worked - they just cry and it doesn't seem to have an "ending" where they snap out of it...instead they work themselves into a fit!  We are lucky that we haven't had a lot of biting or hitting, but my biggest problem is that Zach goes into these meltdowns (crying, kicking, hitting) for no apparent reason and NOTHING will calm him down for the life of me...pedi said to ignore him, but that makes it even worse - like it can go on for 2 hours!  Any ideas for that???
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  • TripMommaTripMomma member
    We are going through biting bad right now. All we have been doing is setting the biter off by themselves (not really a time out because they are still in the play area) and holding the bitee until they stop crying. They just don't grasp discipline concepts yet.
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  • AkinaMalukiAkinaMaluki

    imageMrsLee04:
    I honestly can't remember when we started time outs....18 months maybe?  Right now sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.  Discipline is tricky at this age.  Sometimes they just laugh at us in TO.  Sometimes we might just take away a privilege, like "if you're not a good boy we won't go to the park to play" or something like that. 

     

    I'm in the same boat I think I remember reading to start Time Outs at 1yr of age but there is no way my girls were ready for that then. I think it as closer to 18 months when it sometimes worked, other times they would just crack up laughing so no so affective. Now they work but sometime for us just brking down the situation and explaining why their behavior was unappropriate it sufficient.

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  • loreeloree

    ohhh... add me to the list!

     

    loree - madelyn and emma

     

    This will be interesting. So far, when I say no, they think it's either hysterical or break into a mini fit on the floor.

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