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Am I ready to TTC for #2 and start a new job?

cruisebride2005cruisebride2005
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So I got a promotion and start my new job next week. ?I'm pretty excited about it and am going to be managing a much larger team (around 20), with some continued international business travel. ?With DS, I took 7 months of paid maternity leave while my husband took the following 6 months (we're Canadian and benefit from paid leave for a total of 12 months). ?Having a baby and taking leave didn't really impact my career in any way, nor did it slow me down in terms of a promotion. ?

The catch is that if DH and I want DS and Baby#2 to be 2 years apart, we need to get cracking next week and I'm still mulling over whether this is the best time to TTC. ?Am I crazy for considering this?

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Re: Am I ready to TTC for #2 and start a new job?

  • flyer23flyer23 member

    Nope, I got my IUD removed the week before starting my current job.

    I'm glad I didn't wait longer, as it ended up taking me well over a year to get pregnant. (DD was conceived on our second cycle trying, so we did not expect any trouble TTC #2.)

    You just never know what's going to happen with TTC. Unless it's a really awful time (like you and your DH both just got laid off and you're not sure whether you can pay the mortgage, let alone afford another child), then I would go for it. You'll figure out how to make it work.

    Mommy to DD1 (June 2007), DS (January 2010), DD2 (July 2012), and The Next One (EDD 3/31/2015)

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  • mrshutchmrshutch

    I don't think you're crazy- you & DH seems to know what works for you. I'm in awe that you get that much maternity leave and it doesn't affect your career/promotion- I don't mean that in a snarky way, I honestly mean that's fantastic. That would be so awesome if we could have that in the states. I'm just psyched that b/w sick days and vacation I should have somewhere around 2 1/2 months.

    I think the toughest part would be if you're settling into your new role and then you have upheaval again, but still, that wouldn't be for a minimum of 9 months. The other piece is that you don't know how long it may take to get pg w/ #2 (who knows, maybe it'll happen immediately, but it's just something else to keep in mind). GL in your decision and congrats on your promotion :)

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  • cruisebride2005cruisebride2005
    imagemrshutch:

    I don't think you're crazy- you & DH seems to know what works for you. I'm in awe that you get that much maternity leave and it doesn't affect your career/promotion- I don't mean that in a snarky way, I honestly mean that's fantastic. That would be so awesome if we could have that in the states. I'm just psyched that b/w sick days and vacation I should have somewhere around 2 1/2 months.

    I think the toughest part would be if you're settling into your new role and then you have upheaval again, but still, that wouldn't be for a minimum of 9 months. The other piece is that you don't know how long it may take to get pg w/ #2 (who knows, maybe it'll happen immediately, but it's just something else to keep in mind). GL in your decision and congrats on your promotion :)

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    Because the norm in Canada is that most women take the full 12 months (as opposed to splitting it with their DH), my 7 months of leave probably seemed like a great deal for my senior management! ?In all seriousness, going back to work this past January was pretty seamless - my job was still there, my managers still thought highly of me, and my staff is so good at their jobs that I didn't have to put in really long hours. ?DH has signaled that he may not be interested in taking as much time with #2 - staying at home wasn't quite the extended holiday he was hoping it would be!?

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  • katydid2007katydid2007

    Personally, I would put family planning over job planning.  I think that all too often men and women put off having a baby or a second baby only to discover down the road that there really is never an ideal time.  And, considering that you seem very committed to your job and you didn't skip a beat first time around, I don't think your employer will think too much of it. You're clearly an asset to your company and they promoted you to that position for the long term, not just for the next year. 

    GL with whatever you decide.

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  • PeskyPesky member
    Nah.  If it works, it works.  I'll warn you it's crazy with 2 but both DH and I liked the 2 year separation growing up ourselves.  The thing to remember is that you never know how long it is going to take -- it could be right away or take a year.  You need to be okay with all the timing involved.  Plus you would still be around for 9 mos anyway so the better part of a year.


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  • tnpjuly04tnpjuly04 member

    I just have to say, Canada's leave policies are so much better than here in the US.  Boo to 12 weeks!!!

    Oh, and on the baby front, go for it.  Especially since you've already done the  baby/job transition.  Wtih 2, it is crazy, but totally doable!

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