Shower Vent (but not the kind that you think)

kimberlybailey · August 2009

Am I the only one that is not relying upon a baby shower and other people buying essential items that we will need for our baby? DH and I made a list of everything that we will need for the baby, and DH and I have bought everything ourselves. I just don't think it is right to sit back and wait for other people to buy items that we know we are going to need. I mean, we decided that we wanted to have a baby and made sure that we were financially able to provide for the baby and not rely on other people to buy us things that we will need.

/vent.

mrs.schwery · August 2009

thaira · August 2009

My dh and I's parents are not typical and we know that we can not rely on them for any big ticket item. So, we bought things over the entire pregnancy starting with baby furniture before we even knew if we were having a boy or a girl. Every couple of months we bought something else...our travel system, pack and play, bedding, etc.

Yes, we did have a shower but that was more for the little things and it helped out tremendously.

jennrenee09 · August 2009

i'm not waiting i have not even had my shower yet and we have almost everything we need and plan to buy the rest i do not want to rely on shower gifts because it was our choice to have the baby not anyone elses

KacieLeigh · August 2009

We certainly didn't rely on other people to buy our essential items for us, but we did wait until after our shower to avoid having to take a billion things back because of doubles or triples. If you KNOW you're having a shower, and you KNOW that people will be buying some "big ticket" items, it makes sense to wait.

But that doesn't mean that we relied on other people to support our child.

pregali80 · August 2009

We got pg with the thought of buying whatever wasn't given to us. I knew my mom would help out (she's so cute and buys whatever small stuff she thinks i will like). We are grateful to our families for the help they are giving.

I'm looking at my shower as an excuse to hang out with friends I haven't seen in a while. If they have a gift, great, if not, I will be glad they showed up.

KacieLeigh · August 2009

kimberlybailey:

I mean, we decided that we wanted to have a baby and made sure that we were financially able to provide for the baby and not rely on other people to buy us things that we will need.

And just as a side note: Not everyone makes the "decision" to have a baby. Sometimes they surprise you, like ours! Luckily, we're financially capable and everything is fine - but that's not the case for everyone.

Lucky428 · August 2009

JenandMike04:
i'm not waiting i have not even had my shower yet and we have almost everything we need and plan to buy the rest i do not want to rely on shower gifts because it was our choice to have the baby not anyone elses

This. We are about 90% ready. Our shower is this weekend, so anything we get will just be a nice gift bc there really isn't much left we need.

prneyes3 · August 2009

KacieLeigh:

We certainly didn't rely on other people to buy our essential items for us, but we did wait until after our shower to avoid having to take a billion things back because of doubles or triples. If you KNOW you're having a shower, and you KNOW that people will be buying some "big ticket" items, it makes sense to wait.

But that doesn't mean that we relied on other people to support our child.

This was our thought process as well. We certainly didn't expect people to buy our stuff, but if they did we certainly appreciated it. We did have a shower and were so thankful for any and everything given to us.

mariannerules · August 2009

We registered for lots of stuff, big ticket and small gifts. But we were not relying on the shower for everything. Mostly we bought the big stuff ourselves ahead of time, the shower was lots of smaller stuff and homemade blankets, and a few big ticket items too.

SusieQ1982 · August 2009

We're having showers, but if we don't get bought our big items (which I am NOT expecting) then we are perfectly able to go and buy them ourselves. We've already bought our crib, dresser, stroller, bedding, and diaper bag.

nsees · August 2009

I felt guilty putting big ticket items on our baby registry which is why we didn't do that. I also wanted people to enjoy buying things for our baby so our registry was very small. I didn't want people to think they were limited to it.

We bought our crib, mattress, bedding, and dresser. Luckily we were gifted one of DH's grandma's rockers that we bought new cushions for, a PnP from our nephews, and a swing from our cousins. We still spent a ton of our own money but I love having family items as well.

Our family and friends really were so generous with us with shower gifts as well. It was a big help! I had an easier time accepting their generousity because I knew we bought the major things on our own. I would never want anyone to feel that we expected their gifts.

Genevieved · August 2009

DH and I pretty much feel the same way and will end up buying most of the stuff. We are also not having a shower until after the baby comes so if ppl want to buy us things it will most likely be clothing and fun things. Maybe some stuff for when baby get older.

However there are so many ppl around that have babies and have said we can borrow things they no longer use I feel like in the end there will not be much else that we need.

monica93555 · August 2009

Our pregnancy was a surprise to us. But we are financially able to provide everything for our little one. I wasn't even going to consider having a shower until one of my friends offered to throw one for me. I kind of felt guilty for her having to pay for it... I even offered to pay for it and of course she refused.

We did set up a registry but I made it very clear to those who were invited that the stuff on the registry was just suggestions and they didn't have to buy us that stuff. So my boyfriend and I decided to just plan on not receiving anything we needed so we could be more prepared to buy it all ourselves. However, we didn't plan on buying anything until after the shower because we didn't want to go through the hassle of returning stuff. But much to our surprise, we ended up getting most of the stuff we needed from others including big ticket items. We feel very fortunate to have generous people in our lives (almost guilty). Also, those who were invited were only our very close family and friends. The shower was more of a celebration of us being first time parents rather than the gifts. It was awesome!

andy'shomegirl · August 2009

KacieLeigh:
kimberlybailey:

I mean, we decided that we wanted to have a baby and made sure that we were financially able to provide for the baby and not rely on other people to buy us things that we will need.

And just as a side note: Not everyone makes the "decision" to have a baby. Sometimes they surprise you, like ours! Luckily, we're financially capable and everything is fine - but that's not the case for everyone.

Ditto this. DH and were totally not expecting to have this little one but we are very excited now. I guess there might be some people out there who "rely" on their shower to get what they need for baby but in general I think people know they are going to have to buy a lot of their baby gear.