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charmcitygirl
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Can't help being annoyed with DH
charmcitygirl
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I wish that I could just accept that this week has not gone the way I thought it would and not be annoyed with DH...but I am.
This past weekend he went to Atlanta on a mancation for his fantasy football draft. Monday I left to spend the night away so I could baby sit my friend's son on Tuesday. DH said that he would be home early on Tuesday, but then ended up only getting home to give Jacob his last bottle.
Last night he was out at another fantasy draft until nearly 10. And this morning he tells me that he got an email from a partner at work that he has to go to Pittsburgh tonight. And he has another fantasy draft on Sunday evening.
Ugh...I am stressed about Jacob right now and I could really use some help with him. He's not eating well and we just put him on Reglan (a medication that has side effects that I'm totally freaked about). We were going to do some sleep training overnight starting this week, but I'm definitely not going to do it without him.
And I cried when he left for work. Why did I cry? Because I miss him and I feel like I've been parenting solo all week! Sigh...thanks for letting me vent.
Allison
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Re: Can't help being annoyed with DH
Awww I am sorry things are rough right now, work schedules and activities are hard to realign after a baby enters the picture. Someone always ends up with the short end of the stick!
Did you tell your DH how you are feeling?
All I told him when he left was that I felt like I was on my own a lot this week. He said that he was sorry that he had to go to Pittsburgh. He knew that I was not happy. Sigh...
I understand where you are coming from. It's amazing to me how easy it is for the DH to just go off and do "whatever" while we hold down the fort. I think that your DH travels for work a lot (like mine) so we are always the ones to be left at home. My DH is going to 2 baseball games and 1 football game over the next few weeks.. and I'll be home. And then he'll start traveling for work again this fall which means I'll have no help.
I guess the only thing I do is just remind myself that I am lucky that I can be home and he's not with someone else while DH has to travel or goes to these events. YOU are the best Mommy your DS could ask for. Try not to be sad.. you are spending time with your DS and you can never get these days back. Do you guys use "Skype"? All you need is a webcam and it's SO EASY to use! My DH and I use this a lot when he's away so DH can see DS and we can talk "face to face". It really helps.
(That said, I wouldn't do sleep training without your DH around.. you might need him to stay strong for the first couple of nights. After that, your DS will get the hang of it and it will be easy!)
TTC #1: IUI #2 = BFP , Betas 550 (16 dpiui), 1523 (18 dpiui)
Hypothyroid, LPD, FSH 13.0, TTC 2 yrs B4 BFP
TTC #2: FSH 23, AMA, IUI 1, 2, 3 = BFN, IVF #1 = MC
IVF #2 = BFP - Betas 194 (14dp2dt), 366 (16 dp2dt), 841 (18 dp2dt)
(vanished twin ~7 weeks)
Jacob goes down so easily these days...its waking in the middle of the night he's having an issue with. He doesn't want to eat; he just wants his paci. So, we were going to do something about that this week. But, there's no way I'm doing that alone. I'll just get up and give him his paci!
Fantasy football is taking up alot of his time eh? I think you two should really make a point to schedule something together. Even if it is just ordering some take-out and renting a movie. It sounds like you feel disconnected right now. I hope you feel better soon.
How did it go with looking after your friend's LO?
ugh...lady i totally understand the parenting solo thing..i get super annoyed with DH for never being here, and he is working all the dang time! i would be ten times more annoyed if it was for fantasy football..i got annoyed enough for his one draft! i can't imagine 3! you need a break big time..
lots of ((hugs!))
Joey, Ronnie, and Audrey,
my awesome IUI 30 week twins, and my surprise miracle
LOVE my SAIF ladies
Thanks, ladies. Its good to know that I'm not crazy for being annoyed. I'm actually going outlet shopping with two of my best friends on Saturday without the kiddos so that should be super fun. But, then I get sad about missing a whole day with my boys!
I do feel a bit disconnected from DH right now and a little resentful of his ability to just pick up and go. I need to find some outlets for myself and get some help here with Jacob (not just from DH).
The good news is that we're going on vacation a week from Saturday with my family, so we'll be together all week and we'll have babysitters so that we can go out to dinner and reconnect.
I think this will make a big difference. Definitely something to look forward to and take advantage of.
Here's a crazy idea... can you join a Fantasy Football league, too (or create your own with friends)? I joined my DH's friend's league a couple of years ago and it's been a lot of fun! We actually talk football and watch games together! Just a thought!
TTC #1: IUI #2 = BFP , Betas 550 (16 dpiui), 1523 (18 dpiui)
Hypothyroid, LPD, FSH 13.0, TTC 2 yrs B4 BFP
TTC #2: FSH 23, AMA, IUI 1, 2, 3 = BFN, IVF #1 = MC
IVF #2 = BFP - Betas 194 (14dp2dt), 366 (16 dp2dt), 841 (18 dp2dt)
(vanished twin ~7 weeks)