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Attachment Parenting
S/O "Feminism" a gripe about my in laws (long, sorry)
i just need tovent about the stupid people...
DH and i are planning on doing a lot of AP things, such as co sleeping, extended BFing, and babywearing. However, after the baby is 3 months old I will be the only one working, and DH will be a stay at home dad. I plan on pumping and DH will bottle feed expressed breast milk only, no formula.
we were telling his dad and step mom about these plans and his stupid SM took me aside and literally, no joke, said to me:
So how does DH really feel about staying at home with the chid? because you know God made man to be head of the household and I just don't think it is right for him to stay at home while you work, and I just don't think he is going to like that
she in essence thought i was forcing him to give up his career and stay at home so i cold work. The woman is nuts! just because SHE wanted to give up her life to have 2 kids and stay at home and homeschool from preschool thru college, she also thinks that is what every woman should do, and can't get it through her head the DH really really wants to be a SAHD.
all i could do was laugh and tell her it was his idea.
so in essence, where do we fit into this whole AP/feminist debate? since i will be working and not literally BFing (We will only be feeding breast milk) am i not AP? since DH will be primary care giver do we not fit the sear's model?
sorry if this opens another can of worms, just needed to vent and was genuinly curious to see if anyone else is doing AP with dad being primary caregiver
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Re: S/O "Feminism" a gripe about my in laws (long, sorry)
haha, again fred, i love you
the whole "am i AP" was more sarcasm toward the b!tches who will tell me i'm not. i don't give a flying fvck if people think we're not really AP, if i can't be AP without sharing the brunt of the load with DH then by God i don't wanna be AP. ;P
What a lucky child to have ANY parent stay at home with them. I would tell those that disagree that they can KYSA! And as far as the AP label, it's just a guide, like being a Deadhead, to let others know where you generally stand.
And I give the Deadhead reference because you never knew if they have real jobs like being a CEO of a fortune 500 company or are just a record shop clerk. It's a very broad and wonderful term, just like AP.