I'm not ready

847Christine · August 2009

I'm sure all parents find it hard to put their LOs in daycare, regardless of the baby's age, but I am having EXTREME anxiety about Evie doing her transition day tomorrow. In some ways I almost think it will be worse than if I had put her in when she was tiny & too young to know any better.

If you've gone through this, how did you cope?

Crazycrustacean · August 2009

I haven't gone through it, but I wanted to say good luck. I hope it goes smoothly.

KatieG.07 · August 2009

We started Ben in daycare at the beginning of the month. The first week was rough. His daily report always had tearful and tired circled on it. Now it almost always says happy and social. It seems like he's adjusted quicker than me. The good thing is dh drops him off so I don't have to do that.

I guess what helps is knowing that he's with people that obviously care about him and the other little ones. His walking skills have improved tremendously just in the last couple weeks (Maybe they would have anyway, but...).

You'll be okay. I had to cry when they left that first morning. But, the day goes quickly (usually) and I'm so glad to just sit and play with him at the end of the day.

jwally · August 2009

it's hard, no matter the age. i started back to work (after summer break) last week and both kids are going to a new babysitter. luke is still crying when i leave in the morning. i'm not going to lie: it sucks. however, he's fine the second i'm out of sight and has a great time playing with the other kids. he talks all the way home about the toys he played with, the games they played, etc.

my tricks for the morning drop off: make it short and sweet. i give him a hug and a kiss, tell him i love him and that i'll be back to pick him up, and leave. he knows i always come back and like i said, he's fine the second i'm gone.

chloe, on the other hand, seems to be completely unfazed by my leaving. she does get really excited when i go to get them every afternoon.

(((big hugs))) you'll make it.

LoveTek · August 2009

I completely understand. Kara is starting at her daycare center on Monday and I'm a wreck about it. I just told my husband last night that it probably would've been easier if we had started earliers....I've spent the past 10.5 months with this baby and changing that now is SO tough. But ultimately I know it will be a good thing....she loves being around other kids and I know she'll love all the activities they'll do with her. Good luck this week...hang in there. I'll bet Evie will love it!

cluiss1 · August 2009

Good luck! It was hard on us, but honestly Jacob loves going to daycare. It's good that you're starting near the end of the week. We started transitioning Jacob the last week DH was home with him, and it was the week of July 4th (short work week for me). I just tried to think positively and visited him as much as I could in the beginning.

MrsRoehl_2008 · August 2009

F has been at daycare for about 6 weeks and it still makes me sad every time I drop her off... more so because she is there ALL day. After I became readjusted to work, I feel like my return has made me much more emotionally balanced than when I was home all day. I also know that F is getting socialization that she wouldn't get if I stayed home with her. The ideal would be a part-time job!

It's okay to be sad about leaving your LO; we are their mothers and supposed to want to be around them. I remind myself that I am doing what is best for our family at this time and I cherish the time that I do spend with my LO.

NoVaIrish · August 2009

It's hard no matter what, but it will definitely be harder on you. ITA with pp that said to do your best to keep your good-byes short and sweet because if you are upset its just going to make Evie more upset. And I always remind myself what the office manager said on Michael's first day of daycare...

No child has ever gone and cried themselves to death at daycare and I promise your's won't be the first.

Good luck tomorrow and let us know how it goes.

SuzP · August 2009

Good luck tomorrow!

It is a tough adjustment. I do tend to think it is harder on us as parents than it is on our children. LJ was 11 months before he started, Evie Mae started at 3 months. I cried the first couple of days and would check in at least once a day for the first week.

I totally agree with keeping the drop offs short. It's just easier for everyone involved.

It is so hard but it does get easier. Hang in there.

AngelLuver_02 · August 2009

no advice, just wanted to say good luck. <hugs>

ncsubride · August 2009

Just wanted to say good luck!

SassyBride6/21 · August 2009

I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone! I have to start leaving DD with the babysitter next week when I go back to work and I'm a wreck!

I can tell you that the anticipation about going back to work and leaving your LO is worse than actually doing it. I went back to finish out the school year when DD was 7 weeks and I enjoyed being back once we got a routine going. Hang in there! It's far worse for us then it is for them!

Skatcat · August 2009

The first day I left them alone with the nanny was hard for me too. All you can do is just swallow hard and know they are going to be fine! By the second or third day, you'll be a pro. :-)

jenn_darrin1515 · August 2009

Good luck! I will be going through this inn 2 weeks and I am a wreck about it...I am sure it IS a lot harder on us than our LO's...and once we get through the first few days of tears (ours) and into a routine I have no doubt it will be just fine...

Runaway Bride! · August 2009

Ditto what everyone else sense. Both you and DD will adjust, and sooner than you think!

Amelia has been in daycare for 3 weeks. I'm amazed at how well we're both doing.

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