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IVF #3 or is it #5? = BFN
Beta is tomorrow and I tested this morning (10dp 3dt) and the stupid stark white nothingness of a BFN appeared. To be honest, I am pretty much numb right now. Surprisingly I didn't shed a tear....yet. That will probably arrive with the phone call from the nurse tomorrow confirming the negative beta. After 3 years of on-going fertility treatments, this may be it for us. I can't believe that after all this crap, we ended up where we started....without a baby. It makes my previous miscarriage that much more difficult to think about....
Thank you for all your support and love over the past few years. This board has been a rock of strength for me. I am not sure where we go from here, either child free living or adoption. I need a few months to get back in good shape again and to let the raw pain subside a little before thinking about anything else. Never in a million years did I ever think I would be at this spot in life. We still have one more ivf cycle that is covered by insurance, but I don't think emotionally what my DH and I can handle anymore dissapointment and sadness. He was the one who brought up adoption this week....which was very surprising for me to hear him say that.....so who knows that the future will bring us.
Our beautiful daughter arrived after 4 long years TTC!
Christmas Eve 2011 we got our miracle surprise BFP!
unmedicated cycle Beta #1 = 674 Beta #2 = 1905
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Re: IVF #3 or is it #5? = BFN
I am so sorry. I hope and pray that you and your DH will be able to heal and decide what is best for your family (i.e. childfree or adoption). We are here for you!
12/08 DX - irregular cycles - unexplained IF
2/09 - 4/09 - Clomid, TI
5/09 - 12/09 - 4 IUI
3/10 - 7/10 - 2 IVF
11/10 - Frozen Transfer
3/11 - Dx Insulin Resistant & Hypoglycemic - treating w/ Metformin & diet
I am so sorry.
We were in the same position as you earlier this year - deciding between one last IVF or going to DE or adoption. We opted to try one more time. I did alot of different things before our last IVF that I think made the difference. I am not advocating another IVF because I don't know your dx, but if you want some additional info, check out my blog or send me an email at kpeske1 at aol dot com when you feel up to it.
Take care - ((HUGS))
2 chem preg, 4 failed IUIs, 2 canc IVFs, 2 BFN IVFs, IVF #5 = BFP!!!
3/23 Beta #1 @ 17dpo = 913, Beta #2 @ 19dpo = 1724, Beta #3 @ 21 dpo = 3240
First u/s 3/29 @ 5 weeks 2 days - 3 sacs 6 weeks 3 days - 3 heartbeats 8 Weeks - Lost Baby C, Babies A and B going strong
Because we're fancy like that.
My heart is breaking for you reading you message. You've been through more than anyone should ever have to go through. We're here for you whatever path you decide to take after this. Please take care (((HUGS))).
IVF#1 gave us a BFP on 8/24/09, DD born May 2010
Surprise, natural BFP July 2012 ended in miscarriage 9/4/12 at 10w4d
FET#1 January 2013
IVF#1: start stims 1/26; ER 2/8; ET 2/13= BFN; FET#1: May 2010= m/c *NEW CLINIC Jan 2011* IVF#2: start stims 1/12; ER 1/22; ET 1/27= BFN; IVF#3: TBD
~SAIFW/PAIFW~
TTC since 2008 dx PCOS & MFI
Clomid/Femara no "O"
IVF #1 BFN
FET #1 cancelled for biopsy
FET #1.2 c/p, July 2012 c/p
IUI #1 & 1.2 canceled
IVF #2 ER 12/1, Freeze all due to OHSS
FET #2.1 cancelled due to DVT risk, FET #2.2 Jan 2013
my blog
oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I'm hoping that maybe it was just too early to detect on an HPT. ((((((hugs))))))
Anyway, I just wanted you to know that I know how you feel. I never ever thought I would end up being one of the few that never gets their sticky BFP. It's been a bitter pill to swallow, for sure, but somehow little by little, it gets better.
Please take care of yourself, and wherever this road leads you, I hope you find peace.
hugs,
rose
I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you.
I am so sorry to hear this. Good luck making your decision. Take care. Hugs.