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I am not Supermom, and that's ok. (Right?)

Feeling a lot of guilt because I have SO little patience today and DS is getting to be quite the little handful. We spent the morning visiting my moms, and he refused to settle down and nap, preferring instead to whine and scream at the slightest little things. So, we left earlier than either my mom or I had wanted, knowing that the only way to get him to sleep was to put him in the car. Slept the whole 45 minute trip home and then some. I got exactly 2 hrs of sleep last night (darn night shift: worked 3 nights in a row over the weekend, slept waaaay too long yesterday when I got off so I was up until 4am this morning. That's exactly when ds woke up, wide awake and ready to play. Finally got him back to sleep at 530, and I crashed. Until 730 when he woke up for good). After his nap he was great for all of 2 hours. Then the whining started again, along with rhe screaming and tantrums (because I wouldn't let him play with the remote, wouldn't let him roll over on the changing table, wouldn't let him have his binky that he only uses for naptimes/bedtime even though there was NO way he was going to nap again...). His tantrums have started to include hitting (me), throwing things, and occasionally he'll lean into me arm/leg/whatever as if he's going to bite me. So when dh came home from work and suggested a family trip to Home Depot I declined,opting for a "break". And here I sit on my break feeling guilty because I feel like I should be able to handle all this in my stride, and I can't. And I don't even stay home with ds everyday - it's only a couple days a week. It's ok to have a bad day and need a break, even though I don't even SAH fulltime, right? Ok,vent over. Thx for reading.

Re: I am not Supermom, and that's ok. (Right?)

  • I had the same kind of day yesterday!  I worked all day and then picked up Reese.  I had a migraine and she was just whiny and pissy about something.  She threw all her food on the floor and then screamed constantly.  I felt so guilty for being annoyed.  I realize she is only a baby but mommies do need breaks too.  Don't beat yourself up over it!
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  • You are TOTALLY fine. ?We all adore our children, we all wish we never felt feelings of frustration or exhaustion or annoyance when it came to our children- but we're human. ?We're all going to have those days. ?From everything I've heard, 12-18 months can be a really challenging time. ?My friend swears it's the "terrible one and a halfs" and not the "terrible twos". ?Hang in there!

    Enjoy your break from the boys and don't feel guilty for one second. ?Hugs.?

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  • Well, since you admitted this on a public message board, I'm afraid you are going to have to relinquish your supermom badge and hatpin.

     

    Totally normal behavior on his part and totally normal feelings on yours.  I hope you are enjoying your free time.  Let the guilt go.  We all have bad days.

  • I felt the same way on Sunday.  An hour to myself and I was a new woman.  Don't sweat it, no one is perfect and being together 24/7 with anyone requires a break.  Even your sweet baby boy. :)
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  • Geez, I hope it's ok because I HAVE NO PATIENCE!  :)  And I am in no way (contrary to popular belief) supermom either. 

     

    xoxox.  Logan is going to be fine, you're going to be fine, he won't remember that you had an impatient day or two.  Don't worry.  He still loves you lots and lots.  And good lord, it's perfectly fine to need a break too!  

  • Everyone has bad days.  Being a mom is hard work no matter the situation.  So, do not feel guilty for needing/taking a break.  Instead, you should enjoy it!  I hope tomorrow is a better day.  ((hugs))
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  • I could have written this post myself. Are you sure you don't have my son? DS has been like this everyday since he was 18mos. There are some good moments here and there, but the whineing and crying over things like you described are all day, everyday. And he throws things, hits, spits, etc. It is very challenging indeed. Don't feel bad for a second, being a mom is hard, even when you don't SAH. (((hugs)))
  • Awww. :(  Sorry you had a rough day!  Sounds totally normal to me, though - I'm sure everyone has those days with their LOs!!  Today he'll probably be a perfect angel and you will think some alien invaded his brain for the duration of yesterday!
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