If your parents are divorced - looking for opinions

chloephoebecali · August 2009

If your parents are divorced, who paid for your shower?
Mom/Dad/both?
TIA!

SeaMama · August 2009

Eh.....my friend is throwing my shower. Is it normal for your parents to host this?

P&E2009 · August 2009

I thought it was paid for by whoever hosts it...my parents are divorced, but my showers were paid by my MIL and mom who each threw me separate ones. I don't know why my dad would be expected to pay for part.

misses625 · August 2009

My parents had separate showers for me...they can't stand each other!

alicia11780 · August 2009

Neither. My sister paid for the shower, with a little help from my aunt.

notelizabeth · August 2009

neither. my friends threw my shower.

NewMomAlyssa · August 2009

I did...

Sticky41284 · August 2009

Technically my sisters are throwing the party, but since they are both college students, my mom is bankrolling it.

My dad is a semi-dead-beat dad, so I'm expecting a nice congrats, a gift, and that's about it. Oh, and him bragging to all his co-workers and friends about the lovely grandchild HE made. Yeah, creepy.

Brooke208 · August 2009

NewMomAlyssa:
I did...

You paid for your own shower?

For my shower with DS it was hosted (and paid for) by my mom, MIL, and step-mom.

Conway714 · August 2009

Perhaps I am off base, but my mom didn't feel that it was appropriate to throw a shower for me since she is the baby's grandmother. My friend threw my shower with DD.

coliecarryon · August 2009

Its whoever hosts your shower pays for it....

madalynnsmommy09 · August 2009

My Mom and Grandma are hosting my shower, and they are paying for it.

mrsblt · August 2009

One of my friends hostessed (and paid for) my shower.

Brooke208 · August 2009

Conway714:
Perhaps I am off base, but my mom didn't feel that it was appropriate to throw a shower for me since she is the baby's grandmother. My friend threw my shower with DD.

Some people feel this way, and I suppose etiquette wise it shouldn't be the grandmother. But it's VERY common for Grandma (mom's and MIL's) to throw the shower nowadays.

SusieQ1982 · August 2009

Parents generally don't pay for showers... the hostesses do.

Tara1025 · August 2009

My Mom, Step-Mom, & MIL are all paying for/hosting my shower together.

arob2009 · August 2009

ya weird question. My shower is being thrown by my MIL, mom, cousin & friend. They are splitting things up as far as I know.

Soap1 · August 2009

I agree with all the pps... whoever hosts the shower pays for it. And if your dad wants to host you a shower, more power to him? lol.

deltagirl79 · August 2009

My girlfriends hosted/paid for my big shower. My step-mom threw a small family shower the weekend my aunt came into town. My mother did not attend or participate in either.

I agree with pp whoever the host(s) is pays for the shower.

CAM2007 · August 2009

Mom and sis

jwpbride · August 2009

Conway714:
Perhaps I am off base, but my mom didn't feel that it was appropriate to throw a shower for me since she is the baby's grandmother. My friend threw my shower with DD.

Not off base- that's how it is around here. It's not appropriate because it's part of the baby's family (same as with bridal showers)- but I'm sure that's a regional/social circle thing.

Diannadiva · August 2009

jwpbride:

Conway714:
Perhaps I am off base, but my mom didn't feel that it was appropriate to throw a shower for me since she is the baby's grandmother. My friend threw my shower with DD.

Not off base- that's how it is around here. It's not appropriate because it's part of the baby's family (same as with bridal showers)- but I'm sure that's a regional/social circle thing.

Same here - I have never been to a shower hosted by a parent or family member - it is always friends or co-workers.

lovesazzie · August 2009

Hmm... my friend hosted/paid. I was under the impression that it was kind of taboo for a family member to host....

HerHighness · August 2009

whoever hosts pays for the shower.

Mine was cohosted by my mom,my 2 sils and my sister

Twistedpixie7@aol.com · August 2009

My mom threw my shower, I had 1 big one. My step mom paid for the cupcakes and cake. My mom paid for the rest of the shower....BUT.... My mom didnt get my anything, well she got me a few things, but they were part of a game. My dad and step mom bought my crib. My mom did still pay more then my dad and step mom did but everyone was okay with it. My parents(all 4) get along fine so I had both sides of the family at my shower.

sdjaquess · August 2009

I having 2. My step-mom is hosting/paying for one and has invited my mom who is not financially contributing. She has made it clear it will be a big enough obstacle for her to even attend. MIL is not invited and has not offered to do ANYTHING. The other one is hosted and paid for by friends of my dad and step-mom.

LovingLife! · August 2009

My sister is hosting it. She had my dad pay for paper products and decorations; my mom will pay for food and everything else.?

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