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Question for working Moms
My DH and I are trying at the end of the year. I have noticed lots of people working the hours of 8-5. So is there anyone working longer hours or afternoons, etc, how does that work? I know we will figure it out, but I want to see how others are handling this.
DS has acid relux and milk protein allergy, and had torticollis, used to EP,
now we FF .
April siggy 3-6 month
Born 7lb, 15oz, 21-1/4, 2 mo - 12lbs, 14oz. 25", 3mo - 14lb, 4oz 26in , 4 mo - 16lb, 1oz, 26 3/4 in, 5 mo 18 lb, 4oz 27-3/4 in, 6 mo 28 3/4 in 19lb, 14oz
Born 7lb, 15oz, 21-1/4, 2 mo - 12lbs, 14oz. 25", 3mo - 14lb, 4oz 26in , 4 mo - 16lb, 1oz, 26 3/4 in, 5 mo 18 lb, 4oz 27-3/4 in, 6 mo 28 3/4 in 19lb, 14oz
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Re: Question for working Moms
I work 7:30 - 4. DH works longer hours - ususally until 8-9. For daycare (we are at a center), it's better that I have the earlier hours. But my company would be flexible.
I also can take work home if I need to at night and I have.
It will depend on what kind of daycare you look for. Centers are usually only open until 6, so you would have to find alternate care after hours. An in-home daycare might be a little bit more flexible, and a family member would most likely be the most flexible. But with an in-home or family member, you are sort of at their mercy in terms of illnesses, vacation, etc.
I had an evening job when I went back after DD was born. I worked 2 eve's a week, and one of those days DH was off, so that was not an issue. At first my employer agreed to cut back my hours on the night that DH also worked, but they rescinded that quickly, after they were assured that I was going to return to work after my leave. So I had to find another job that didn't involve evenings, since I had no family members to watch DD.
Prev hours-
mine: 7-4:30PM
DH: 2:30-1:30 AM.
DH would drop DS at the daycare and I'd picked up, diinner, bath, bed routine, etc.
On the 14th, DHs hours swtch to 6:30-7PM.
I'm going to drop DS off at ILs at 6:45 and FIL will do the daycare drop off 7:15ish. I will do pick up, dinner, etc. DH will help with bath and bed.
i work 8:30 -5. DH works 8:30 - 5:30, but have frequent late nights.
I drop off/pick up at daycare daily since it is 10 minutes from my work.
My hours vary because of working at a college. Mostly 8-5 or 9-6, and some other late nights. DH works until 6 or later every night. I am not pregnant yet, so we haven't looked into daycare or anything. I love my job, but the hours suck for getting home early.
Born 7lb, 15oz, 21-1/4, 2 mo - 12lbs, 14oz. 25", 3mo - 14lb, 4oz 26in , 4 mo - 16lb, 1oz, 26 3/4 in, 5 mo 18 lb, 4oz 27-3/4 in, 6 mo 28 3/4 in 19lb, 14oz
Before DD we both worked about 8:30-6:00. Now I work 9-4:45 M-Thurs and my DH works 9-5 five days a week.
He does drop off and I do pick up at school so the hours vary here and there but we both have pretty flexible schedules. Sometimes I come in later or leave earlier but then work at night after DD is asleep. My boss isn't a clock watcher so as long as the work is done he's okay with my hours.
I worked evenings after DS was born I would drop off at 2pm and DH would pick him up by 5pm that is when the in-home daycare we went to closed. This time when I go back to work I will be working mostly 12 hour shifts. DH will do the dropping off and picking up most days. It really depends on your daycare...most centers have a pick up by 6pm. But in-home daycares can go later. You will just have to research it some.
The fact that my schedule various every week makes finding a daycare very hard. GL.
DH and I both spent more time at work before DS was born -- we usually were both in by 8 am and didn't leave until at least 6 pm, and often 7 pm and later.
Since DS has been born, we alternate pick-ups. Whoever picks up leaves the office by 5:30, to make sure to get him by 5:45 or so. The other person tries to leave the office by 6:30 or so, to make sure to be home for bath and bed, if not dinner.
We are lucky in that DS is in my firm's day care, so it's open until 7. We have only left DS there past 6 pm one time, though.
We work a lot more at home now than we used to, which works fine with our jobs, but I know that doesn't work for everyone. If one of us has more to do than can be done during the day, we just work for a couple of hours after DS goes to bed.
I work full time from home as a telecommuter and we have a nanny caring for our DD in our home. DH works downtown. Basically, our nanny is here from 8:30 - 5, so I generally work those hours. DH has a slightly flexible schedule so on occasions when I have to start work early, like 8am, he can look after DD until the nanny gets here.
Usually, I am able to quit at 5 to relieve my nanny and then I will usually put in a couple hours after DD is in bed at night. I work with Tax people, so there are certain times of year (i.e. tax season) that it is impossible for me to just quit at 5pm, so during those periods i will either ask my nanny to stay late, arrange for my MIL or sister to come over and take over for her for an hour or so, or most of the time my DH uses some leave time to get himself home early so he can take care of DD while I deal with work. If DH had a need to work late (fortunately it doesn't happen that much for him) I would be able to accommodate him.
Before DD I often worked later in the evening; since DD was born we've just had to be creative and get in the extra work time when we can. I will also grab time during her naps on the weekends to get caught up on work.
Admittedly, having a nanny is helpful because we don't have to worry about dropping off and picking up by a certain time.
We have crazy hours too. I have a 25min drive usually work 7:30-5ish but on thursday until 530 with 1 weekend shift/month. In a month will work 5a-7/8p x4 weeks then 5/6a-6p x6 weeks then 6p-730a x2 weeks. My DH is a teacher at a tech college and works 8a-2p M, 8a-930p T-R and is off on fridays and weekends.
In other words, our schedule is crazy. We found that in our town there are 3 centers open until late, the other's were in shadier areas, ours is between 2 of the hospitals in town (not the ones I work at
) and is open until MN which will be needed when I work until 7/8p and when I am working nights. Right now my DH drops LO off at 745 M-R and whoever gets home first picks her up- him monday and me T-R. I feel guilty sometimes that she is there for 10-11hrs 3 days/week but we do what we have to and she gets a 3 day weekend every week.
I think life isn't perfect and hopefully my schedule will be more consistant next year (if I am not deployed, though I suppose that will be a consistant abscence). My LO will not be scared by a loving home and daycare, do what you think is right for your family. Maybe there is a daycare with late hours? Maybe your work has onsite daycare?? It's worth asking the questions.
GL when you decided to drink from the waters of fertility.
Kate was born 1-26-2008
Natural m/c on 10-18-09 at 9.5 weeks
Mira was born 9-14-2010