Should my husband/Dad to be come to the first doc's appt?

jcandme · August 2009

I just scheduled my first doctors appointment and it'll be right at my 8 week mark. This is our first baby and I have no idea at what point the dad to be starts joining in. When I told him about the appt. he acted like he wanted to come with, but I don't want to look stupid if this is not normal for the first time!

Am I thinking way too much into this, or is that normal?

kaay16 · August 2009

My husband came to my 8 week appt. because they did an ultrasound...i say if he wants to go, then he should go

kwhitson · August 2009

My DH is coming to our first appt - it is this Friday. When I scheduled the appt, I asked the Dr. what to expect and she said that we would be having an u/s. DH and I both decided that all appts that include u/s he should go to b/c we would hate for him to miss out on seeing the baby or hearing the heartbeat. Hope that helps.

Erin0922 · August 2009

DH is coming to my second appt (tomorrow), but couldn't make the first due to work conflicts. I think if he wants to go, awesome!

mrscupcake · August 2009

My first appt is 8 weeks, and my hubbs is coming too. I asked the nurse when I scheduled it whether DH comes to this appt, and she said sure if he wants!

GreenEyes05 · August 2009

For me, the daddy will be coming .. the first appointment is crucial to the Ob's. They will be asking all kinds of heath and medical history for the both of you....and i dont feel comfortable answering his familys medical history as im not fully aware of everything. So he will definatly be coming to the fist appointment.

gsimone24 · August 2009

My first appt was today. My husband came because of the ultrasound, but I think he got a lot more than he bargained for (complete annual exam, pap, etc). I don't think he was expecting the whole sha-bang!

bonnin507 · August 2009

I have my 8wk appt this Friday & DH is coming along for the u/s. Some husbands are very involved as well, so if he wants to come, I don't see anything wrong with it. If you're just getting b/w & going over the do's & dont's, maybe just let him know in case he finds that too boring & might not want to go.

beanie00914 · August 2009

My first appointment is Sept 1, DH is coming I want him to be there and he wants to be there too.

anabell0920 · August 2009

I would find out from your doctor if they are doing a u/s. My first one was just a blood test and them talking to me. My next one tomorrow is the pap etc. So they told me not to invite him lol

mrsadamc 05 · August 2009

I called my Dr. and the nurse told me that at my appointment (today--in less than 1 hour) there would be no reason for my DH to be there. She said it would be too early for there to be anything important to see and that the dr. may not even do an unltrsound today.

She sounded like she answered this question at least 100 times a day!

bjmyangel · August 2009

My DH will be at every appt. It is his baby too and he wants to be there for everything.

Marc's Mrs. · August 2009

I've had two appts. so far and DH has been to both of them with me. He's planning on being at all the appts. I'm thrilled that he wants to be there. My first appt. was just a pap, routine exam and bloodwork but it was nice to have an extra set of ears there to take in all the info. that was being thrown out at me.

jcandme · August 2009

Awesome,. thanks for the replies! I'll definitely bring him along, makes me feel better to know what others are doing!!!

S/Cambio · August 2009

I took my husband because I wanted him to be part of what will be discussed and so did he. Then of course he went to the u/s(at a different place) and to the 12w appointment because I knew they would try to hear the heartbeat with the doppler.

Now I'll probably be going by myself to the next appointments. No need for him to be there.

VTPurity · August 2009

My DH came b/c they were doing an u/s which we both felt was important for him to be at. ?Fortunately, DH has a job where he is kind of flexible so he is planning to attend most appts with me since this is our first. ?

MellsBells · August 2009

Thanks for asking this ... I'd been wondering!

IrishBrideND · August 2009

DH came with me and ALL we did was go over history. He wanted to be there and IMO he should. He is going to try to make every appointment. He should hear what the doc/nurse has to say, too.

KristinKD · August 2009

DH came to my first OB appointment both times but doesn't regularly go with me. He likes to go when I have ultrasounds, otherwise it's not really worth it for him to miss work.

I've seen plenty of other husbands there at different stages, though.

HalleyGirl · August 2009

Congratulations! I think we are due around the same time! Smile

I called and made my appointment today. The nurse said to definitely bring DH since the first appointment will be very comprehensive regarding do's and don'ts. GL and a H&H 9 months.

Kuuipo1006 · August 2009

my husband wanted to come to my appointment, and i had no idea if that was normal or not but he came and there was no problem! he wanted to meet the doctor that would be taking care of me :-)

MFalor · August 2009

My hubby didn't come to the first appointment. He doesn't want anything to do with all that "female" stuff, lol, and that's fine by me! However, I believe he'll be making an exception for the u/s (unless it's vaginal, in which case he'll be bolting out the door!!)

MikesFavoriteWife · August 2009

My DH went to all of my appointments when I was pg with DD. He wanted to and I was cool with it. It was nice having him there.

jacse007 · August 2009

My first dr appointment last pg was at 8 or so weeks. My dh came with me, thank God, because we did not see a heartbeat. LO stopped growing at 6weeks 2 days. If he had not been there, I would have been a wreck, more than what I was.

With that said, I couldn't imagine him not being there for the first heart beat. You'll probably want him there so he can hear it. I say have him as much involved as possible.

Kie310 · August 2009

No need. They did a normal check up and took blood, made me pee in a cup, took my BP -- nothing that my husband needed to see.

stacynikki · August 2009

DH came to every single appt with DS. I told him he didn't have to with this one but he asked why wouldn't he? I guess it's his way of feeling involved!

AmyMcMommy · August 2009

I had my first u/s at approx 6 weeks and there is still some cool stuff to see, I am glad to hear you are bringing him, I feel like sometimes daddys get left out of the fun pregnancy things, and we get to experience it all first hand. So yay for you bringing him!!!

Kanne0729 · August 2009

My husband has come to all my appts with me so far and my ultrasound. He's planning on coming to every other appt as well.

babywhoknows28 · August 2009

I'm really glad my DH came with me to my 8 week appointment. When we first heard the heartbeat and saw the sonogram, he got teary! We also went over family history on both sides, so it was good that he was there for that. He waited the the waiting room they did the pelvic exam - no need for him to see that!

Brandy&Keith · August 2009

My hubby has been to every one of my appts so far. I think he really enjoys coming because he gets to see/hear what is going on too. I wouldn't leave him out of this unless he doesn't want to be there.

juliegreg · August 2009

My husband came to all my appointments that he was able to go to in my first pregnancy. He will be doing the same with this one too. I think that it's important for the dads to be to be involved in pregnancy as much as they want to be. He enjoyed listening to the heartbeat and learning about the baby. It was also useful to have him there, so if I couldn't remember something the doctor said I could ask him. I say that its his child too, if he wants to be involved in the pregnancy then let him.