Opinions Needed Please: Especially Ladies Fired From DC

expecting-n-tx · August 2009

Ok beginning the 2nd weekend in August I began watching a 5 month old little girl. (there was a week break) but I had her all last week, and saw her both days this weekend. Progressively she has gotten more and more fussy with me. Today for the past hour she has been screaming no matter what I try. It is a high pitched rapture scream that makes my ears ring. My DD who is 11 months, has hyper senstive hearing, we believe. I know it has to be killing her ears. Well the little girl is my next door neighbors daughter so I dont want to make it ackward, however I dont think it is fair for DD to have to listen to this either. Do I ask her parents to find somewhere else? Do I stick it out? I am going to give them a week to find a new place, which should be bad as dad has flexability with his job.

1 More thing, they havent been successful leaving her ANYWHERE. They have tried numerous times at church and always get called out because she does this scream constantly and wont let anyone feed her ect.

SarahMay77 · August 2009

Any chance she has a diaper rash? DD went through a screaming phase last week. Her diaper rash (actually yeast) was the problem.

Has she always been a screamer or is this a more recent thing? It sounds like a deeper issue needs to be addressed. Maybe she needs to be put down for a nap sooner. Maybe her night sleep is terrible and her parents need to try some sleep training.

GL!!

PD's_Momma · August 2009

I would tell them that you have the same issues with the screaming & explain to them that it is affecting your DD. Speak to her "mom on mom" not as a DCP to keep it friendly.

expecting-n-tx · August 2009

No rash on her bottom, no rash in her mouth (my DD has thrush a bunch at that age so I thought I would check) Dont see any signs of teething.

She has always been a screamer. She sleeps through the night at home normally 10 to 7 am. She arrived at 745 this morning. The screeching started as soon as her dad closed the front door so I think it is related to that.

If I do it I will definatly do it mom to mom, I just feel bad and this is her mom's first week back at school so I am sure it is already stressful, but my more DD doesnt need this.

expecting-n-tx · August 2009

SpringPeeper:
It took DD two weeks to get used to the current sitter. And the second Monday was the worst. In fact, this week will probably be bad to because she's home with us today and I'll be home with her WEdnesday after her doctor appt.
I would stick it out the rest of the week personally. It makes it a million times harder for the LO to keep switching sitters. When we got fired both times, it was harder for DD to get used to a new place/person.
Plus, I personally hate the "it's not fair to my LO" thing. You signed up to care for the baby, you had to have known that crying was involved. It wouldn' be "fair" to your LO if you had a second and this was your baby either.

Crying my LO can take this is way past crying, and it is often. A second child is completely different to me than watching a child during the day. I understand that 'firing' her would not be ideal for her or her parents which is why I am trying to stick it out. Also I know I signed up to watch her which is why I dont intend to say umm dont bring her back tomorrow, I will give them time to find another location.

mavs_girl07 · August 2009

Honestly, I would give it more time. She's only 5 months old, and it just sounds like she has trouble adjusting to new places/people. This is the start of her 2nd week with you, right? I would be honest with the Mom and let her know how much she is screeching during the day, ask her if she has any ideas on how to stop it or control it, etc. But I think in all fairness to the baby and to the family, I would stick it out for at least a couple more weeks and see if it gets better.

expecting-n-tx · August 2009

SpringPeeper:
expecting-n-tx:
SpringPeeper:
It took DD two weeks to get used to the current sitter. And the second Monday was the worst. In fact, this week will probably be bad to because she's home with us today and I'll be home with her WEdnesday after her doctor appt.
I would stick it out the rest of the week personally. It makes it a million times harder for the LO to keep switching sitters. When we got fired both times, it was harder for DD to get used to a new place/person.
Plus, I personally hate the "it's not fair to my LO" thing. You signed up to care for the baby, you had to have known that crying was involved. It wouldn' be "fair" to your LO if you had a second and this was your baby either.
Crying my LO can take this is way past crying, and it is often. A second child is completely different to me than watching a child during the day. I understand that 'firing' her would not be ideal for her or her parents which is why I am trying to stick it out. Also I know I signed up to watch her which is why I dont intend to say umm dont bring her back tomorrow, I will give them time to find another location.

Sounds like they would be better off without you watching their child. Especially since it's only been a week. The worst feeling in the world is dropping your baby off with someone that has made it clear they don't want them there. I suggest you watch older babies from now on.

It has been more than a week please read SINCE THE BEGINNING OF AUGUST we just took a break. Also I dont see your point why they would be better off without me because it is different than having a second child. I would plan the arrival of a second child, I would have a larger age variance between DD and a second child, since these two are only 6 months between them. I am not sure in what happened with your previous sitters but you seem way to sensitive. Also if I remember correctly your last post said that your DD is thriving and happy at her current provider so why wouldnt I want that for this little girl, maybe she needs to be in a home where she is the only child, maybe she needs to be in her home with a nanny so she has her comfort zone. This has nothing to do with her age. As a parent I would want to know that my daughter is having problems adjusting to transistion and I would consider altering her situation to help her adjust to no mommy around.

Chloe77 · August 2009

No offense at all, because I wouldn't like this either if I were you, but this is why I turned down all of our nanny applicants who wanted to bring their own child. If I am paying for a nanny, I want my child to come first, not yours.

expecting-n-tx · August 2009

Chloe77:
No offense at all, because I wouldn't like this either if I were you, but this is why I turned down all of our nanny applicants who wanted to bring their own child. If I am paying for a nanny, I want my child to come first, not yours.

None taken I completely understand this. I was a nanny before graduating college. I would not accept a nanny with another child either. My choice my child. However her mom knows about my DD obviously. Her child gets no less care than my child, actually mine is probably being deprived today, not really, but hers is defiantly getting more attention.

Honestly if I chose not to continue caring for her I am going to recommend a nanny because it seems to be a location problem, if people watch her at her house she tends to do much better than when she is away from her house.

KathrynMD · August 2009

I would give it a couple more weeks, she's 5 months old and you're not her mom and she's not at home. It'll do your LO some good to learn to adjust too. Talk to the other mom and ask her if she has any recommendations. for how to help her LO adjust. Maybe have the mom bring somethign from home that smells like her - it might help her calm down a little bit.

Also, a week is really not enough notice to find another daycare set up.

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