Curious - "Come back in 6 mths"

Re: Curious - "Come back in 6 mths"

• smilee member

  August 2009

  Well, it is hard to know if you are ovulating if you don't at least chart for a little while.

  I suppose you can try it on your own for awhile and see what happens... perhaps you will be one of the lucky ones.

  If you are not TTC yet, why not chart before you start?  That way you at least know, for sure, that you are ovulating.   

  FWIW, I do think if you go back in 6 months time, the first thing they are going to ask is if you were charting.  

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• DinaLINY

  August 2009

  IMO, it takes some men a while to come to grips with the reality that not all women get PG the first month, or even many months. When I first spoke to DH about, he was in absolute denial - said similar things to your DH. that was 3.5 yrs ago. and although we took time off from it for a few years, he finally gets it now. some men need time to digest it.

  my Gyn didn't tell me about charting, my friend did. but she did tell me to start using OPK's.
  

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• chickaboo1974 member

  August 2009

  I just started temping on my own when DH and I decided that we wanted to TTC- my DH asked why I had the thermometer in the bedroom, I just told him that I was making sure that I was ovulating.  I never tell him when I O- I think he has a similar view that it is unromantic.  I just seduce him when the time is right.

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• rsrn02

  August 2009

  i agree coming back in 6 months the doc will probably ask if you are trying. yes its unromantic but you dont have to tell him everything.

  as with other things in life and marriage sometimes its best if they just dont know.  use OPK's , read taking charge of your fertility, pay attention to your body

  oh and good luck.  at the 6 month mark make sure to ask for a semen analysis. seriously its the least painful and most cost effective

  me however i was already diagnosed with a fertility problem before we started trying. then after going to RE we found out about MFI, would've been nice to know a whole year earlier

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• NowDNAtoo

  August 2009

  My OB/GYN didn't really care about my charts at all, but she strongly recommended using OPKs.  If you don't want to start off charting at least use OPKs.  Your DH wouldn't necessarily need to know about them.

  Once we went to an RE he took one look at my charts and said they were textbook and he could use them in his lectures, but that didn't end up being our issues, so charting doesn't always tell you what might be wrong if there is a problem.

  TTC #1 Cycle #18 m/c Jan. 9, 2007, chemical pg May 4, 2007, methotrexate shot Oct. 5, 2007--m/c Oct. 9, 2007, IUI Nov. 17, 2007 It worked! beta 11/30 & 12/6 TTC #2 Cycle #5 IUI July 20, 2009 -BFN 8-3-09 Cycle #6 IUI August 17, 2009-BFP! 8-31-09, beta 9-1-09, 9-8-09, saw the H/B 9-22-09 EDD 5-10-10

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• princess_shelly

  August 2009

  My OB/GYN actually told me not to chart.  He said using OPk's is better, and when we used them and were able to have sex that day it worked for us.  I did try charting anyway, after I had a m/c. but it was way too stressful, so I stopped after about 3 months.

  I am using the CBEFM this time around and am in the 2ww, so we'll se what happens.  I am also 4 years older than the last time around.  If we weren't successful this time around I am going to call my Dr. and see what we can do.
  

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• hav2run

  August 2009

  My DH and I are the same age difference as you and your DH.  We married when I was 35.  My OB had the same lax attitude.  I really wanted to try without intervention, and I got my BFP after 23 cycles.  We have been trying since Feb for #2.  With #1, I charted and made myself nuts with the chart stalking, took B6, baby aspirin, and finally used the CBEFM the month I got pg. It took 23 cycles to get my BFP.   I had an appt with the RE for the next month.  Since I am now 39, we have tried natural since Feb.  I am now on my B6 and low dose aspirin, and willl start CBEFM tomorrow.  No charting because it makes me a super nutjob.  I seriously hope I have the same luck with the CBEFM this time around.  I highly reccommend it to everyone.  I was ovulating much earlier than my chart showed and got pg the first month.  We BD every other night during my fertile period.  One might ask why we did not use CBEFM from the get go this time, but I really wanted to see if my pg with DD reset my body.  It did not, so here we go again. 

  I wish you lots of baby dust, and a shourt TTC journey!
  

  
  
  

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• panda246

  August 2009

  First, let me wish you good luck on your journey.

  My DH was against charting in the beginning too.  He said it would just stress him out.  I'll admit when I did start charting and using the CBEFM the whole process did get more stressful, but then again by that point we were wondering why in the heck we couldn't get pregnant.

  My Ob was not impressed with charting and said to only use the OPK.  (She also told me to "Relax" and I'd get pregnant...that still really ticks me off)  My RE doesn't like either and says that as long as you are doing the BD every other day you should be covered.  He thinks it take the enjoyment out of the whole process.,,,IMO a much more tactful was of suggesting that we relax.

  Your DH definitely has the right idea about the frequency thing.  If anything I find it helpful to chart just to know what cycle day I'm on. 

  Hopefully you won't that 6 month follow up and get your BFP soon!

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• hollymichael

  August 2009

  I would recommend using the OPK's.  You don't have to tell your DH.  At least this way, you will get a feel for when you are O'ing and will be able to get the timing right. Then again, the romantic part of TTC has gone by the wayside for me.  There is nothing romantic about an IUI.

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