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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
Would you be mad? (MIL)- Long
About a month or so ago MIL & FIL babysat DS on a Saturday night. She asked if she could take him to her church the next morning. DH told her Please, don't. We do not care for that church, it's beliefs and would prefer not to have DS in it. She said Ok and we thought that was the end of it. She rarely watches DS on the weekend and doesn't always go to church so it's not like we were inconveniencing her.
The next day when we went to pick up DS there was a church bulletin on her counter from that day. DH asked if she went and said no, that DH's grandma had dropped it off. Left it at that...
Saturday morning we ran into the pastor of her church(awkward), and DH said, "Oh I have a little one now" Pastor said "Oh I know, your mom had him in church a few weeks ago."
Later on that day DH called MIL and asked her if she has ever taken DS to church, she said "No, you never let me". He proceeded to ask her if she's ever taken an infant to church- she named his cousins who are now teenagers. He then told her how we ran into the Pastor and what he said. Her response.. Silence. "OHHHHH Yeah, I do remember now. Yes I forgot. Daddy was at work and I wanted to go because I hadn't been to church in awhile" DH pretty much called her a liar and she responded "I didn't lie, I just didn't tell you" This is not the first time we have caught her in lies. She's a habitual liar. Would you be mad? She acted as if we were being ridiculous and that we shouldn't have been mad because "God is everywhere"
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Re: Would you be mad? (MIL)- Long
This. She knew what she was doing.
There goes trust which is the most important thing you have to have when you leave your lo with someone else. I would not be leaving my lo with her again if it were me,
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
Yes, I would be mad.
What is so bad about this church that a baby who can't understand what is going on can't go? She probably wanted to show him off to her friends - grandmas do that.
I agree with you - I would be mad, but unless they are doing exorcisms or other weird stuff, I don't see what the big deal would have been (and I don't go to church, nor am I religious).
I would be furious because of the lies and let her know that. I would not have her watch your LO for a while.
As for church, not sure I really get the big deal either. When my parents are watching my DD, if they need to do something, they are welcome to bring her wherever. But that's me.
LMAO!!!!!!!
Yes, i'd be pissed. and like some of the previous posters said, it wouldn't even be so much about the religion, but more about the fact that she repeatedly lied. (i'm not a church-goer either.)
I'm pretty sure the least of the issues is the church visit itself.
Baby won't remember, she's just a proud grandma, and all that jazz.
However, it is troubling that she decided to do it anyway, then lie about it. That is creepy and controlling. Regardless of whether or not she agreed with your wishes, she decided to lie and be sneaky. That is what would piss me off. Like PP said, that's not a very trustworthy person IMO.
Yes, I would be very mad that she lied - that is a huge deal. However, I'm not sure about the church thing - I am not at all religious, I don't go to church and never really have, but if my step-mother (the only family member that goes to church) wants to take D to church, I'd be all for it. It gets him out of the house, he can be exposed to religion (and thus make his own call about it someday), nevermind that he is a baby and won't understand a word of it now. Plus, like a pp said - it sounds like your MIL really wanted to show off your little guy.
Bottom line is now I'd be pissed about the lie, but I also wouldn't have gotten all worked up about him going to church in the first place, so it probably wouldn't have happened.
Thanks Ladies- now I know I'm not overreacting.
Yes- she does have a carseat so at least I know he was safe. I made her get it inspected.
I really do wonder what else is going on when she watches him- she is absolutely ridiculous.
I'm not hugely upset over her taking him to church- it's what came after the fact. However, I don't understand why she can't respect our wishes- especially since to this day she tells me stories about her MIL doing the SAME things when DS and his brother were younger.
I wouldn't be letting her watch my child again. You say she's a habitual liar. And you question what goes on when she's watching your DS. Wel- you'll never know because you know she lies....
This is NOT someone I would trust the care of my child to.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
DMoney will be a kickass big sister