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Is it sad/crazy...
Is it sad that I've already started thinking about my baby shower/planning the theme?
I LOVE theme parties and CANNOT wait for my baby shower (not in a spoiled, I want to get free stuff way, have someone throw me a party - dh and I plan to pick up the tab) more of a I cannot wait to celebrate this baby ( and be that far along). I have already picked a theme and cannot WAIT for my cake.
I want to do a candyland theme, with bright primary colors, etc. And the cake is a cannoli filled yellow cake - to die for (we had it for our wedding).
Maybe it's just the cake I'm most excited for - I would loooove some of that cake now - I don't know if I can wait until the shower!
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Re: Is it sad/crazy...
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
This is what I thinking.
I think those are super cute ideas, but would find it in poor taste to:
a. throw your own shower
b. tell the host what the theme will be, etc.
This whole response is from an assumption I'm making, though, so if neither of those are the case, then ignore more. Or, ignore me anyway...
We most likely will be picking up the tab for the shower. His mother is single, and my parents are not in a very good financial place at the moment. My best friend since childhood will be moving to Vegas a month after the baby is born.
So it is a party that we will probably be putting on to invite our families to share in this moment.
I did not do a bridal shower, we had a destination wedding and small celebration when we returned. So the baby is something we want to celebrate big for the family.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
I guess I didn't/don't really see it as throwing my own shower. And I don't see it as a big deal, but that's just me I guess.
Majority of family functions are held at my home, so it's a given it will be here - and of course I will be involved. My SIL did her shower, we all helped, but it was her show. So I guess it's just more accepted in our family.
Thanks for the input ladies, sorry if you think it's a bad idea
Here's how I see it:
Some women on here will flame you for doing this your way - without taking into account your personal situations. I saw one person respond to a similar post : if no one throws you a shower, you don't get one. Period.
Coming from a family big on etiquette, I can see their POV. However, I take into consideration the fact that you want to CELEBRATE your baby with your family. And thats important. I have already had two people offer to throw mine. But like you, I didn't get a Bridal Shower due to the wedding I chose to have, and I feel like I missed out on that sense of "togetherness" with my girlfriends.
I agree, its not about free stuff, its about celebrating. Good luck, I hope you don't catch too much flack for this.
Cakemom, you have a fantasy job (and I'm sure it's 'real' work for you and not all sunshine)! But that is fun! You will have to post your cake when we get that far, I'm sure it will be great!
I am just a planner, and it's exciting - that was really the point of it all
Thanks.... right now it is a fantasy.... We were getting really into the planning of opening my own shop and then we found out we were expecting...... so that is put on hold. Now I am sticking to baking for family and friends and hopefully someday will make it my real job!!
Ugh, I don't see why some people give a crap about what other people do. Generally stating cultural norms and then accepting that everyone's circumstances are different (as some posters did) is one thing. Making someone feel like crap because their family is not in a financial situation to throw them a shower, especially after it's made clear that exceptional circumstances apply, is just stupid. Why the hell should people care what everyone else does once they've already decided to do something? That wasn't the point of the post! The point of the OP was to share excitement, not to be judged.
So, OP, yay for you and your shower! You desserve one -- with lots of cake and presents -- after, ya know, growing a human life for nine months and all. I certainly think a cake, regardless of who orders it, is called for!
Dream big! Your LO will be here soon and you will have it planned to a "T". Everyone starts somewhere and I'm sure your family and friends will talk you up big!
GL on your shop and with your LO!
Will you please point me in the direction of unsupportive replies after she explained her situation? Without explaining the situation first, you have to expect people to give their opinions. This is a public message board.
I only see one somewhat negative reponse after her explanation. Calm down.
Its really not ok to throw your own shower. You are essentially asking people to buy you things.
If you want to throw a party in celebration, do so but don't call it a shower. That way people can come celebrate without bringing a gift.
You do know that you do not throw your own shower, right?
It is called a gift grab otherwise.
Evidently, you brought them to the thread with you! Weird.
Geez. If you want to host your own shower - you can! Who made up this rule that you can't host your own shower? I know plenty of people who have done this - no issues... I plan to help host my own shower.
Have your canoli cake and eat it too.
This exactly.