5 days to go DH wants to switch the name.

c446784 · August 2009

I always loved the name Ryan for a girl but DH said it was a boys name and was set against it. We compromised and decided months ago on Charlotte Ryan as our little girl's name. At my baby shower I even got personalized things. Now he wants to go with Ryan Charlotte instead because it goes better with our first names... Neil and Erin. Both four letters....

Now I am indecisive .. Is Ryan too much of a boys name or is it more like Cameron, Avery, Jordan and being excepted as a girls' name.

ryaroberts · August 2009

I think Ryan is definitely being accepted as a girls name but I like it better with an E (Ryen) for a girl...

Manderlin923 · August 2009

I think of it as a boy's name. I do like it a lot as Charlotte Ryan. Plus, you already got stuff personalized.Why does it have to go with your names?

irish1114 · August 2009

My DS name is Ryan. Sorry, when I hear the name I automatically think boy. I like Charlotte, it's very nice.

qtpa2t · August 2009

I think boy, but more than that, I like Charlotte Ryan better than Ryan Charlotte.

ms.teacher · August 2009

I don't think you should switch to Ryan Charlotte just because your DH thinks it goes better with your names.

I do think of Ryan as first being a boy's name however, I have a girl cousin named Rian. I think the alternative spelling is more feminine.

Not sure what to do about the personalized stuff though. Good luck!

c446784 · August 2009

Well the personalized stuff can be repainted.... And we have a name sign but can ordr another one with Ryan and hang them up together...

starsmaycollide · August 2009

Stick with Charlotte, it is a good compromise. Ryan is still mainly a boy name.

ash.flea · August 2009

I love Ryan as a girls name (I've seen it spelled Rian or Ryann which are both a little more feminine IMO) but I think Charlotte Ryan flows better. I don't think that her name has to match yours at all.

Kara5109 · August 2009

I think of Ryan as a boy's name. I like Charlotte Ryan though.

twinmommy13 · August 2009

ugh- I hate Ryan on girls. It would have been the name we used for one of the twins if we had a BOY. Sorry- I would stick w/ Charlotte. I think he waited just a little too long on this one...especilaly since you have things personalized!

shanBmcg · August 2009

Ryan is all boy to me and one I'd hate to see go to the girls. Boy names for girls is getting tired IMO.

mgra328 · August 2009

i went to HS with a female ryan. she spelled it ryann.

i much much prefer charlotte. its on our short list.

get_over_yourself · August 2009

I love Ryan for a girl

FMIL&MOB · August 2009

Stick with Charlotte Ryan and call her Ryan. Then at least when she has to put down her first name they won't think boy.

bim38106 · August 2009

I think of Ryan as all boy. Not a gender neutral name at all! That said, I love Charlotte Ryan and I think such a feminine first name makes a masculine middle name ok. I don't think Ryan Charlotte flows well.

Lyssapee · August 2009

I have a good girl friend named Ryann.

iowagirl73 · August 2009

Personally, Ryan is a boys name to me. I will never think of it as a girl's name and I am not a fan of using masculine names for girls. I do like Charlotte though and think it sounds just fine with your and your husband's names.

Dukos · August 2009

Ryan is a boy's name. I know a lot of people are using boys names for girls now, but as someone who listened to my sister Kasey (which is really a pretty unisex name) talk for 26 years about how much she hates her name because the only people who have her name are "boys and dogs"; I would never do that to my kid. She has always been upset, ashamed and embarrassed by it and for a long time talked about changing her name. If it wasn't such a hassle and didn't cost money, I think she would've. Now that she's grown up and has met a few other girls with her name she's let a lot of that go, but she still gets mail addressed to Mr. Kasey xxx, and there are always instances when she's on rosters in school (college) and applying for jobs, etc. where people are suprised when they see her because they think she's a boy. It did not make for a fun start to a job interview. It's just always sucked for her. If you name you daughter Ryan, people will really always assume she's a boy.

Stick with Charlotte.

ajkg · August 2009

Stick with Charlotte. I don't like Ryan as a girl name at all. Very cute boy name though.

wheelenl · August 2009

iowagirl73:
Personally, Ryan is a boys name to me. I will never think of it as a girl's name and I am not a fan of using masculine names for girls. I do like Charlotte though and think it sounds just fine with your and your husband's names.

This. I think Charlotte is a much better name and your DH's reason for wanting to switch the name around is silly.

Alexandra*sMom · August 2009

Dukos:

Ryan is a boy's name. I know a lot of people are using boys names for girls now, but as someone who listened to my sister Kasey (which is really a pretty unisex name) talk for 26 years about how much she hates her name because the only people who have her name are "boys and dogs"; I would never do that to my kid. She has always been upset, ashamed and embarrassed by it and for a long time talked about changing her name. If it wasn't such a hassle and didn't cost money, I think she would've. Now that she's grown up and has met a few other girls with her name she's let a lot of that go, but she still gets mail addressed to Mr. Kasey xxx, and there are always instances when she's on rosters in school (college) and applying for jobs, etc. where people are suprised when they see her because they think she's a boy. It did not make for a fun start to a job interview. It's just always sucked for her. If you name you daughter Ryan, people will really always assume she's a boy.

Stick with Charlotte.

I actually see the flip side in this. We named our daughters Alexandra and Taylor - If DD1 put Alex it is not a given that either are girls or boys. That may get them an interview when they would have otherwise been overlooked. I think it takes a strong girl/woman to pull off a masculine name, but it can also work in their favor. Ryan was/is our girl #3 name. (Maybe up in the air after our neighbor had a boy and named him Ryan.) I say go stick with your gut. I like Ryan better than Charlotte, but it is not my choice it is between you and your DH.

mrskruse07 · August 2009

I've seen Ryan spelled Riann for a girl and I like that!

karaokerampergirl · August 2009

I've got a cousin ryan but it's spelled Ryanne. and her mom works with another girl named Ryann. It's not that unusual for a girl any more.

c446784 · August 2009

I also want to say I love unisex names for girls not boys. I have met three female Ryan's and they all were very pretty and confident. I am mad at dh to finally give n this late in the game. I think we are going to see her first.

theyaremyworld · August 2009

I like the original name or Ryan spelled Ryann for a girl

charlies-angel · August 2009

I like Charlotte better. Your husband's reason for switching makes no sense.

streamtrax41 · August 2009

If I had been a boy, my parents would have named me Ryan and I've always loved the name for a girl. It's definitely on our list, but we want to spell is Rhyan. But I did know a girl whose name was Ryanne. I think your idea of waiting to meet her before deciding is a good plan. I think either name is beautiful, and you can always call her Ryan even if you make it her middle name. Good luck!

shabang21 · August 2009

I definitely think 'BOY' for Ryan.

It doesn't matter if the name goes with the parents names or not...I don't see why it would!

soontobemrsdavis · August 2009

I love Ryan for a girl..and i really like a lot of the pp spelling variations. It is on our short list. For some reason though I like unisex names better on girls.

I am bias though bc we both have unisex names, Stacey(me) & Sinclair and are trying to stick with that theme when we are blessed to have kids.

Good luck! either way i dont think you can go wrong!

courtneyandandrew · August 2009

Stick with Charlotte Ryan....its beautiful

LittleMamaB · August 2009

I love Ryan for a girl, but I prefer Charlotte Ryan. It just flows better, imo.

naflmj · August 2009

Ryan is one of the only boys names that I like for a girl.

TheNextWest · August 2009

Charlotte Ryan sounds MUCH better and there is no reason for her name to match her parents. If he wants to call her Ryan, he can.

foundmylazybum · August 2009

Dukos:
Ryan is a boy's name. I know a lot of people are using boys names for girls now, but as someone who listened to my sister Kasey (which is really a pretty unisex name) talk for 26 years about how much she hates her name because the only people who have her name are "boys and dogs"; I would never do that to my kid. She has always been upset, ashamed and embarrassed by it and for a long time talked about changing her name. If it wasn't such a hassle and didn't cost money, I think she would've. Now that she's grown up and has met a few other girls with her name she's let a lot of that go, but she still gets mail addressed to Mr. Kasey xxx, and there are always instances when she's on rosters in school (college) and applying for jobs, etc. where people are suprised when they see her because they think she's a boy. It did not make for a fun start to a job interview. It's just always sucked for her. If you name you daughter Ryan, people will really always assume she's a boy.
Stick with Charlotte.

I have a boys name. Your sister sounds weak minded and immature. I never whined like this.

wheelenl · August 2009

Alexandra*sMom:
Dukos:

Ryan is a boy's name. I know a lot of people are using boys names for girls now, but as someone who listened to my sister Kasey (which is really a pretty unisex name) talk for 26 years about how much she hates her name because the only people who have her name are "boys and dogs"; I would never do that to my kid. She has always been upset, ashamed and embarrassed by it and for a long time talked about changing her name. If it wasn't such a hassle and didn't cost money, I think she would've. Now that she's grown up and has met a few other girls with her name she's let a lot of that go, but she still gets mail addressed to Mr. Kasey xxx, and there are always instances when she's on rosters in school (college) and applying for jobs, etc. where people are suprised when they see her because they think she's a boy. It did not make for a fun start to a job interview. It's just always sucked for her. If you name you daughter Ryan, people will really always assume she's a boy.

Stick with Charlotte.

I actually see the flip side in this. We named our daughters Alexandra and Taylor - If DD1 put Alex it is not a given that either are girls or boys. That may get them an interview when they would have otherwise been overlooked. I think it takes a strong girl/woman to pull off a masculine name, but it can also work in their favor. Ryan was/is our girl #3 name. (Maybe up in the air after our neighbor had a boy and named him Ryan.) I say go stick with your gut. I like Ryan better than Charlotte, but it is not my choice it is between you and your DH.

Honestly, this is 2009, not the era of Mad Men. I see much more advantages to giving a girl a girl's name than the opposite.

1) Less confusion as the poster with the sister's name Kasey said

2) Most employers today do not overlook candidates because they are women. If they do, is that somewhere you want to work?

3) In some cases, being a woman might help get someone noticed on a resume--the whole affirmative action thing (rightly or wrongly)

c446784 · August 2009

Did anyone watch that Cheerleader Nation show? The coaches daughter was named Ryan. I loved that show!

Poplin2007 · August 2009

Your husband wants to flip the names so that everyone's first name has 4 letters? That's ridiculous.

I think Charlotte Ryan flows nicely, and you can always call her Ryan if you really want to. I do think of Ryan as a boy's name, and I really hate all the 'feminine' spellings (Rhyan, Ryann, Rian, whatever). They look totally made up. If you want to name your girl Ryan, do it. Don't bastardize the spelling to make yourself feel better about giving your girl a boy's name.

c446784 · August 2009

We won't change the spelling.. I hate when people make up forms of names that what leads to mistakes. We are both teachers and have had students that are girls with Ryan as their first name ( also a few rian)

CourtneyRDH · August 2009

In no way is Ryan unisex. It may be used sometimes on girls, but it's not similar to a typical unisex name. I would guess 9/10 people would think it's a boy name since well, it IS a boy name. Use Charlotte. Beautiful name!

MamaMandaW · August 2009

Dukos:

Ryan is a boy's name. I know a lot of people are using boys names for girls now, but as someone who listened to my sister Kasey (which is really a pretty unisex name) talk for 26 years about how much she hates her name because the only people who have her name are "boys and dogs"; I would never do that to my kid. She has always been upset, ashamed and embarrassed by it and for a long time talked about changing her name. If it wasn't such a hassle and didn't cost money, I think she would've. Now that she's grown up and has met a few other girls with her name she's let a lot of that go, but she still gets mail addressed to Mr. Kasey xxx, and there are always instances when she's on rosters in school (college) and applying for jobs, etc. where people are suprised when they see her because they think she's a boy. It did not make for a fun start to a job interview. It's just always sucked for her. If you name you daughter Ryan, people will really always assume she's a boy.

Stick with Charlotte.

I have only known one male Casey.. and the other Casey/Kasey's that I have know.. oh about 10 in my life have been girls, I think it's strange that your sister thinks her name is only for boy

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