Should I hold off because my SIL's are both pregnant?

katieandmikeswedding · August 2009

I just found out this past week that both my brothers wife and my husbands brothers wife are pg and due in April. I am extremely close to both of them and I am THRILLED for both of them don't get me wrong! Our plan was to start ttc in october/november and i know that the chances of it happening right away are slim but how do you think the SIL's and family will feel if we do conceive while they are pg. I could always hold off a few months till april when there babies are born. I may be totally overthinking it but let me know what you think. Thanks!

marhar7106 · August 2009

I don't see why you would hold off. It could take some time to conceive anyway so I wouldn't wait. If you and your dh were planning to start ttc in October/November, I would stick with your plan.

cbwm · August 2009

If you had originally planned TTC this fall, DO IT. Why on earth would you put your plans on hold? Are you going to change your plans every time someone else you know pops up pregnant, FFS?

mrskadams · August 2009

Why would you put off your own family plans just because they are pregnant? I think it's silly when someone feels that another pregnancy is "stealing their thunder." If you're all very close, it would probably be fun to be pregnant together.

BecauseICan · August 2009

I don't understand. You are going to hold off TTC b/c they are pregnant? What in the world does that have to do with your wanting to expand your family?

ChefBrit · August 2009

I would stick to the plan.. it will be very fun at all the family functions to have all the babies so close in age.. if they are upset they need to grow up..

emiliemadison · August 2009

Totally overthinking. You cannot and should not plan your own life around what other people are doing. I'm sure your SILs would be thrilled if you could all be pregnant at the same time. And even if you did get pg right away, you'd only be a few months along when they gave birth. Why would that possibly impact them?

lizzyjean24 · August 2009

That is just ridiculous! If you get pregnant, then they should be happy for you. They should be happy that their LO's will have cousins around the same age

I wish one of my SIL's were pregnant at the same time as I was.

katlizabeth · August 2009

Do not plan your life around others. Just do what is best for you and your family.

houndbaby · August 2009

I wouldn't put your plans on hold, I don't see the issue with being pregnant at the same time as your SILs

Rangergal9 · August 2009

Like others said don't plan your life around others. My SIL has been TTC since Feb and regardless of whether or not she gets pg DH and I are still going to start TTC this coming winter. If she is pg by then, great, if not I am not going to hold off TTC because I will feel bad getting pg if she isnt. And I could care less about stealing her thunder if we are pg together.

auslyn804 · August 2009

I would still do it. Even if it did happen right away its still a good 4-5 months different. They should be happy for you! And even if they had some weird jealousy issues their children are still being born first!

katslep · August 2009

Don't plan your life around another's life. Stick out tongue

lawry13 · August 2009

I wouldn't hold off. My sister is finally pregnant after 27 months of trying and they were telling me the other night that we should get pregnant quick so we could be pregnant at the same time and the LO's would be close in age.

brooketini · August 2009

Like all the pp's, I don't quite understand why you would change your plans. My SIL is pregnant, and DH and I are actively TTC- it never even crossed my mind to wait.

~AllSmiles~ · August 2009

Don't put your family on hold for someone else's.

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