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Wouldn't this piss you off?
My uncle and his family are visiting from England, and we hardly ever see them. He has two girls, 9 and 11, and admittedly they are pretty loud and dont listen very well. However, my mom has taken it upon herself to discipline them. Even in front of their parents (her brother and SIL). She is constantly correcting their behavior or telling them to stop things. She even put the younger one in a time out. I told her its not ok to discipline other peoples kids, and that I would be pissed off if she does that to mine. She said some parents arent good enough at disciplining and some kids need it. I said it still isnt her place. Ugh, there will have to be some major talks about what her role is when LO comes. Anyone agree?
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Re: Wouldn't this piss you off?
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
I agree with the danger thing too. And that adults need respect. The girls arent so much doing 'bad' or dangerous things, just being really loud and not appropriate in public settings. And they argue constantly and ask the same questions over and over and complain alot. You know, kid things.
I would have no problem with her disciplining them if their parents were gone, but right in front of the parents? A little much.
If my nieces were misbehaving and my sister didn't say anything while in my house I might - but then again, I'm pretty close to my sister and my nieces.
In a similar situation, I am a community educator and work at different events in a pretty tough community. Thursday I had words with a ten year old boy that was completely being disrespectful. His mother chose to ignore his behavior. Generally I don't say anything but was at the end of my rope. I wasn't the only person "working" that spoke to this child. He came up three times and was grabbing handfuls of stuff from my table. He screamed at another table while someone was making a presentation and the guy working said something to him. As an adult, I am heartbroken when I see kids acting this way with no adult interference (often the adult is just as bad or worse). Should I have said something to him? Probably not but too many people let kids behave this way and we're failing in some of our communities if we raise kids this way.
It would only piss me off if it was interfering with doing it myself. But it didn't sound like the parents were doing anything about it themselves. I feel that in my own home, if kids are doing something I don't allow my own kids to do, they can't do it either. I also use the "we don't do that here" approach.
If I am visiting someone's house and my kids are doing something they shouldn't be and I don't catch it, I expect that someone would say something to them if they were doing something they didn't allow. I also watch my kids so they don't have to. If I am not there, they all know my kids know better, and will say something if necessary.
I think it's more rude for people to come over and let their kids run wild/ be disruptive in someone's elses home. Kids need to learn how to act appropriately out of the home, and yeah, your Mom was probably wasting her time, but if it made her time in her own home more enjoyable, so be it.