Loss of sex drive during the first trimester?

Re: Loss of sex drive during the first trimester?

• StarryNight39

  August 2009

  You're still very early in the first tri, so it is hard to say. this is my third child and I have noticed with all three pregnancies an increase in my sex drive ion the first tri. Everyone is different though.

   And just a word of advice, you have your full name in your signature. that is very dangerous, I would take it out if I were you.

  Good luck.

  
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• lljns

  August 2009

  In my experience I certainly had a loss in sex drive during the first trimester!  I am pretty sure I could count the number of times we have had sex since finding out I was pregnant on one hand, and I know that of those times, I only was "ahem" aroused once.

  The good thing is, it is certainly starting to get better as I move closer to the second trimester!  I am hoping that my sex drive will be bigger and better than before, but who knows.  You're certainly not alone!
  

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• bakerlm member

  August 2009

  I'm in the same boat... I'm due a few days ahead of you.  We actually haven't had sex since we have found out I was pregnant.  My DH is interested but I'm not.  I have done other things to help him out though.  That keeps him happy because he knows how I'm feeling right now and isn't pushing it.  I'm hoping I'll be over this soon and back in the saddle.

  

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• KGsky member

  August 2009

  Yeah, well, it's hard to feel sexy when you're exhausted, wanting to puke, and possibly scared s--tless! LOL? I say listen to your bod.? Obligatory sex on top of all those other things probably wouldn't be that great anyway.? As long as you are doing "other things" and DH is happy, ride it out for a while.? Second tri is usually when you start feeling kind of like yourself again.? GL!

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• Scooter359

  August 2009

  Its very normal! Dont be alarmed! With every trimester you will probably feel differently. The first, I wanted nothing to do with sex, second I was raring to go all the time and now in the third, again I want nothing to do with it. For me, im going to quote what another bumpie said, I "fake it till you make it", I dont 100% enjoy sex and most of the time I could really do without, but its nice to keep it up for SO sake and to keep some of the intamacy going in our relationship. If your concerned for his sake just talk to him about it, let him know that your hormones go totally out of wack and you might not really be in the mood all the time. Im sure he will understand.

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• dulcinea03 member

  August 2009

  Due to a combination of nausea, exhaustion, and spotting, I think its been at least 3 weeks since we've 'done it'. I finally feel like I'm turning the corner, and the spotting has ceased for the last week, so I'm starting to feel like I'm getting my mojo back. DH will be thrilled if it lasts.
  

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• starryeyeddreamer member

  August 2009

  Definitely agree that the sex drive has gone down for the first trimester. We have been told come the 2nd trimester it will be the opposite and you won't want to stop. But everyone is different. At least he is being understanding too - being in bed by 9pm every night doesn't exactly set the mood haha.
  

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• helovesmelots*

  August 2009

  I definitely hear you. I feel bad, too, but I have not been able to think about having sex among the puking, sleeping, and constant nausea. Thankfully, my husband is SUPER understanding, and knows that once I feel better, I will gladly go for it.  My friends have said that it gets much better in the second trimester, and they actually wanted to have sex more than they normally did! We'll see...I'm getting there! Don't worry, though. You're very normal.

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• gosborne

  August 2009

  Diddo to all the not having sex gals!  I am not interested in it at all, and I am very near the 2nd trimester and still feeling the same.  My poor DH... he is struggling, but he understands!  I hope that this changes soon!!!

  

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