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Something Ive never told anyone. (fffc)

mrs.serrato85mrs.serrato85
in Babies: 0 - 3 Months

The minutes after LO came out were the lonliest minutes of my life. J needed oxygen so I didnt get to hold him right away.

There I was so excited to see him, and so proud of myself for what I just did and I was ALONE.

Everyone was looking at J (except me)

All of a sudden I had to push out the placenta and their wasnt even anyone to help hold my legs any more.

DH, my mom, my sister.. all with J

I feel selfish for feeling bad, but I cant help it.

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  • laurenshaylaurenshay member
    I would have felt the same way.  Don't feel bad!
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  • choltbabycholtbaby

    I know how you feel. M was taken to another hospital for surgery the day she was born and DH went with her. That night I was just lying there by myself crying. I could hear other babies crying, but I didn't have one. It was devastatingly lonely. I didn't get to hold her til she was three days old. That was a good confession.

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  • MommyDee5MommyDee5
    Aww, don't feel bad. It's nothing to feel bad about.
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  • Payne2B2008Payne2B2008 member
    That also happen to me, everyone was around the baby but no family around me.

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  • heidismithheidismith member
    Dont feel bad, I know I would have felt the same way.
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  • PlannedChaosPlannedChaos
    That sucks.  But try being alone in the recovery area with a nurse, and your husband with the baby in the nursery, having shown the baby off to all the family present before you even got to see her.  THAT sucked.
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  • peeper72peeper72

    I don't know what to say...it seems like some of the most momentous times of my life  are remembered this way. I'm sorry it makes you feel bad though. Maybe people are as swept up as we are...I just don't know.

    P.S. Back in the day I did ecstasy a few times. It was too much for me, I'm not good with drugs....eff, if you can't enjoy X, what can you enjoy? While everyone else was touching each other and whatever I just wanted to be alone. Breathing was the most spiritual thing - I didn't need more than that. I try to remember that when I reflect on a moment like this. I am alone to take it in, process it, and make it a memory.

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  • kimsykimsy

    Don't feel bad. That is totally natural.

    DD needed a NICU eval after she was born, and while I was glad H was watching over her, it was like he up and disappeared after I pushed her out. I had a fourth degree tear and wasn't feeling well as they stitched me up (plus I was still crying from the emotion of it all), and I was kind of lonely too. I think the nurse noticed and kept me company until he made his way back over to me. But I probably would have done the same thing in his shoes, and I think DD needed him more than I did. 

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  • pinkle08pinkle08
    I know how you feel. The first night I was in those leg stimulators bc I had a c-section I couldn't get out of the bed and get LO out of the bed. I was alot a lil lonely when everyone was up taking pictures with LO and I was just left there in bed.
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  • kimsykimsy
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    I know how you feel. M was taken to another hospital for surgery the day she was born and DH went with her. That night I was just lying there by myself crying. I could hear other babies crying, but I didn't have one. It was devastatingly lonely. I didn't get to hold her til she was three days old. That was a good confession.

    Awww, that is so sad! I would have been a mess. I think I would have made my mom stay with me or something.

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  • DNK777DNK777 member
    I felt the same way during recovery.  DD was rushed to the NICU and DH went with her.  They brought me to this room by myself, hooked me up to the monitors, and left me there alone.  Plus I was still shaking from the pain meds and worried about DD.  It sucked.  Those hours DD was in the NICU were the longest hours of my life.  Then I feel like a complete arse for feeling so bad about myself because DD was healthy and I got to see her later on that night and I should be grateful for that.
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  • mags507mags507 member

    I had a similar experience.  DD needed oxygen soon after birth and was taken to the nursery.  DH went with her, which is what I wanted him to do, but that doesn't take away that lonely feeling.  No one got to hold her until the next day, but everyone got to see her in the nursery but me.  I was still in recovery. 

    I'm sorry you had to go through that too, but I feel better that someone else has similar feelings.

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  • kklickkakklickka member
    That must have been really hard!  Don't feel bad for feeling that way...I'm sure I would have also.
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