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If your DC is/was shy...

AndiGAndiG
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do you try to encourage them to be more outgoing or just let them be?  My DS is slow to warm - by the time he's comfortably engaged in playing (at a playgroup or playground type setting) its usually 10 minutes before we have to leave.  I just want him to be able to have fun and enjoy without crying when other kids come around him.   If you've been there - did your DC outgrow the phase? What helped?  He is around other kids his age or a bit older often (family, friends, mom group). TIA
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  • mikeandmonicamikeandmonica
    I don't have any advice, but my DS1 is the same way - he is so shy and takes forever to warm up to people (at least 20 minutes) and then he plays like crazy. We just let him take his time so we don't traumatize him. But we definitely don't baby him about it or hold him on our lap, etc. He just stands very near us.
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  • KellyMichelleKellyMichelle

    My DS is shy around other kids.  He does well with adults, but doesn't really interact with kids well.  We joined a playgroup and I don't push him, but I encourage him to at least say hi and bye to the other kids. 

    I was (and still am) very shy and I hated to be forced into situations so I try not to do that to DS, but and the same time I do want him to get over it.  No advice I guess, but you aren't alone.

    Kelly, Mom to Noah 8.27.05 (born at 26 weeks)
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  • Angela814Angela814 member
    imagemikeandmonica:
    I don't have any advice, but my DS1 is the same way - he is so shy and takes forever to warm up to people (at least 20 minutes) and then he plays like crazy. We just let him take his time so we don't traumatize him. But we definitely don't baby him about it or hold him on our lap, etc. He just stands very near us.
    This. DD has a very similar personality to mine. It takes her a while to warm up to new people. I've noticed a huge change in her over the last 6 months that I really attribute to her being in daycare full time. (She was part time while I was laid off so I don't think she had a good routine.) She's learning to play with the other kids and to stand up for herself. It also helps to talk to her about a new situation before we get there so that she has a comfort level prior. I also HATE when people label her as shy. Growing up I was always told how shy I was, and it really becomes almost crippling. It's hard to become more outgoing when you know everyone will comment on that too.
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