My DH has a request and I need advice please

always2busy · August 2009

This cycle my DH has requested that I do not temp. He thinks it is stressing me. I tried to explain that it is important information and it actually helps me from stressing.

I am going to grant his request, but I need advice for this next cycle. I will check CM and possibly CP. I've tried OPKs before, but honestly I can't hold my pee for 4 hours. Does any one have any suggestions? Thanks!

daisycook · August 2009

OPKs work for me and I never hold my pee for 4 hours. 2 hours at the most. I suggest giving them a try.

loloindiego · August 2009

There are some OPKs that work first pee in the morning.. so I'd get those (unfortunately they're not the internet cheapies).

I took a few cycles off from charting and while I don't regret it, I do wish I had more accurate O dates from those months. And to be honest with you, I wasn't any less stressed. I got tricky and would still temp during the last few days of the 2ww to see where my temps were at.

Good luck!

Kie310 · August 2009

They are way more expensive, but the ditigal OPKs (with the smily faces) you can use FMU. They worked great for me, and I loved them.

phillygirl526 · August 2009

If temping really does keep you from stressing, then I would think he'd understand that. I say it's your body, you can do what you want. That's just my opinion.

I understand your OPK problem though. I'm having a hell of a time holding my pee at the moment.

Mrs.PinkPearls · August 2009

I never hold my pee and I get positives.

shanmoyer · August 2009

how long have you been temping? To be honest, this cycle we have just had as much sex as possible...and we're trying to do it moreso to have sex so that the stress of making a baby isn't 100% there.

Sure, it's on my mind and yes I want to know what's going on with my body. However, it has helped us to not talk about O, or TTC, or temps/CM/CP. We're much more at ease with this cycle.

happytobemrs.m · August 2009

Check CM, OPKs, and you could splurge on CBEFM. I actually find that seeing the peaks and highs make me less stresses. But it is very $$, at least for me it was.

ToshaGirl · August 2009

If it would be more stressful to you not charting, he should respect that actually.

As pp said, those digitals that work with fmu could do the trick.

GL.

fatima5968 · August 2009

daisycook:
OPKs work for me and I never hold my pee for 4 hours. 2 hours at the most. I suggest giving them a try.

this for me this cycle...

always2busy · August 2009

Thanks ladies. I will look for those smiley opks. Are they in stores or online?

I am going to try this for him, because he does so much for me. I think if I am more stressed we will go back to me temping. I figure it is only one cycle, the only two things that could happen are I get pregnant, or I don't. I have had several cycles that haven't been pregnant results, so I know that feeling.

MrsPalmer05 · August 2009

This is cycle #7 for me and the first one not charting. For me personally, I am so much less stressed. I am a very obsessive person and would scrutinize that chart like 5 times a day! That said, I do seem to O on a pretty consistent date so I have a good idea.

craftlady07 · August 2009

CathyMD:

If it would be more stressful to you not charting, he should respect that actually.

As pp said, those digitals that work with fmu could do the trick.

GL.

this. and to be honest after a year of charting I know my body enough that I have taken a few cycles off from charting and Im loving the break, but only b/c I know my CM and O pains and I know if I AF doesnt' show up 14 days from when I O, I can take a test and maybe it'll be negative, and I won't stress out.

I have been fortunate that I haven't been super stressed so my o date has not varied considerably.

sroszc · August 2009

always2busy:

Thanks ladies. I will look for those smiley opks. Are they in stores or online?

I am going to try this for him, because he does so much for me. I think if I am more stressed we will go back to me temping. I figure it is only one cycle, the only two things that could happen are I get pregnant, or I don't. I have had several cycles that haven't been pregnant results, so I know that feeling.

Smiley's are the Clear Blue Easy digital OPK. You can get them online (amazon, etc) or i've found them at drug stores or Target. I love the digital, although they are quite a bit more expensive.

peteysweetie · August 2009

Find an opk that you can use in the morning, I use opks in the am and they work for me. And check cm you should be fine, and if this cycle doesn't work I'm sure your dh will see how stressed not charting makes you and you can start again next cycle. Good Luck!

Luv-a-Bug · August 2009

always2busy:

This cycle my DH has requested that I do not temp. He thinks it is stressing me. I tried to explain that it is important information and it actually helps me from stressing.

I am going to grant his request, but I need advice for this next cycle. I will check CM and possibly CP. I've tried OPKs before, but honestly I can't hold my pee for 4 hours. Does any one have any suggestions? Thanks!

My hubby also requested the same thing, saying he thought it was stressing me out too much. That first cycle I stopped temping I got my BFP. I did check CM and use OPK's when it was EW though.

I wish you luck!

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