SOOOO SICK OF OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS!

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

I'm having an elective c section. Period. I have a million reasons why I want one. They're the right reasons for me and that's all that matters. However...when people hear that I'm having it done they just ATTACK me! If you're going to flame me for it ... please spare it ... I'm not posting to defend c/s mama's nor putting down vaginal births. It's 2009 and woman have the right to decide how she wants to deliver her baby without such backlash! I'm just sick of people being so opinionated about how YOU should have YOUR baby! If I want to labor for 3 days without an epidural that's my business. OR... If I want an elective c section is also my business. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND JUST SMILE AND SAY CONGRATULATIONS!

jessicaclare · August 2009

I hate to break it to you, but you'd better just get used to it. The opinions and advice only become more abundant once you have the baby.

Alyssajoy87 · August 2009

Regardless of what each woman decides about how to have her baby, I think it's important that she's well-educated about her options and, from this and your other posts, it sounds like you are!

Enjoy knowing exactly when your LO will arrive and know that I'm jealous of you... I'll be worrying about the possibility of having my water break while I'm at the grocery store!! Wink

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · August 2009

No flames here. I plan on going vaginally, but if a c/s has to happen, no sweat off my back.?

CONGRATULATIONS!?

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

Alyssajoy87:
Enjoy knowing exactly when your LO will arrive and know that I'm jealous of you... I'll be worrying about the possibility of having my water break while I'm at the grocery store!!

LOL. You're funny. Thanx for the shout out.

kauai04 · August 2009

Alyssajoy87:

Enjoy knowing exactly when your LO will arrive and know that I'm jealous of you... I'll be worrying about the possibility of having my water break while I'm at the grocery store!!

This is me too. I teach elementary and one of the other teachers said she worried mine would break at school. I hadn't really thought about that, but now I can't forget about it!

mickey1330 · August 2009

I am not going to flame you, b.c i agree with you that every woman should have a choice of what kind of delivery they want and what is best for them.

I am hoping for a V-Bac this time, only b/c i had a long and painful recovery after I had a c/s for DS. I say good luck to you and your LO whatever you choose.

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

mickey1330:
I am not going to flame you, b.c i agree with you that every woman should have a choice of what kind of delivery they want and what is best for them.

I am hoping for a V-Bac this time, only b/c i had a long and painful recovery after I had a c/s for DS. I say good luck to you and your LO whatever you choose.

Thank you. Wishing you all the best this time around.

TXSweetheart · August 2009

You say for people to mind their own business, but you've put a c-section badge in your siggy. Sorry, but that's just asking for people to inquire about your decision.

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

TXSweetheart:
You say for people to mind their own business, but you've put a c-section badge in your siggy. Sorry, but that's just asking for people to inquire about your decision.

I thought siggy's are for what you plan to do. How is that bad? Just curious?

shestall · August 2009

Congratulations!

mlf625 · August 2009

Eh, whatever. ?Half of the women screaming about how evil the c-sections are will probably end up with one. ?I loved my planned c/s and am happy to have another one. ?I don't care how other women choose to give birth, I'm happy with my choice.

But I do agree the badge is a little weird since you're actually not a c/s mama. You don't know for sure what will happen (what if you randomly go into labor at 37 weeks and have the baby vaginally?), so it's kind of presumptive to stick that in there at 20-some weeks.

TXSweetheart · August 2009

DOMOKUN09:
TXSweetheart:
You say for people to mind their own business, but you've put a c-section badge in your siggy. Sorry, but that's just asking for people to inquire about your decision.
I thought siggy's are for what you plan to do. How is that bad? Just curious?

It's not bad, but I think those particular badges are for moms that have had their kiddos already. If you're only pg and you've already posted a c-section badge, you're basically using your siggy to advertise you are having a planned c-section. Something people on this board tend to question. I'm just saying, if you don't want the flack, I might consider removing it until after your LO is born.

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

mlf625:
But I do agree the badge is a little weird since you're actually not a c/s mama. You don't know for sure what will happen (what if you randomly go into labor at 37 weeks and have the baby vaginally?), so it's kind of presumptive to stick that in there at 20-some weeks.

Oh I didn't know that siggy's are such a big deal. I just put that up to dress up my siggy.

mlf625 · August 2009

DOMOKUN09:
mlf625:
But I do agree the badge is a little weird since you're actually not a c/s mama. You don't know for sure what will happen (what if you randomly go into labor at 37 weeks and have the baby vaginally?), so it's kind of presumptive to stick that in there at 20-some weeks.
Oh I didn't know that siggy's are such a big deal.? I just put that up to dress up my siggy.?

Yeah, they're not really a "big deal" any more than Michelle Obama wearing :::gasp::: shorts is a big deal. ?;) ?But in Nest land, putting a badge like that (or "Exclusive Breast Feeder") in your siggy before you've actually had the experience is frowned upon. ??

TXSweetheart · August 2009

mlf625:
DOMOKUN09:
mlf625:
But I do agree the badge is a little weird since you're actually not a c/s mama. You don't know for sure what will happen (what if you randomly go into labor at 37 weeks and have the baby vaginally?), so it's kind of presumptive to stick that in there at 20-some weeks.
Oh I didn't know that siggy's are such a big deal. I just put that up to dress up my siggy.
Yeah, they're not really a "big deal" any more than Michelle Obama wearing :::gasp::: shorts is a big deal. But in Nest land, putting a badge like that (or "Exclusive Breast Feeder") in your siggy before you've actually had the experience is frowned upon.

WHAT??!?!? Michelle Obama was wearing shorts?!?!?! Big Smile

mlf625 · August 2009

TXSweetheart:
mlf625:
DOMOKUN09:
mlf625:
But I do agree the badge is a little weird since you're actually not a c/s mama. You don't know for sure what will happen (what if you randomly go into labor at 37 weeks and have the baby vaginally?), so it's kind of presumptive to stick that in there at 20-some weeks.
Oh I didn't know that siggy's are such a big deal.? I just put that up to dress up my siggy.?
Yeah, they're not really a "big deal" any more than Michelle Obama wearing :::gasp::: shorts is a big deal. ?;) ?But in Nest land, putting a badge like that (or "Exclusive Breast Feeder") in your siggy before you've actually had the experience is frowned upon. ??
WHAT??!?!?? Michelle Obama was wearing shorts?!?!?!?

Well, it was actually a string bikini and clear hooker heels. ?Or, um, that's what I heard. ?;)?

jenny1980 · August 2009

Simple rule: if you don't want comments, don't share your plans. If people ask you about your birth plans, just be vague (ie: "We'll see how it goes!").

woolgathered · August 2009

Hey, your body, your choice! I am afraid of them, just because of the healing and such, but more power to you! Would love to know my specific countdown until the baby comes!

MrsRebecca · August 2009

I am jealous. I told my doctor that if it came down to it I wanted a c-section rather than an induction. Apparently you can't just have a c-section because you want one, you have to have a medically necessary reason. Unless you want your insurance to deny it.

Philsbride2be · August 2009

u have your reasons, that's all that matters. i wouldn't tell people though (like in real life) unless i was extremely close with them. some things are just too hard to explain to others, such as breast feeding or to not breast feed, etc, etc. i feel like some things are too personal to share with others and i have the mantra in my head myob!

Califlorida · August 2009

not everyone has a c/s badge because it's elective. some people know for medical reason they will have to have one.

and it's your body, your choice. who cares what anyone else thinks.

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

Philsbride2be:
u have your reasons, that's all that matters. i wouldn't tell people though (like in real life) unless i was extremely close with them. some things are just too hard to explain to others, such as breast feeding or to not breast feed, etc, etc. i feel like some things are too personal to share with others and i have the mantra in my head myob!

You have a great point. I guess I don't have to tell them anything. Esp if I know I'll just get yelled at.

louda99 · August 2009

I have ALWAYS thought I wanted a planned c - section. My dad being an OB thought it would be a good way to go etc. So when I got pregnant I would tell other women thats what I wanted and I got FLAMMED all the time, or the dirty looks blah blah. I have family telling me just let nature take it course etc. So now I have NO idea what I want to do. What are some of your reasons for doing it? I go to an OB with 4 docs and one of them told me she is also doing elective c section but I still dont know. My dad says well just hold off and decided when you are further along to see if maybe you might need one any way. So please share with me your thoughts of why you are having one if you dont mind. Thanks!

anderst · August 2009

jessicaclare:
I hate to break it to you, but you'd better just get used to it. The opinions and advice only become more abundant once you have the baby.

this

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · August 2009

Alyssajoy87:
Regardless of what each woman decides about how to have her baby, I think it's important that she's well-educated about her options and, from this and your other posts, it sounds like you are!
Enjoy knowing exactly when your LO will arrive and know that I'm jealous of you... I'll be worrying about the possibility of having my water break while I'm at the grocery store!!?

I should point out that I was a planned c/s with my mother and still put her in labor. Being "planned" doesn't mean the baby won't have his or her own ideas. I was still delivered by c/s, but at 3:16 am... instead of the pre-planned 9:30 am cakewalk. ?

maryverrecchia · August 2009

You know what they say about opinions....anyway, as long as your doctor is fine with you having an elected c section, thats all that matters. Wishing you a very safe, healthy, and happy birth!

TKMack&hearts;BABY · August 2009

I was really looking forward to beginning to read and respond to 2nd Tri posts...but you are all pretty mean...

Aren't we all here for some love, support and Q&A? And sure, an occasional rant about pains, DH's, and other negatives...seems to me you all did EXACTLY what the original poster asked you NOT to do, start splatting your opinions all over the page! I mean, some of you guys attacked her SIGGY!!!!!!!! REALLY??? Maybe it's all your hormones (and maybe it's mine kicking in to defend her) but I am starting to miss the First Tri boards/posts already...those women are much nicer to one another.

I am sure this will get me "shunned" by some of you...and that is fine, I am just calling it like I see it, and I see some mean, angry women...

To the original poster: Good luck, whatever happens with you and your LO...I was a beautiful C/S baby and though I am looking forward to trying vag, I know that road is best/neccessary for so many women...so the best of luck to you and may you have a beautiful pregnancy and a healthy baby!!

Mrs.tlcS · August 2009

TMack2008:
I was really looking forward to beginning to read and respond to 2nd Tri posts...but you are all pretty mean...
I'm confused... who was mean?
Aren't we all here for some love, support and Q&A? And sure, an occasional rant about pains, DH's, and other negatives...seems to me you all did EXACTLY what the original poster asked you NOT to do, start splatting your opinions all over the page! I mean, some of you guys attacked her SIGGY!!!!!!!! REALLY??? Maybe it's all your hormones (and maybe it's mine kicking in to defend her) but I am starting to miss the First Tri boards/posts already...those women are much nicer to one another.
No. We're not all here for love and support. Some of us are here for entertainment. Love and support can be obtained from family and IRL friends. Here on the Nest/Bump, if you ask a question/throw out an opinion, you can expect to hear a lot of different responses. They are not all what you want to hear.
The advice about the siggy was prudent, IMO. If she doesn't want to hear opinions about her decision to have a c-section, then she should not invite questions about it.
I am sure this will get me "shunned" by some of you...and that is fine, I am just calling it like I see it, and I see some mean, angry women...
I see naive women. And dead people.
To the original poster: Good luck, whatever happens with you and your LO...I was a beautiful C/S baby and though I am looking forward to trying vag, I know that road is best/neccessary for so many women...so the best of luck to you and may you have a beautiful pregnancy and a healthy baby!!

In response to the OP, if you don't want opinions, then there are ways to shut down conversation politely. Jenny1980 (I think... I didn't go back to quote, sorry) gave you a pretty good one. There's also "we have to put a lot more thought into decisions like that" and good old smile, nod and do what you're going to do anyway.

Best of luck to you, and I hope you have a pleasant birth experience.

DOMOKUN09 · August 2009

TMack2008:

Thanks TMack2008 for your shout out. I was kind of surprised too that even my Siggy was under such careful scrutiy. But then what do I know...I'm not forum guru. I took it down so I don't have to hear more about it. I appreciate u taking the time to speak up for your fellow bump gal. I'm very excited for this baby.

Pacheco825 · August 2009

This is the bump if you dont want other peoples opinions then.....DONT POST!

Mrs.tlcS · August 2009

Pacheco825:
.....DONT POST!

Actually, this advice, when given to you, looks better and better all the time.

brandonsfuturewife07 · August 2009

if you don't want other people's opinions, maybe you should look into a blog.

userdeleted · August 2009

Goodness, you're on a roll here aren't you?

heatherw7 · August 2009

Your an idiot.

And to the one who said their dad is an OB and said a planned c/s would be the way to go.... first of all, if he was your doc.... thats so fvcked up.
And secondly, no doc would WANT a woman to have major surgery.... unless its needed for medical reasons.

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