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So the nanny dramz continues....
So after the last drama of the one we hired who quit 4 days later b/f she even started because she decided to stay with her current job, we have continued to interview. Time is running out so the sooner the better with a pick. So todya we interview a girl we both like, a lot. She scoops up Rachel when Rachel is crying and immediately tries to soothe her etc. We liked what we saw. We got a good vibe from her. SO, she gives us a bunch of references to call. This is where it gets dicey. All the people we spoke with had GREAT things to say about her nannying and how easy and pleasant she is to live with. This is great to hear. What isn't so great is that she pretty much up and left 2 of her jobs after 6-8 months for various reasons--all brought on by herself. And with no notice, leaving these families high and dry. She apparently didn't react well when a previous employer called her out on a few things they were unhappy with and she basically said, pay me more $ or I quit. Well, the family couldn't afford to pay her any more, so she quit and they had to find a new nanny asap. Again, GREAT with the kids, but this worries me. On the flip side, ANYONE you hire can give you their own song and dance and up and leave any time ---regardless of any glowing references. We did get a good vibe from her and honestly, if I can get 6-8 months out of her, that is not so terrible at this point. My kids' care and safety are my priority. The worse thing is that we'd have to go through this process again in 6-8 months--which sucks but it is what it is....
So for now, she is hired and is to start 8/31. But we put in a call to her tonight to talk to her about this recent track record of hers.....
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Re: So the nanny dramz continues....
how about putting a bounty on a year, or even giving you a 3 week notice? like "you work a year, you get an extra $200 bonus, or if you give us a full 3 week notice, we'll throw in $200 as a parting gift" kind of thing... ????
But I am thinking she might buck at just being called out on her history. but good for your guys. I don't envy you guys one bit. I look back and think Man! I was a good nanny... I didn't pull ANY crap with my families! ;-) ok, I ate one lady's Dove bars sometimes, lol.
Well, there are always 2 sides to every story ... I am optimistic that she will have an explanation that makes sense. Part of me is scratching my head that she would put these people down as a reference .. you know? If she thought they might have anything negative to say?
Let us know what happens - good luck!!
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Ok your sig pic is too cute davez. She is adorable even in that cast! I hope she is feeling better and managing ok.
Very true what you wrote that she may decide not to take the job b/c we are confronting her on her track record. Totally willing to take that risk or we'd kick ourselves for not going there....yeah, it really really sucks to go through this process. I am not one of the lucky ones with an available mom/mil/female relative to watch them.
Yeah.. I am with Lucy.. I am surprised she would put these people down as a reference and they would say that. You have to let us know what her reaction is. But in this 'Nanny Game' 6-8 months is a good thing for sure.
I really like the idea of giving her an incentive bonus of.. if you are here for 1 year.. and if you give me 2-3 weeks notice.. I'll pay you $x. I just may do that next time. right now I am just planning to make my nanny really happy with what she finds in her christmas stocking at our house!
Right now I am delusionally hoping for 2 years out of mine.
I love the bonus idea too - that is very, very smart!! For any nanny hire, really.
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Thanks guys.....we still haven't heard back from her but when we do, I'll be sure to let you know what she says!
Everafter--you are not delusional at all. We wanted 2 years out of our nanny too and we are THRILLED we got one full year out of her! She took the girls from 7 weeks old to now and I seriously am so happy with that...if we can get the next one for another full year-GREAT! If not, like I wrote, I will be 'ok' with 6-8 months if they are a good 6-8 months and I hopefully get some notice if and when she leaves....like you said---in the nanny world--6-8 months is really great! Compared to my many working mom friends who have had nannies for many years--the fact that we had the same one for 1 year is pretty good....I have 1 friend who went through about 8 in 3 years! YIKES!
On another note--we are seriously considering daycare for next fall when they turn 2. There a few near my house/job so we are going to start that process soon...we were not adverse to it at all, just with 2 (and you know what I mean!) it is ridiculously expensive and the drop off/pick up logistics can be crazy. But at 2 years old, there is less 'gear' to take there and they can walk at that point. A whole new world from now. We will just need to line up back-up babysitters for the inevitable sick days (especially first 6 months or so)!