does anyone else have this happen? MIL keeps referring to our LO and BIL children as "her babies" this drives me crazy! Um sorry, you already raised your two children. This LO is DH and my baby and your GRANDbaby. She also referred to my shower as her shower as well. I think she is off her rocker.
BIL and SIL have decided to move out of state and she is getting worse. She just referred to her baby in an email and I sounded all confused and asked if she meant her Grandbaby? I thought she got it when she replied, but then she sent another email saying that "you don't know how much you love them when it's your child having a child until it happens to you" umm i never questioned your love or excitement. just the wording of baby vs. grandbaby.
How have you handled this when it happens?
Re: Grandparents calling grandchildren "their babies"
My inlaws call the baby "our baby" and I give them the benefit of the doubt that they are just excited and don't actually mean anything stupid. Besides, they live on the other side of the country so they can't do much damage anyway.
If it really bugged me, I'd have my husband talk to them.
Oh my gosh - my parents and IL's do this too! ?It is starting to drive me insane.?
They keep saying - this is our baby! ?We will be having a baby soon! ?
?NO! ?This is mine and DH's baby - and last time I checked, he his in my ute and will be coming out of MY Vajajay!! ?
Glad I am not the only one. ?I think I might lose it when they start to refer to my son as their "baby" once he is out of the womb. ?GRRRR
Sorry I have no advice to cope...
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I wouldn't like that wording either.
MIL refers to the baby as "ours" and even that bothers me. I am a bit worried that she's going to be a little "over-involved" with the baby and take away from the time I have to bond with the baby. Hopefully once the baby arrives I'm not going to have to make an issue of it...
This. I actually find it kinda funny.
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Me too. Heck most of the IL/parents stuff that is referenced on here doesn't even happen to us. We live out of state and our family knows that we don't take their sh!t. They all know we moved out of state to get away from their routine drama.
It's funny you should ask. My MIL calls DS this all the time. It REALLY gets on my nerves. On the other hand, our relationship isn't great anyway and she does help with him so I let it go. I know that she knows he isn't hers. After all, she sees him once a week. I'm a SAHM so I get 99% of his time.
There are a lot of annoying things with grandparents concerning babies. Just remember, YOU are the mom and you have to let some things slide.
I know the feeling. My mom keeps referring to our LO as her baby and it's driving me crazy! I told her couple of times that she is MY baby and her GRANDBABY, but she is saying that since I am her baby and the LO is my baby, that automatically makes my baby her baby.
I hope she won't be referring to my girl that way when she is born.