DH and I are talking about another baby

jennmy · August 2009

We always said we wanted to have our kids close in age. I just can't believe it's time to start talking about it already. Now that the time is here, we don't know what to do. Anyone else been here?

Evans · August 2009

We considered it right at DD1s birthday and stopped avoiding that next month and, well, DD2 was born in June

It felt right to use time wise. ?I wanted them to be close in age, but also DD1 to have reached certain milestones as well (communication, behavior, etc.). ?It really is a personal decision and best of luck to you.

Hope you are doing well - haven't seen you around in forever.?

ECUGirl2004 · August 2009

Exciting! It can be really hard to decide when the right time is. I've been kind of ready since DS turned 1, but DH isn't ready so I'm just hanging out and waiting. But I'd love to have another one in the next year or so.

raceyrae · August 2009

DH and I had always planned to have ours 18-24 mo apart and well, it turned out to be 18 mo. We just decided to take the plunge and see how things went. I have to admit I'm a little freaked out to have them this close in age but I know I'll be glad once DD#2 is here and we work out our routine, etc. It will be great having them close in age! Good luck!

<3cici<3 · August 2009

DH and I say we want them 3 years apart. Two years apart would be too crazy while I try to finish school and finish my last few years at work - I really only want to have to deal with pregnancy & school & being a nanny for one child - not go through it twice. Also, more than just certain milestones like communicating, I would like my first child to be entering the potty training stage, have thoughts and actions showing independence and individualism - not being super clingy, and have better understanding of a new baby coming. If I wanted them two years apart it would mean still dealing with very "babyish/young toddler" characteristics while TTC and during pregnancy and I would want to be past that stage when the second child is born.

dbertagni · August 2009

We're thinking of trying in either Nov. or Feb. It took us a while to get pregnant, and we want them pretty close in age. My sister's kids are almost 4 years apart and one is a boy and one a girl and she said they just have to do totally separate things because of the age/sex difference. I would love to have two little girls close in age!

WendyNC · August 2009

I went off the pill right when DD1 turned 1 at the end of October and was pregnant by Jan. I never thought I would be a mom of 2 under 2 but we just decided that we weren't getting any younger and I wanted my kids close in age. My sister and I are 6.5 years apart and it's WAY too much!

jennmy · August 2009

Thanks ladies. Like a lot of you, me and my sister are almost 6 years apart, and it's I think it too far. DH and his sister are a little over two years apart and much closer.

futureJHL · August 2009

Just looking at the other side of the coin...have you thought about how having 2 kids close in age will affect you financially... Two getting cars right around the same time....two with car insurance....two in college....

Maybe I'll change my mind, but I don't think we'll even think about TTC agan until Nora is 2.5-3 years old... I just think spacing them out is easier financially. Maybe that's selfish of me, but I'm also thinking of their well-being...

ECUPirate04 · August 2009

futureJHL:

Just looking at the other side of the coin...have you thought about how having 2 kids close in age will affect you financially... Two getting cars right around the same time....two with car insurance....two in college....

Maybe I'll change my mind, but I don't think we'll even think about TTC agan until Nora is 2.5-3 years old... I just think spacing them out is easier financially. Maybe that's selfish of me, but I'm also thinking of their well-being...

You and I think a lot alike. I was just thinking about this exact thing this morning. If we do decide to try again which I think we are then we will have to pretty much turn around and do it again right afterwards if we want to have two children.

For us that brings up the same issues you outlined. The daycare I was going with for Megan Grace and would choose again was $850 per month. For two kids that is $1,700. It is something to think about and I'm glad you brought it up.

Temp782982187506089 · August 2009

We definitely want to have more, and originally said about 2 years apart would be good. My siblings and I are all 6 years apart and that was hard growing up. On the other hand, DH and his brotherare 15 months apart and it was hard on them competition wise and they never got along, plus his mom said it was difficult.

We are set to TTC again next Fall so they will be about 2 years apart. We need to make sure I am done school and have a new job, finances need to be set for 2, and we want to buy a new house by then.

lah1177 · August 2009

I always thought I wanted my babies close together like my sister and I are (21 months apart) but when the time came, I just was not ready. I was just enjoying the time I had with my DD and I knew having a baby would change all that. I now think three years is a good age difference (for us personally) b/c Ashley is more independent, etc. My DH has been ready for a long time but I am still sort of on the fence. I guess I am just nervous because everything is so easy now, but the longer we wait, the harder it will be. Best of luck to you!

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