Any first-timers planning on only 1?

MrsRebecca · August 2009

With this pregnancy being as rough as it has been , DH and I have seriously considered making this our only child. He is an only child so he definitely has some perspective on what it's like to raise an only child.

mefsta777 · August 2009

this is a miracle baby for us to being with (i was told i would never have kids). We dont want to tempt fate twice. it has been a tough road already, and its just not safe to me or baby to try again. this is our only.

mrgn · August 2009

My pregnancy was unexpected and I am only 19 years old. I am very blessed to have the support of my family and friends, but I am no longer with the father of my child. So, I am not planning for any more in the next several years, that's for sure. But I would like to have more children when I've married and settled down.

naflmj · August 2009

I always thought I would want 4 or 5, I am basically an only child (1/2 sister is 12 yrs younger than m e) and I always hated it. However, we know we can financially provide better for one child, I guess we'll see after one.

greycoral · August 2009

I feel that one child will absolutely make our family complete. 1 baby and lots of dogs, that's what I see in our future

I was an only child for 11 years and I LOVED it. My mom got remarried and i got stuck being the baby sitter for their new kid. I moved out when he was only 6, so I really don't know him at all.

DH has a sister, they're very close in age, but they don't have much of a relationship either. I just can't even imagine us with more than one. Plus, I'm already 31 yrs old, I'm old enough to know that I won't be tempted again.

JaysonandKristin · August 2009

This is our first - and I'm SO PROUD TO SAY - our last. ?Once we get through delivery and the SIDS infant stage, Daddy's getting snipped! ?He can't wait! ?Neither can I! ?

KateLouise · August 2009

I always wanted to at least 3. When I was in the the throws of morning sickness I started seriously consideirng only having one. IN fact at one point I think I said, "and we could give this one away if we want"

Now I'm out the other side of the sickness I'm feeling much more positive about having more children.

Is it morning sickness that is making it tough or are there other complications as well.

I know some women who were violently ill every day until they gave birth and still went back for more children so I comforted myself by thinking, "well they must think all the illness was worth it"

pagingdrmiller · August 2009

I grew up an only child-and have very little perspective on parenting more than one. DH and I decided to have just one. The pregnancy has been relatively smooth sailing. I feel like our family will be complete with a single child. We do plan to wait five years before taking any permanent steps, though.

greycoral · August 2009

I've had a very easy pregnancy so far (no barfing or other complication), but I just don't like being pregnant at all. I also feel that a lot of people get too stressed out with multiple children. With one, we can put all our love and attention into him, know that we can provide a stable household for him, and not be too tied down I guess.

MrsRebecca · August 2009

KateLouise:
I always wanted to at least 3. When I was in the the throws of morning sickness I started seriously consideirng only having one. IN fact at one point I think I said, "and we could give this one away if we want"
Now I'm out the other side of the sickness I'm feeling much more positive about having more children.
Is it morning sickness that is making it tough or are there other complications as well.
I know some women who were violently ill every day until they gave birth and still went back for more children so I comforted myself by thinking, "well they must think all the illness was worth it"

It's not just morning sickness. But, I also have HG so my morning sickness is a bit more severe than your average. I have been in the hospital and am currently not working...and I am not even halfway through my pregnancy.

I do have to say though that even if it was "just" morning sickness, it's still enough to make me not want to do this again.

avbliss · August 2009

DH and I plan on having as many children as God wants to bless us with, in what ever manner He chooses to send them to us. SO we plan on having a large family of natural and adopted children. They are such a blessing and although I can respect anyone elses choice, we don't want to intentionally limit how many blessings we get.

honeybee111 · August 2009

We always thought we would have two, but after going through IF issues and a rough first trimester, we're going to see how this one goes first.

nickicl · August 2009

Hmm. . I'm not sure yet. I used to think I wanted 0. Well I'm having at least 1 and thats final. There is no need to plan beyond that at this time and I don't think I would base the decision on prego pains alone.

I'm an only child and I see both good and bad in that. The kid is definitely going to be surrounded by cousins and friends' children in the same age range so it will be different than it was for me either way.

chick730 · August 2009

Unless our financial situation changes in the next 4 years and we can afford for me to stay home...this will be our only child.

Prinycesa07 · August 2009

We do hope to have 1 more but if we don't i would be completely happy with that too. I would feel that our family was complete with just 1 child.

nikkirenee81 · August 2009

This will be our only child together, DH has an 8 year old daughter who is with us half time and we decided that three kids would be too many.

jenny1980 · August 2009

We're pretty committed to at least two, but if pregnancy were something I couldn't do again (and I don't blame you a bit!!!), we would look into adoption

We're definitely spacing them at least three years apart, though.

skinnursemandee · August 2009

This baby is truly a miracle for us but that being said, I will never in my life get pregnant again. I love my baby so much but I do not think I could physically do again in my life. I have had such a horrible complication filled pregnancy that this is it! I wasn't half this sick when I was on chemo. I will be 33 when she is born so I can't do this again as I get older. We are hoping to adopt a little boy in a few years.

lovebug630 · August 2009

Yep, we're just planning on one. I'm 37 and have fibromyalgia, so I don't think I could keep up with two kids!

poison489 · August 2009

We are planning on just one, but may adopt another later on. The world is overpolulated and we are somewhat trying to do our part to not add to the overpopulation.

murfygirl · August 2009

I am the middle child of 7 and my fiance is the baby of 3. Before we ever got pregnant we would always eat dinner at the table and feel like someone was missing so the joke is we will go till our dining room table is filled (we have a big dining room table LOL) I think I would feel lonely unless we fill our house! He says 5 I say we will see! My pregnancy has been miserable awful MS that being said I think I will forget about in time and it is such a short period of time to be sick for my children!

I could imagine a lot of good reasons to have one and I say if one is enough for you go for it!

C12H22O11 · August 2009

We're pretty sure this is it. But we're not making anything permenant for probably 5-6 years. If we do have another, it will be after this one gets into kindergarten.

DH and I both have a younger sibling and neither of us were/are very close to them, so we don't really feel like our child will be missing out on having a sibling. Plus, we feel like only having one will afford that child more opportunities than if we had more than one (ie, taking trips to other countries, participating in potentially expensive extracurriculars, etc).

mikkelsonch · August 2009

We're only having one. I wouldn't mind being a temporary foster family when baby is in Kindergarten, but we really only want one.

Nessdogg · August 2009

I totally understand how you feel. I'm actually in the hospital right now and have been since last Friday due to gallbladder issues. I had HG from 6-21 weeks. I've been off work since the end of March and had to have a PICC line placed so I could receive TPN - supplement nutrition. Since I could not hold any liquids or food down and I developed a loss of appetite. I had to be hospitalized for two weeks last month due to a gallbladder infection and was told that I would be induced at 37 weeks and about a month or two after I deliver I will have my gallbladder removed. The doctors assume all the gallbladder issues are due to the TPN. I'm here at the hospital again since they feel that I had and infectin uterus is pushing up on my gallbladder. It has been extremely painful and I love her with all of my heart, but I told DH that this is it or at least until she's in preschool or kindergarden. I'm hoping by that time I will have forgotten or we'll adopt. Feel free to contact me through my blog, I'm trying to explain my story since HG was new to me and is very difficult on you emotionally, mentally and especially physically.

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