Really WTH being an AP does not mean that you don't discipline!

TakYelgif · August 2009

Went to the mall play area yesterday, it was busy but manageable and DS was having a lot of fun. Two things happened though that seriously pissed me off.

First: There was the bully 5 year old who kept pushing Fenton all Fen wanted to do was crawl through the train. After multiple attempts I picked Fenton up and took him to another part of the play area because his lazy a$$ mother wasn't doing anything about even after I asked her. Serioulsy your brat child is pushing a baby clearly he has some anger issues and needed to be corrected.

Second: I went to change Fenton so I sat down next to my stroller and got out the changing pad, this woman was there with her 2 kids one was an infant that she was BF the other was her Daughter who looked to be about 3 or 4. Fenton of course started throwing a tantrum when I went to change his diaper. All this wench did was laugh and make snide comments about how my kid is gonna be a brat when he gets older.

Seriously WTF?!?! He's one year old I don't think I've ever met a one year old that wasn't fidgety how does that translate into him being a brat later.

Then her daughter comes bounding over slams herself down on the floor and lands me and DS's head. Fenton of course starts screaming and the mother just laughs and says "kids will be kids" at that point I was pissed. I spoke up and said "Your kid landed the full weight of her body on me and my sons head, are you going to correct her or act like its no big deal?!?!"

The wench says "Oh I am an attachement parent I don't believe in discipline or boundaries"

OMFG even Dr' Sears says that discipline and boundaries are appropriate and should be taught to children. I am AP with my son and if he ever acted that way I would so be pulling aside to have a talk with him.

I hate it when people use BS excuses to be lazy parents!

jtownsend · August 2009

Ugh. I would be livid. I cannot stand when parents allow or don't try to take any responsibility for things like that. A colleague of mine brought her 8 year old son to work some years ago. We all went down the elevator at the end of the day to go home, and when we got to our cars, I asked her son, "Austin, can I have a hug?" and he pretended to come hug me and spit in my face. Her reaction? She laughed and said "That's my Austin."

I never got over her reaction from that...my kid would have been in the BIGGEST TROUBLE OF HER LIFE.

Sorry that happened to you...just shows you that anyone can be a parent.

JGirl2005 · August 2009

Unbelievable. I hope she wasn't hiding behind that label as it makes others who do use AP look bad (nothing against AP but I hate the labels because of things like this). (as with anything you have extremes or ppl not knowing what they are following)

I think this falls into a safety issue where 'no' would be required or explaining 'please apologize as you fell on these nice ppl'.

tina623 · August 2009

I try to tell parents that children need boundries or they grow up insecure and unsure of the world around them. They need to know what they can and cannot do to build self esteem. Some ppl are idiots.

madhatter2003 · August 2009

People reallly are idiots. I would have been livid too.

mrsolsenk12 · August 2009

I would have been livid as well. How rude and undisciplined.

dusk42 · August 2009

You should have said, "Well, let's call mall security and see what kind of boundaries they set." Just to see her reaction.

AW-ful. I agree with PP - it makes people who do AP look bad when people let their kids hurt people.

I use a squirt bottle on my dogs if they get too rough - maybe I should carry one for self-defense around little kids!

roaringrock · August 2009

if you ask me, that's no parenting style.

"no boundaries my a$$!" that child is doomed and that mother is an idiot. I would have been furious too.

candm · August 2009

Sounds like the mom's a nut case and it's her kids that are going to be the brats.

kittylove · August 2009

I love AP and Dr. Sears BUT I think too often it is used as a way for lazy parents to be lazy. Yuck! Kids need boundries and rules, they thrive with them. Ug!

Alli321 · August 2009

I would be livid. In fact I am angry just reading this. It really bugs me that many parents these days don't discipline their children. Then everyone wonders why kids are so bad now. Seriously full weight on you and your son's head!?! I know it's not assault or anything, but it has to be something (ok maybe not- I am sure I am overreacting, but I'd be angry). I would get security or something and have them handle it if the mother wouldn't.

alchris · August 2009

tina623:
I try to tell parents that children need boundries or they grow up insecure and unsure of the world around them. They need to know what they can and cannot do to build self esteem. Some ppl are idiots.

Ditto, and ditto!

She's far from an attachment parent -- she's just a bad parent.

GretchenlovesMichael · August 2009

alchris:

She's far from an attachment parent -- she's just a bad parent.

this.

ridiculous. i would be so furious. i would have said "i consider myself an attachment parent. have you actually read anything on the subject? how about the principle that relates to positive discipline?" ugh. idiot.

qtpa2t · August 2009

alchris:
She's far from an attachment parent -- she's just a bad parent.

This.

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