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We "graduated" from Counseling

nicoleRInicoleRI
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So, I will post this on 12-24 too because a lot of the girls that were here a few months ago moved over, but DH and I had a really rough patch this past year.  I posted forever ago that DH told me "there was no spark".  I got a ton of support here and encouragement to go to counseling and I see similar posts on here every day.  So, I wanted to spread the good news- DH and I were in counseling, weekly, for 3 months.  And this week, we graduated!  The therapist said we were doing great and we both feel a lot better.  We learned a lot about what each of us was thinking and we got through a lot of crap.  It was hard work, real work, and it will be on going.  We are even going back in a month to check-in.  My H calls it "continuing education credit"- (for those in fields that require that you will think that is funny).  Anyway, we even had sex twice last weekend and laugh together again.  It has been a long journey, and it will always be work- but we are in a better place now.  I am not writing this to be an "AW"- but to give hope to those that are in a bad place right now.  I was there, it was aweful, but sometimes you can learn and grow.  GL to you all.
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  • MandC17MandC17 member
    That's great news. I think I remember when you posted about your problems.  I'm happy that things have worked out well for you guys.
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  • mfieldmfield
    I remember you posting when this all started.  I'm so happy that things are better for you two now!
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  • *blondiem**blondiem*
    I do remember you posting. Thank you for following up! I am so happy to hear that you are both in a better spot with one another :)
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  • shindylahoeshindylahoe member

    awesome! I am so glad to hear of people who work things out instead of giving up on thier marriage. :) I don't care if it's not an aw- I am AWing!

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  • TMs1stBabyTMs1stBaby
    That is so awesome!  It's so nice to hear about things working out.  Seems like we often hear about marriage problems, maybe this will give people who need it some initiative to work on things.
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  • trigirl30trigirl30
    Good for you guys!  That is wonderful news!
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  • HTHOMAS1HTHOMAS1
    That is awesome! I am happy to hear that you are doing so well.
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  • Amrice78Amrice78
    That's wonderful news!  I'm glad things worked out for you.
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  • swedish-fishswedish-fish
    congrats!  I'm so happy all the work you guys put in is paying off.  Good luck to you both!
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  • CFOCFO
    That's awesome, and so brave.  Good for you guys to admit you needed help, and go as a team.  I'm feeling all proud for you, and stuff.  ;)
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  • nicoleRInicoleRI
    Thanks, everyone, for the kind words!
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  • goodgolliegoodgollie member
    I am so glad to hear this.  DH and I have rough spots when life gets tough and I always thought counseling would actually be fun and a good idea for us.  The only thing is how $$$ it is, like $100 per 1hr session if I remember correctly.  Do you mind me asking how you afforded so many sessions?  DH and I might be able to squeek out 1 session per month but I don't know how helpful that would be.
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  • nicoleRInicoleRI

    imagegoodgollie:
    I am so glad to hear this.  DH and I have rough spots when life gets tough and I always thought counseling would actually be fun and a good idea for us.  The only thing is how $$$ it is, like $100 per 1hr session if I remember correctly.  Do you mind me asking how you afforded so many sessions?  DH and I might be able to squeek out 1 session per month but I don't know how helpful that would be.

    Luckily, we have great healthcare that covered all but the $20 copay.  I think we had up to 30 visits a year covered- so we used 12 in three months and will now go once a month for a few more months.  But, luckily, mental health is covered like anything- I may not make a ton of money- but I have great benefits.

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  • ToosdaiToosdai member
    Woohoo! Kudos to both of you.
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  • shindylahoeshindylahoe member

    imagegoodgollie:
    I am so glad to hear this.  DH and I have rough spots when life gets tough and I always thought counseling would actually be fun and a good idea for us.  The only thing is how $$$ it is, like $100 per 1hr session if I remember correctly.  Do you mind me asking how you afforded so many sessions?  DH and I might be able to squeek out 1 session per month but I don't know how helpful that would be.

    There are alot of churches who offer free counseling. I would sugjest calling around your area and  find out! I know especially  that calvary chapels do this.

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  • fiona21408fiona21408
    Glad to here it helped Good For you guys!!!
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  • citygirl_citygirl_
    Wonderful news! ?I love when people work at a marriage vs. just throwing in the towel.. your baby will thank you later for sticking together!
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  • BlueBelle2004BlueBelle2004
    I remember when you posted a while back... congrats, you should be proud of yourselves! I'm so happy for you!
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  • ronnie dayronnie day
    Thats great!!!  Congrats!
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  • afwellsafwells member

    This is a wonderful post and you have every reason to AW it.  You two made a great commitment to work on things for your marriage and your child by getting counseling, and I'm so happy that you "graduated".  And I have CEUs in my field so that made me giggle.

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