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KSimone619
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To those who wish they were a SAHM....
KSimone619
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It IS wonderful, but sometimes I feel guilty about not "working." I know this is sort of irrational on my part...but I almost feel like I wasted my education. I plan to return to work in a few years...but I still feel like I need to ramp up what I'm doing at home to make up for not working outside of the home.
I guess my point is, I feel extremely blessed to have the opportunity to be home to take care of DD, but it comes with it's own stresses! Is there a balancing point???
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Re: To those who wish they were a SAHM....
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And I have 2 masters degrees! Ugh.
Ditto on the working part-time thing. I am actually looking into doing tutoring or transcription from home to make a little extra cash.
SORRY about all those empty posts up there, my PC is going crazy.
I just meant to say I feel exactly the same way.
Yeah, I wish I could work PT too. But, really, it would be hard to find a part-time job that would offset the cost of child care.
And, I also feel the way that you do. Thank God I have a VERY supportive husband and family who makes me feel like what I am doing is very valuable. I don't always feel that way. I think that makes a big difference. Because it is. Screw wasting your education. You're not. Jobs come and jobs go. The way things are now there are thousands of people who have multiple degrees and are out of work.
It can all disappear in an instant. Treasure this time. It flies by.
I agree that being a sahm is very stressful. I feel no less stressed than when iw as working. Sometimes I am bored. Sometimes I feel torn in 12 different directions. Same as when I was at work. I am just not getting paid, and I get no benefits. The positive is that i actually get to see DD whereas when I was working full-time, I would sometimes go a full 24 hours without getting to interact with her (worked evening and day shifts). That makes it very worth it to me.
I'm thinking I'm eventually going to work part time a couple days a week so that I can have some "me" time to get out, and so that I can have some of my own spending money. I already think of Christmas and it feels weird thinking of going and buying DH's present with his paychecks.
It'll be a while though, I still can't pull myself away from my LO. lol I'm thinking when he's a year.
it was a hard thing to become a sahm after struggling to make a career for 13 yrs and finally reaching the position i wanted.
i may no longer be a lead designer in an agency making 6 figures but i am the best sahm i can be.
don't get paid, i don't thank yous everyday, i don;t get to go out to lunch every friday, travel around the counrty and have drinks after work or chat with coworkers about life and gossip..
but i have found a balance by knowig i am the ONLY one for THIS job and i know that there ARE other design jobs out there when this job is over.
I think no matter what you do, you're wondering if it's was better if you did...
I work 30 hours...2 long days in the office with a 3 hour commute and 3 days at home...only putting in 4 hours while at home each day. There are days when I wish I had my LO's in daycare b/c I'm trying to finsih my work obligations yet on my days in the office, I'm missing my LO's every minute. But, I am glad I get away from the house for a couple days a week to associate with adults. I'd love to be a SAHM completely, but I think it would drive me crazy. But who knows. anyways, I love my set up b/c I get to see my LO's 3 days a week and still earn a paycheck. Luckily on my days in the office my DH or MIL take care of them. Unfortunately I only have this for a year. I'm not sure what will happen after the year!