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SD asking for hand outs

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I lurk here alot but I had to share this story... We picked up SD Friday for our weekend.  First words out of her mouth were, "Can my mom have Ava's clothes she's grown out of? We don't have enough money to buy the baby any clothes."  Her mother is due in December.  Her mother made our lives a living H-E-L-L by taking us back to court last year.  (She lost- nothing was changed except she lost her state aid that she was fraudulantly applying for) And now we're being told they are moving out of state b/c her new husband has enlisted in the Army.  So NO you're BSC mother cannot have my daughter's hand-me-downs.  I have a lot of mature and logical reasons why but my number one favorite is because I hate her and I'm not doing her a single favor!  That's not what I told SD, I gave her the logical reason of we will want more children later and her mother's baby will be born in December and Ava was born in April.  

I really hope her mother didn't put her up to this.  And the best part is when we picked SD up her mother was waiting on the cable guy to install cable in their new apartment.  You can afford cable but not clothes for your newborn??????  OK vent over.  

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  • thewhitzthewhitz member

    NICE.  BM sounds like an awesome piece of work. I laughed out loud when I read she lost her fraudulent state support. 

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  • snarkisthenewblacksnarkisthenewblack
    wow, i really hope she didn't put sd up to that.
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  • Jessys_GirlJessys_Girl

    I can totally relate!

    My Skids' BM moved them into a two bedroom apartment.  Her and her husband have one room and my SD and SS share a room.  Michigan law states that at age 8 sibs of opposite sex cannot share a room or the door has to be removed from the room and they have to change in seperate rooms.  Well, my DH told her that when my SD turns 8 (this november) we would be filing for custody on that basis.  She said "Oh, with our tax refund money we're going to put a deposit on a bigger place..."  Tax time came and went.  THey bought a big screen tv, a Wii, a huge new stereo and some accesories for BM's new husband's truck.  No deposit on a bigger place.

    Skip forward to now (a few months later).  SD is having sexual acting out behaviors (she pulled down the neighbor boy and her brother's pants the other day and was walking around at the zoo "flashing" (she said she was just cooling off)).

    So we talked to BM who said "Oh, the law says I can just remove the door and have them change in seperate rooms, right now we can't afford a bigger place.

    What about the TV? Video game system? Stereo? Truck Accessories?

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  • RedHeadedLeo85RedHeadedLeo85
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    I can totally relate!

    My Skids' BM moved them into a two bedroom apartment.  Her and her husband have one room and my SD and SS share a room.  Michigan law states that at age 8 sibs of opposite sex cannot share a room or the door has to be removed from the room and they have to change in seperate rooms.  Well, my DH told her that when my SD turns 8 (this november) we would be filing for custody on that basis.  She said "Oh, with our tax refund money we're going to put a deposit on a bigger place..."  Tax time came and went.  THey bought a big screen tv, a Wii, a huge new stereo and some accesories for BM's new husband's truck.  No deposit on a bigger place.

    Skip forward to now (a few months later).  SD is having sexual acting out behaviors (she pulled down the neighbor boy and her brother's pants the other day and was walking around at the zoo "flashing" (she said she was just cooling off)).

    So we talked to BM who said "Oh, the law says I can just remove the door and have them change in seperate rooms, right now we can't afford a bigger place.

    What about the TV? Video game system? Stereo? Truck Accessories?

    I would have the situation further looked into. This doesn't sound right. Also, see if you can file for temp custody pending an investigation due to these new found behaviors. Not having the money is no excuse when they spent it one unnecessary electronics. 
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  • Jessys_GirlJessys_Girl
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    I can totally relate!

    My Skids' BM moved them into a two bedroom apartment.  Her and her husband have one room and my SD and SS share a room.  Michigan law states that at age 8 sibs of opposite sex cannot share a room or the door has to be removed from the room and they have to change in seperate rooms.  Well, my DH told her that when my SD turns 8 (this november) we would be filing for custody on that basis.  She said "Oh, with our tax refund money we're going to put a deposit on a bigger place..."  Tax time came and went.  THey bought a big screen tv, a Wii, a huge new stereo and some accesories for BM's new husband's truck.  No deposit on a bigger place.

    Skip forward to now (a few months later).  SD is having sexual acting out behaviors (she pulled down the neighbor boy and her brother's pants the other day and was walking around at the zoo "flashing" (she said she was just cooling off)).

    So we talked to BM who said "Oh, the law says I can just remove the door and have them change in seperate rooms, right now we can't afford a bigger place.

    What about the TV? Video game system? Stereo? Truck Accessories?

    I would have the situation further looked into. This doesn't sound right. Also, see if you can file for temp custody pending an investigation due to these new found behaviors. Not having the money is no excuse when they spent it one unnecessary electronics. 

     

    DH was/is supposed to call the Lawyer today.  We were planning to file for custody anyway, without these behaviors, but these behaviors have sped up our plans.  Depending on what the lawyer says about getting temp custody, we may call CPS (Child Protective Services) to open an investigation.

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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    Ugh.  Love the priorities.

    BM couldn't get it together to pay for school pictures last year.  I ordered the package for her, but she never sent us the money.  The pictures sat on a shelf until last month when I sent her a few of each and mailed the rest of to other members of J's family.

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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