At what point does MIL stop calling DH "MY Baby"?!?!

Malorie86 · August 2009

Just curious, because obviously being married with his own baby on the way isn't a requirement to graduate from being her baby. I have Facebook and DH is a cop and I posted a pic of him in his cop car I took the other day, and she comments on it "That's MY baby! Saving the world!". And she CONSTANTLY calls him this, very often in front of me like it supposed to make me jealous? Really, he's still your baby?!? That's funny because I know I am not married to or having a baby with...a baby. He is a grown man with a family!! Yes, he may have his days where he acts like a child, but I'm pretty sure he moved on from being her baby to my giant child....ugh, vent over...

cooperme2871 · August 2009

I dont think they ever stop thinking of their youngest child as their "baby". My DH is going to be 30 in January and is the youngest and his mom always calls him this. It doesnt bother me- I kind of make fun of him for it!

Malorie86 · August 2009

Malorie86:
Just curious, because obviously being married with his own baby on the way isn't a requirement to graduate from being her baby. I have Facebook and DH is a cop and I posted a pic of him in his cop car I took the other day, and she comments on it "That's MY baby! Saving the world!". And she CONSTANTLY calls him this, very often in front of me like it supposed to make me jealous? Really, he's still your baby?!? That's funny because I know I am not married to or having a baby with...a baby. He is a grown man with a family!! Yes, he may have his days where he acts like a child, but I'm pretty sure he moved on from being her baby to my giant child....ugh, vent over...

Oh no...he is the oldest!

HRALFS · August 2009

That would be very annoying.

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beastmel04 · August 2009

Never. MIL still refers to DH as her "baby." I think she always will.

cstw · August 2009

Ugh. My MIL does that kind of thing too. I think in my situation it is less about making me jealous as it is her trying to remind him that he's hers. Which he's not. It has some weird thing to do with my MIL not having much of her own identity now that her kids are grown up and don't need her.

eas15905 · August 2009

That would be so annoying but can't imagine her stopping. At least she's not calling your baby "her baby" which some other people have posted about - that would irritate me even more!

Tara1025 · August 2009

Ugh I completely understand your frustrations. My MIL is just as bad. Sometimes I almost feel like she tries to "compete" with me, it's weird. I vow to NEVER do anything to make my future daughter in law feel like that.

Malorie86 · August 2009

eas15905:
That would be so annoying but can't imagine her stopping. At least she's not calling your baby "her baby" which some other people have posted about - that would irritate me even more!

Give her time...the baby isn't here yet....

amramirez · August 2009

ive often wondered this. my mil always calls my hd 'baby' it drives me crazy. and she always is hugging on him like hes a six month old. drives me nuts!

New Mrs · August 2009

my mil told bil after giving his GF a promise ring - just remember, you will always be MY baby.

Hmm, creepy.

young-mommy2B · August 2009

oh my, my DH isn't called baby from his mother, but she's also a huge biitch who has neglected her kids her whole life... so IDK. That would really irritate me, like everything else these days.

thatgirlang · August 2009

Well, when DS is grown and married, I may not post about this on FB or rub it in my DIL's face but... he will always be my baby. Of course I won't mean it literally like I don't realize he's an adult, married, has kids, etc.

But when you're a mom, your kids are always your babies!

Funny- I just told DH, "I can't believe I'm going to have two babies!" He said, "No, you're not. DS1 is 3, not a baby." And I said it: "But he will always be my baby."

cindy453 · August 2009

He'll always be her baby... no matter how old he is. Haven't you read the book, "Love You Forever"? Think about the baby you are carrying now... will s/he suddenly stop being your baby one day? Of course not.

"I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living my baby you'll be"

christina627 · August 2009

Just wait until she starts calling your LO "my baby". You will want to throat punch her and anyone else that does it (except your giant child of a DH).

Malorie86 · August 2009

Don't get me wrong, I get the whole "Always be my baby" thing. My kids will always be my babies...but I doubt I will tell everyone that will listen that they are "MY Babies" ( yes she put capital MY, by the way!) every chance I get...including his wife!

thaira · August 2009

cstw:
Ugh. My MIL does that kind of thing too. I think in my situation it is less about making me jealous as it is her trying to remind him that he's hers. Which he's not. It has some weird thing to do with my MIL not having much of her own identity now that her kids are grown up and don't need her.

This exactly is my MIL! If we are remodeling or working on something together she never ever comments to be about it...ie: I showed her into our house and she saw our remodeled bathroom and baby room progress...never said a word...not a peep even after she looked through every outfit hanging in LOs closet...but marched right outside and gushed to dh about how everything looked so great calling him Son in each sentence she spoke. Really?! What am I chopped meat!

userdeleted · August 2009

He will always be her baby.

thatgirlang · August 2009

Malorie86:
Don't get me wrong, I get the whole "Always be my baby" thing. My kids will always be my babies...but I doubt I will tell everyone that will listen that they are "MY Babies" ( yes she put capital MY, by the way!) every chance I get...including his wife!

LOL. I get it. But still- he is HER baby. And YOUR husband. LOL (Don't let her bug you!)

cindy453 · August 2009

Also, your baby will be HER grandbaby... like it or not

I try to remind myself that I will no doubt say/feel similar things when in that position.

thetwistedwillow · August 2009

Your children will always be your babies. Even if you aren't saying it to them on a daily basis, especially in a public place such as FB... they're still your baby. She is very proud of him. Don't let it bug you.

shabang21 · August 2009

Ditto the others - some MILs may be more annoying than others when it comes to this, but he'll always be 'her baby.' Especially since it's a mother/son thing.

triplenine · August 2009

Ha Ha, my mom does it to me! I am truly their baby because I was born 9 years after my youngest brother. I was always with them cause my siblings were so much older. Now everyone keeps saying to my mom, "Oh your baby is having a baby!"

I think it goes back to every one, especially my grandmother, saying wheres the baby, even if I was 9 years old. Come to think of it, I am the 2nd to youngest of my grandmothers grandchildren (my youngest cousin lives in OH and we all live in NY) and she lived with us so that is one reason the "baby" referral happens more often. She used to constantly call me "the Baby"

triplenine · August 2009

Malorie86:

Malorie86:
Just curious, because obviously being married with his own baby on the way isn't a requirement to graduate from being her baby. I have Facebook and DH is a cop and I posted a pic of him in his cop car I took the other day, and she comments on it "That's MY baby! Saving the world!". And she CONSTANTLY calls him this, very often in front of me like it supposed to make me jealous? Really, he's still your baby?!? That's funny because I know I am not married to or having a baby with...a baby. He is a grown man with a family!! Yes, he may have his days where he acts like a child, but I'm pretty sure he moved on from being her baby to my giant child....ugh, vent over...

Oh no...he is the oldest!

My mom doesn't call my brother her baby (hes 43) but she does worry like crazy about him, (hes a FF). My other siblings are left in the cold!

BlairWaldorf · August 2009

My parents still call me "their baby." Hell, my brothers still call me "the baby" and I'm 26 years old, married, with a child on the way.

& sometimes, my mother refers to my 33-year-old brother as her "baby."

I will be interested to see if you perception changes in 20 years as to when your children stop being "your babies."

ldk4498 · August 2009

I don't think any child is EVER going to stop being their mother's baby. She might only be doing it because she loves him and is proud of him, not saying he is actually a baby, and I am sure we will all feel the same way even when our children are grown. She watched him grow up and gave birth to him, that is a special bond. Her saying that isn't something against you, unless there is other tension between you that we don't know about and she is trying to be malicious. Otherwise, I would let it go, as long as his mother isn't trying to control him/your relationship with him by doing it.

MrsM2008 · August 2009

Never... yuor baby will always be your baby doesn't matter if they have a baby on the way! But maybe she does it incessantly to annoy you!

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