Guess you're gonna try again for a boy huh?!

vtgirl · August 2009

Already the comments have started! I mainly feel badly for DH because they are mostly coming from his side of the family/friends- but seriously, we wanted 2 children, we got 2 healthy, gorgeous girls, (I am biased, I know!!) so why the comments!? Sorry, I guess it's just a mini vent! Good morning everyone!! : )

AnnapolisLari · August 2009

Oh, for goodness' sake.

Your girls are gorgeous.

Temp374386125003286 · August 2009

People are asshats!

clearly I'm stopping with the two because I had one of each *perfect family*!

*please note sarcasm. we were done with 2 regardless!

Goose51504 · August 2009

Typical. Some people are never happy unless they're dictating others' lives.

If you and your hawtie of a DH are happy with two CHILDREN, don't worry what others think. Two girls are awesome!!

Hope you're you doing well.

vtgirl · August 2009

Goose51504:

Typical. Some people are never happy unless they're dictating others' lives.

If you and your hawtie of a DH are happy with two CHILDREN, don't worry what others think. Two girls are awesome!!

Hope you're you doing well.

Thanks Goose- we are doing great! But more importantly- how are YOU feeling?! You are getting close!!

lsufan · August 2009

I don't know why people can't see how rude that is. Your girls are gorgeous. Why would you want something different? I feel the same way about my boys, but I get comments all the time. Twice I actually had a stranger say, "Oh, I'm SO SORRY!" when she found out my baby was also a boy. WTF?

Kapalua · August 2009

yeah...we get lots of "now you can be done!" typical

ellemoney:) · August 2009

Yea, I think if someone says this to me, I'm going to punch them in the throat. ?

I will never understand why people think 2 (or 3, or 4...) of the same gender child is not a "perfect" family.?

Amanda&Chris · August 2009

Good morning! Your girls ARE gorgeous!

And I seriously can't tell you how many times (more than 10, no exaggeration) strangers have asked me if I have two boys or two girls at home when they find out I'm pg with #3. The implication is that I would only have 3 kids if I was trying for a different gender. It's very irritating.

shopgirl78 · August 2009

smccabe9:

People are asshats!

clearly I'm stopping with the two because I had one of each *perfect family*!

This. except 3 is perfect for us...boy or girl, it doesn't matter

mathteacher · August 2009

Seriously, having two girls is my dream family...it is what I always hoped for and pictured when I was growing up. My husband even was hoping for a second girl himself.

When someone makes a comment to me I just say, "Two sisters are a gift from God, it is one of the best relationships someone can have." No one says anything after that.

I will add the disclaimer that this is the perfect family for us. I know for other people having a different number of children, combination of genders and age seperation is what works for them and I think that is great and I am happy for them.

Ciarrai · August 2009

Isn't it awful?!?! You do have two gorgeous little girls. And I'm sure you and your husband are thrilled. People just don't think.

We've been getting it since the minute we announced we were having a girl with DD#2 when I was still PG with her. The ILs say they expect us to have a "Rxxx Boy". We have a very very common last name so it's not like it's going to die out with DH. And the comments I get with this PG... Honestly, I'm hoping for another girl, but I don't feel that strongly.

breezee_bean · August 2009

I hate comments like that. We always get, "awww..now you have the perfect family. One of each." Ummm...we have the perfect family because we are healthy and happy. Not a boy and girl.

Sorry, vt=(

AnKa · August 2009

I hate that comment. My mom makes it as I needed a reminder that my brother really was the favorite kid...

We have 2 DDs and are debating TTC#3. We'd have to be excited for both genders but I do think it'd be so neat to experience being a boy mom. This desire only came after DD2 was 6 months old though....

docmay25 · August 2009

I get that all the time..."now you can be done because you have one of each". I guess that is how they feel, that everyone wants to have a boy and girl. I can't believe you are getting it already! I hate when people say that, like the baby you just had doesn't count because they are the same gender!

JillShari · August 2009

I have two boys and I wouldn't trade that for the world. In fact, I have always thought that I'd have two boys...so I have what I dreamed of. I hate the fact that people think I should try for a girl because I have NO desire to have 3 kids whatever their gender. And I'm always telling people that it would have to be either adopted or genetically engineered because boys compose the vast majority in my family...I'm the anomaly.

Bellisimo · August 2009

Yeah, it pretty much doesn't matter what you have. The comments will come in all forms. Having one of each we get, "How perfect! One of each! Now you can be done!" Um, yeah, we can be done when we're satisfied with size of our family...not the makeup! People just talk to be talking and don't think before doing so.

veloelle · August 2009

Some people! You have a beautiful family!

jessicaclare · August 2009

People have said that to me too, and I haven't even had my second yet! It always starts out with them asking what I'm having, and when I tell them a girl they say "Oh, I guess you'll be trying for a third so you can have a boy, huh?" Umm...no. We want a third, but we'd be perfectly happy if we had 3 girls or 2 girls and a boy. Doesn't matter. People are jerks!

penguingrrl · August 2009

That's just plain crazy! We plan on having a third child because we want three but will be happy with a girl or boy. Nobody is pressuring us to have a boy and DH actually is the last male in his line so the name could potentially die out. Why do people assume you need both genders to be complete?

thatgirlang · August 2009

Same thing for us! Only everyone asking if we're going to try for a girl. Everyone assumes I have to have one! And they make it worse by telling me that SD doesn't "count." I am over it now but it really bugged me at first! It's like people assume that you CAN'T be happy unless you have one of each. That sounds nice but, really, (esp with the age gaps that you and I have for our kids) I think two girls or two boys is awesome. Truly!

aprilmomtobe · August 2009

Kapalua:
yeah...we get lots of "now you can be done!" typical

We get this all the time too, and it bugs the crap out of me.

ilovemygirls · August 2009

Having two girls myself, I feel your pain with that. It is such an incredible insult when you've just had another healthy, much loved & wanted baby. What I finally came up with in response was something along the lines of, "Well, why would we do that when we got two beautiful girls? We're done!" or "Why mess with perfection?" Congratulations!

PoundCake · August 2009

I know how you feel. Everyone asks us if my DH is upset we have only girls (huh?! why!?) and when is the boy coming!?

We tell them we are blessed and we are done. Two and through!

And then we get "oh you never know" and "everyone always says that."

No really-I had a tubal. They are going to be disappointed. LOL.

SumnerBride · August 2009

Congrats! She's a doll!

And, I get that comment/question all the time. Having two girls, people just assume that I must want to try again for a boy. I guess I'd just have to give her up if I had another girl then, right?!

I'm with you-we wanted two kids, and have two kids. End of story.

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