Do you think I should drag DH to a breastfeeding class?

MrsErinnElizabeth · August 2009

It's for couples (apparently) and is this afternoon. It goes for 3 1/2 hours and happens to run into his favorite team's Aussie Rules Football game. He's obsessed with his football, so this is literally a Greek tragedy in his eyes.

Needless to say, he's not entirely thrilled about the whole thing, however he's all committed to going along with me. I want him to be there, but I don't really mind if he's not there, especially if it's going to be primarily women.

For those who've taken a breastfeeding class (or who plan on it) do you think I should just tell him to stay home and go by myself or will it be beneficial for him to be there?

MrsBeckO · August 2009

I am really glad DH went with me to ours. I am going to be?exhausted?and likely overwhelmed in those first few days, so I really like that we both heard all the info and the do/don'ts and "troubleshooting" tips so hopefully between the two of us, we will remember all we need to know.?

Of the 20 or so women there, only 2 were there without their husbands/SO's. ?

Temp534591562502098 · August 2009

yes I think he'll get more from it then you two realize.

dragon_chica · August 2009

DH came with. In the class only two ladies were w/o their SO. Although it was obviously about BF-ing DH learned how to support me with this. He also internalizes things better than me so I know he'll be a great support for me when I struggle with the real deal. It's up to you. I'm sure you can have him read the material sent home especially if his learning style is that way.

thailajo · August 2009

I haven't taken a class..but I wouldn't make him go.. just make him promise to listen to all the info you bring home..lol

browneyes_24b · August 2009

I went to my BFing class by myself. At my class the presenter pointed out word puzzles that she printed on the back of the literature for SO's to fill out if they were bored. I thought that was mildy funny!

SharonWantsABaby · August 2009

I went by myself - I figured most of the husbands wouldn't be there, and I was right. I think there were only two husbands at my class of 15.

I'm sure that guy got plenty out of it, but I was content to relay the information once I got home. The only thing the instructor really directed at the men was "be supportive." hth!

Texasmommy · August 2009

My DH was a HUGE help to me when I was new to BFing my DS. He remembered things from the class that I had totally forgotten and he was so good about helping me get DS to get a good latch. For us, it was a wonderful thing that he was there because we might not have been successful with BFing if he hadn't. That sucks about the game though

Can he record it? GL!

SharonWantsABaby · August 2009

browneyes_24b:
I went to my BFing class by myself. At my class the presenter pointed out word puzzles that she printed on the back of the literature for SO's to fill out if they were bored. I thought that was mildy funny!

haha that is kinda funny

OliveBerry · August 2009

I'd personally go by myself. Not really sure what they would teach the guys at bf class. And I can only imagine if I attempted that on a Sunday during football season here... oh the carnage.

By the way - I love seeing your belly pics in your posts! So cute! Now I sound like a stalker...

deltagirl79 · August 2009

Only two of the ladies in our class were with out thier SO. I think it was good for DH to be there with me to get a feel for what to expect and hear all the different ideas to try when things aren't going as good. Although, we went in the summer, I don't know that I could have gotten him there during the Stanley Cup playoffs. Wink

GL!

smilelari · August 2009

I'd take him

Ours talked a lot about what kind of support hubbies can offer and I think it was good for him to be aware of what kind of commitment this is for me

TeamRey · August 2009

My husband plans to go to mine. I want him to understand everything about it and be able to support me in it and I feel as though he will be able to do that more if he is just as informed about it as me and I think it is important for him to know the benefits of it and also any problems that you might encounter.

calex33 · August 2009

Yes - he should go. ?My DH was not thrilled about going either, but I convinced him to anyway. ?We are both glad that he did because BFing has not been a walk in the park for me. ?He has gone with me to meet with LCs and has been a big help in reminding me, when we are at home, about what I am suppose to be doing to help things go better.

TeamRey · August 2009

I think another good thing to note is that you said the class is for couples so I would assume that there will be useful information to your husband.

GreenEyedGal · August 2009

Ours is tomorrow morning and I definitely plan on bringing the hubbs along. He seems to retain information better than me anyway!

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · August 2009

It's helpful for him to be there, and in my class, all other SO's were there, so I would have felt lonely if he hadn't.

Kadyra · August 2009

DH and I went together. About half our class had SO's there. The LC had all kinds of info for SO's that I think will be helpful for him as I struggle through it later on. I think it was helpful for him to be there. A friend of mine's DH went to one before she delivered, and she said that she broke down a few times and if he hadn't gone and remembered things to do or tell her, she wasn't sure she would have gotten through the first 2 weeks.

alikat07 · August 2009

My DH is not coming with me, we discussed it and he was willing to come along but we've already taken like 8 classes between child safety, childbirth, and newborn care (which goes over some bfing). They also give us PowerPoint slides for each class I've been too, so I told him I expect him to read those and help me if I need it, but I'm going to let him off the hook for this class.

mandolynn81 · August 2009

I did and he really liked it. dh is a cook and wanted to know all about storage and pumping. We had a good time

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CAM2007 · August 2009

My husband will be playing baseball during my breastfeeding class. I would have him go if he wasn't already busy. I'm not too upset that he can't go.

kimberly.kent · August 2009

I'm leaving it open for DH cause I don't want to sound like I'm nagging him but I really want him to go. I'm afraid of having a hard time with breastfeeding and I think it would be beneficial for him to be there to learn more about it and find out what kind of support he can offer once our little guy gets here.

ericaelaine2 · August 2009

I'm glad that you posted this question because I was wondering the same. After reading everyone's posts I think that I am going to tell my DH that I have signed us both up and that I think it would be benefical but leave the decision up to him. I don't want him to be miserable and I know that I will be fine by myself.

sam19 · August 2009

I think you could let him stay home. Mine didn't go and I really don't think he would have gotten much out of this class if he did go. I'm sure it will be beneficial for him but I don't think it owuld make a huge difference if he was there or not.

demmie326 · August 2009

He should really go.... I would not still be breastfeeding if it wasn't for DH. I forgot a good portion of what was taught at the TWO classes that we went to largely because of exhaustion. It was awesome to have someone who got up in the middle of the night to bring the baby to nurse and as odd as it sounds he would check LO's latch. But most important of all the classes teach the importance of support for successful breastfeeding which really stuck in DH's head.

stephanie cook · August 2009

DH did all the prenatal classes with me and he said they were great and he learned a lot from them. Especially the breastfeeding class because he had no clue before hand. Now he knows how the process will go, problems that could come up, and ways that he can help. So I say yes, make him go!

mrsblt · August 2009

I was really glad DH came with me to ours, because it answered a lot of his question. And the nurse who taught it gave some pointers for the men on how they can help with breastfeeding, being supportive, etc. Definitely was worth his time to be there!

jesstibb · August 2009

My class was two nights. The first I didn't throw a stink about DH not wanting to go. Then I told him I was the only one w/o a husband there and he agreed to go to the second one.

He was really interested and asked a few questions.

I'd get him to go if at all possible.

MrsLeslie030405 · August 2009

Hubby went with me and to be honest... taking the class was more for him than me since I have been reading all the books and he hasn't. its good that hubbies will know what to expect and what we be challenged with so they can be better at helping or supportive in the process.

Hubby was glad he went an offered to message my lady lumps if needed LOL!

mkirby624 · August 2009

I think he should go. Having an extra set of ears there to soak up tips and tricks will be crucial when you're exhausted and frustrated that bfing is difficult. He'll be able to remind you of what they said in class, and also be more supportive of the difficult time you're having.

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