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I need to vent.

Nicole WilliamsNicole Williams
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DH and I are really good friends with another couple that always invites us to go to the movies, go tubing at the river, to go out to dinner, etc.  Things that would require leaving DD elsewhere.  While I really appreciate the invites, it's starting to get on my nerves.  Obviously we have a new baby and doing those things with her are pretty much impossible.  I really don't want to leave DD with anyone. I already leave her with my parents everyday while I'm at work, so evenings and weekends are the only time DH and I get to hang out with her.  They are very well aware of this, yet they are CONSTANTLY trying to get us to go out.  It's seriously getting annoying.  It's not like I totally blow off their plans either, I always invite them over for dinner or to watch a movie at our place as an alternative plan.  I'm trying not to get too annoyed, they are young too and like to go out and do things all the time, and they don't have any kids so they really don't know what it's like.  But seriously, they try to get us to go out like several times a week and on the weekends.  If it was every once in a while maybe it wouldn't be so bad, but I have responsiblities now.  I can't just go out and party all the time.  I have to take care of my child and my home and my husband.  And it's not even that I have to, it's that I want to.  I want to spend time with my family. 

Maybe I am just being sensitive, I don't know.  I mean I really appreciate the fact that they want to hang out and stuff, but it's just like "HELLO!  I HAVE A KID!  I'm not going to go out every weekend!"

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  • E&JhssweetheartsE&Jhssweethearts
    Like you said, they don't have any kids so they don't know what it's like. Just be grateful they haven't fallen off the face of the earth (yet). Most of our friends that don't have kids, just don't come around anymore, they just can't understand, and that's fine. No use getting upset, IMO.
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  • 4Speedy4Speedy member
    Maybe they know you are going to turn them down but they just want you to feel included?  Perhaps they think that if they never invited you out with them, then you would be complaining about how all your friends dropped you just because you had a kid.
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  • demmie326demmie326 member
    You are not being sensitive.I think I am super adventurous as I can nurse and change a baby anywhere but friends require their own adjustment period with the baby. We had friends calling and wanting us to haul the baby all over creation. My favorite was an invite to a Cubs game WITH the baby. Over the last couple of months our friends have gotten more accomodating but I don't think they will get it until they have LO's to call their very own.
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