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S/o paying for weddings
I would make this a clicky poll but it never works for me while I am at work. So my question is: Did you pay for your whole wedding yourself (you and dh)? If not who and what were you helped out with?
My mom and stepdad paid for the hall, favors, and dj, my mil paid for rehearsal and all the alcohol. Dh and I had to pay for our photographer and vidoeographer and all the other stuff. I just could not imagine paying for it all by ourselves.
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Re: S/o paying for weddings
DH and I paid most of it.
ILs paid for videographer (friend of MILs brother) and the flowers. Obviously the Rehearsal dinner, too.
Dad paid for the limos.
We paid for everything ourselves, including the honeymoon. We got married when we were 24 and 25 and also bought a house 6 months before we got married. I still don't know how we did it.
We paid for everything except the flowers which my mom paid for, they were only $500. Our rehearsal dinner was at my in-law's house and it was pot-luck, we all brought something and had the rehearsal in the backyard.
All together the wedding, dress, rings, reception, etc. cost about $15k.
I would love to see what people say about this!
Dh and I paid for our combined friends @ reception (60 people), dress, gifts, cake, flowers, transportation, hm and basically everything else (I thinnk about $15,000)
Dad's side paid for his family at reception (20 people) and tip at rehersal dinner .... also gave me and dh a hefty $$ gift.....
Mom helped with favors and odds and ends (parents are divorced and her h is a douche)
dh's parents paid for thier side (150 people) at reception and rehersal dinner and also gave us a hefty $$ gift
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We paid for the limo and part of the honeymoon (hotel on the wedding night, airfare, food, and fun).
DH's parents paid for the rehersal dinner, my bouquet, and let us use their timeshare for our honeymoon.
My parents paid for everything else. They gave us $4000 and we made the wedding stay within that budget b/c we didn't want to spend more than that. My parents made the food and my aunts served, so that helped a lot.
We wanted to buy a house so we decided we only wanted a really small wedding (about 30 people total) and we paid most of it but our parents both offered things like liquor and provided things like the space for dinner. It was perfect!
If we'd decided to have a bigger, more expensive wedding then we just would have waited and saved more. I'm sure our parents would have offered to chip in, and we'd have graciously accepted, but we would not have planned a party that would couldnt have paid for ourselves. Neither of us are really of the mindset that parents are "supposed" to pay for their daughter's weddings (or sons, I guess?) but dont judge those who's parents do pay. It's a common family tradition that we just dont do. We wont pay for our DD's (or son's) wedding either- but we will definitely offer to either pay for something.
My parents gave us $5K for the reception. DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. We paid for the rest. Our wedding cost about $11K...I think.
That's pretty standard up here in NE, in fact every wedding we've ever been to was paid for by the bride's/groom's parents. But I'm the youngest of 9 kids and my dad always told me that his contribution to a weddng fund would be a full tank of gas and directions to Vegas
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hilarious. i like your dad.
My parents gave us a check toward the wedding. We ended up adding some of our money to the pot. If we'd've been paying for it 100% ourselves, it would have been a much smaller affair.
I don't get the logic of "I'll pay for X, you pay for Y," because it often ends up causing hurt feelings if, say, the photographer your ILs said they'd pay for sucks or you have your heart set on one that costs twice as much. Far better to say "I'll give you $X" and let the B&G figure out how it's distributed.
My parents paid for everything but it was split 2 ways becasue they are divorced..so mom and Step dad paid for half and Dad and Step mom paid for half...we paid for our honeymoon and BM/GM Gifts and Burnch the day before.
We were really lucky, they both also gave us huge $$ gifts
DH and I paid for about 80% of it. My parents paid for the rest.
It killed my parents that they couldn't pay for the entire wedding. It was actually a little bit of an issue between me and my mom. DH and I wanted a certain type of wedding and my parents couldn't afford the type of wedding we wanted to have. We could have had a wedding on their budget, but it wasn't the wedding I had dreamed about. I was also 32 and had been out of graduate school and working for 7 years, so I had the money to make up the difference. To this day, my mom keeps telling me they will pay me back some day. Of course, I wouldn't want that. I still feel bad about it.
Even though our parents didn't pay for everything I still feel extremely blessed by their help especially since we got married a month after we graduated from college!
DH and I paid for our honeymoon (We both worked two jobs for 2 summers to pay for this!), our wedding night hotel, gifts for attendents, my hair and nails, and everything for the church. We also bought some of the odds and ends like champagne glasses, cake topper, and cake knives.
Both of our parents are divorced and remarried so it made for some hairy situations. We basically figured out how much dinner would cost per person and each family paid for their own guests and then our friends were divided up into 4 groups. Then on top of that, my dad and step-mom paid for all the drinks.
We had our rehearsal dinner pot-luck style in DH's mom and stepdad's backyard.
MIL paid for cake and flowers. My mom paid for my dress, accessories, and all the decoration. FIL paid for the DJ. My dad paid for the photographer and limo.
I'm a huge bargain shopper and found exactly the things I wanted without going crazy. I think that everything probably cost around $6000-$7000 and we had about 300 guests.
I bought dress and all the accessories, favors, invites, DH's tux rental.
DH's parents paid for about 5K of our stuff. My parents covered the rest.
I have to say I was shocked how expensive weddings were---and we did nearly everything we could ourselves..invites, favors, etc.