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eris1995
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what's your thoughts on BYOB parties
eris1995
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I have a friend that always throws BYOB parties or charges admission. She's engaged and they own their house. This weekend she's throwing herself an engagement/birthday party. Personally I think once you get to a certain age/place in your life they are tacky. Just wondering what everyone else's thought on them were. Oh and I'm not talking about broke college years.
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Re: what's your thoughts on BYOB parties
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Charges ADMISSION?!?! You've gotta be freaking kidding me. That's crazy. We aren't 16 anymore.
I don't think BYOB is a big deal. Its nice to have get togethers, but paying for everyone's alcohol can get expensive. However, charging admission is ridiculous.
I don't think BYOB is a bad idea. All of our friends have different taste in Beer & someone will only drink the really expensive imported stuff. So they just bring there own.
Is she providing all the food? I don't agree with charging admission. But to me BYOB is not that big of a deal.
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I think BYOB is tacky. If you can't afford to have a party where you pay for everything, you simply should not have a party, or downgrade to something you can afford. There doesn't HAVE to be alcohol at a party.
I won't even get into charging admission! Eww!
My exact thoughts.
I do agree with the second part. We always bring something when we go to a party. But to make it a requirement lacks tact.
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yep! She had a halloween party one year and there was a $10 cover charge. I understand that throwing a party can be expensive, but I kind of have the mindset of don't throw a huge bash if you can't cover the cost. DH and I have a yearly party in the summer and have food & beer. If someone wants something else to drink they can bring it. Most people call us and ask if there's something they can bring and we give them a small side dish to bring.
This. Although I often bring my own anyway, since I don't like beer.
But I can't imagine throwing a party and not providing alcohol, water, and soda in addition to the food.
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I haven't gone to any of her parties. I figure if you have a group of friends and they all have a party once a year the cost of alcohol evens out.
I'm not saying it should be a requirement to bring something to a party. I wouldn't make anyone bring anything. But do I think it's rude not to? YES.
Charging admission is absurd...that's something you do to college freshman when you rent a house and they are living in the dorms. Do you actually pay her to go her parties??
I think if people ask what can they bring it's ok to ask for a case of beer, but if you are throwing a party your are responsible for food and alcohol.
nope- I feel like a biitch sometimes, but I refuse to go to her parties.
Admission is tacky, tacky, tacky.
BYOB I don't mind, as long as you provide something.. We usually bring our own drinks when we go to a party, anyway. I hate drinking other people's beer!
Yeah, that's tacky too (getting wasted at a party).
I agree with other posters who say that BYOB requirement is tacky, but that you should bring something anyway because it's a nice thing to do.
And admission is ridiculous. Seriously... does she think her parties are that wonderful or what?
Hi! Yeah, it's kind of silly to charge people at your own home for a party where people are bringing gifts. That sounds kind of greedy.
?I guess I can see BYOB to a casual BBQ, but I would NEVER expect people to BYOB or even ask them to. I don't drink (ever) and I always buy beer and drinks for people at my house. ?
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I COMPLETELY agree
Dude, throw a party without alcohol if you want, but don't expect people to stay long! lol
Our friends would revolt.
Well, they're not my style. I understand them to a certain point, though. DH has a large family and they always do pot-lucks. The host/hostess will provide the main course and everyone else will bring the sides and desserts.
However, my BIL and SIL have Halloween parties every year. They make people bring their own drinks AND food to share, and we STILL have to buy costumes. So pretty much they supply the venue. Makes me SO MAD!!!
I can understand maybe bringing your own drinks OR a dish to share, but BOTH??? And they own a home and are married (obviously) and pushing 30. They're irresponsible with money, too.
I think if you can't afford to have a party, don't.
No kidding. That would just not fly with our circle.
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Actually, my friends would too. Hahaha! We always provide lots, and lots, and lots of alcohol. But I think we hang out with lushes! Ha!
All I was saying is that if you can't afford to have alcohol, don't have alcohol instead of asking people to bring it. Also, if you put on the invitation that there will be pop, appetizers, and dinner (or whatever), people may be inclined to bring their own booze. There are tactful ways to go about it.